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Party warning from neighbours

249 replies

partyondoon · 25/08/2021 18:22

NC.
Someone who lives on the road at the back of us has posted a note through the doors of the neighbouring properties with a party noise warning on it. It seems nice to warn us of a sleepless night due to their disco marquee scheduled to end around 2am but it also seems a bit like we've told you there's a big party so you can't complain. No one on this road knows them (v small quiet road) so it's quite bemusing to get these notes. Is this a thing to do? ASD adult and dc here and we don't understand party etiquette very well.
Sorry for posting here btw. I do know that it can be frowned up.

OP posts:
FindingMeno · 25/08/2021 20:31

Fair play to anyone having a bit of fun and happiness after the shitty times we've had lately.
And nice to give warning.

sub453 · 25/08/2021 20:32

Another vote for it being the polite thing to do and not unreasonable as a once or twice a year occasion. I always tell my neighbours if we're having a large group of people round out of courtesy. (I've just texted them to apologise that my son's teenage friends are being a bit noisy and a bit sweary).

Personally I'd turn loud music off by 12 but 2 isn't the end of the world as a one off.

SoupDragon · 25/08/2021 20:32

I'm chuckling at all the "hire a hall/pub/whatever" NIMBYs

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/08/2021 20:32

MrsScrubbithatescleaning

Why can’t they hire a room in a pub?

I’d be phoning the police at midnight if they hadn’t finished making a racket by then.“

You would call the police if neighbours had a rare party behind midnight?

Earplugs? I am not a party lover, I am irritated by the dogs two doors down barking most of the day. I would very much appreciate the notice so I could mitigate accordingly.

DerAlteMann · 25/08/2021 20:36

I think it's great 'cos one of the worse things about noisy parties is not knowing when they will end.

Medievalist · 25/08/2021 20:37

Fair play to anyone having a bit of fun and happiness after the shitty times we've had lately.

Yes - and sod everyone else?

The complete lack of empathy from some posters is astounding.

TurquoiseDragon · 25/08/2021 20:38

@SoupDragon

Are people really unable to tolerate a single 2am party?
My brother would certainly be unable to tolerate it. He gets up at 4am for work every morning. His days off are mid week, as he works every weekend, and most parties are Fridays and Saturdays, when he'd be working the next morning.
LadyPoison · 25/08/2021 20:39

I'd be fuming, note or no note.

I'd get 3 hours sleep that night as I'm up at 5 with the animals.

MayLeaveADentInYourSofa · 25/08/2021 20:39

Assuming its a one off then it is polite that they told you.

Where I live people often let the neighbours know even if it is a day time gathering, to warn of extra cars parked on the street. It is good to give a heads up.

lazyarse123 · 25/08/2021 20:43

Loving all the pp who think it's ok because it's just one night.
We had this last weekend two households, one opposite who started at 11am until midnight with music so loud we could only hear the bass and not the actual songs and the accompanying shouts and screams.
Then next door had a party from about 5 with lots of shouting until midnight when they put their music on so loud our windows were rattling.
We have 3 adults who work full time who like a bit of peace and quiet plus i had to be up at 5 for work.
Selfish fuckers. It is absolutely possible to enjoy yourself without ruining everyone else's leisure time.

LeafOfTruth · 25/08/2021 20:45

I thought 11pm was the legal limit on loud noise?

CustardySergeant · 25/08/2021 20:50

Why do parties have to be deafening to be enjoyable though? I just don't get it. Can't they enjoy themselves with music at a normal level? At least they'd be able to speak to each other and be heard then.

icedcoffees · 25/08/2021 20:56

@SoupDragon

I'm chuckling at all the "hire a hall/pub/whatever" NIMBYs
Hmm

Yeah, people should just do whatever the fuck they want - sod everyone else who might be sleeping or who may need to be up early for work.

Why do you need to have deafening music playing until 2am to have fun, anyway?

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/08/2021 20:56

Today 20:39 LadyPoison

I'd be fuming, note or no note.

I'd get 3 hours sleep that night as I'm up at 5 with the animals“

That’s your choice, presumably?

icedcoffees · 25/08/2021 20:57

@LeafOfTruth

I thought 11pm was the legal limit on loud noise?
It is, but on MN it's apparently totally okay to keep your neighbours awake until 2am if you leave them a note [mm]
Puffthemagicdragongoestobed · 25/08/2021 20:58

A friend of ours hosts two amazing parties per year. He just invites the neighbourhood so no one can complain 🤣

Livelovebehappy · 25/08/2021 20:59

What are you expected to do with ‘the warning’. Book yourself into a travel lodge for the night? Buy ear plugs? Basically they’re telling you, not asking, that they’re going to disrupt your peace and sleep for the majority of the night. It’s passive aggressive, and I just don’t see the point of posting a letter through. It’s as if by writing it down that it’s more acceptable.

TheWashingMachine · 25/08/2021 21:01

Our neighbours kids once had a massive party when the mum was away, next morning our kids were tired and grumpy, DD had an epic tantrum, DH literally popped her outside as close to the boundary fence (London terraced house) as possible so they could all hear her when they were hungover.

However they don't do it often there are some others who live behind us, who are the pits and do it regularly, loud music, drunk yelling, fighting, fireworks etc. So inconsiderate, if it is a one off it is OK but otherwise if they start doing it regularly call your local council

Livelovebehappy · 25/08/2021 21:04

@FindingMeno

Fair play to anyone having a bit of fun and happiness after the shitty times we've had lately. And nice to give warning.
What, having fun and happiness at the expense of others? So their right to fun trumps the rights of others to be able to sleep that night? Okay......
1FootInTheRave · 25/08/2021 21:07

Steal your sleeping hours?

Get a grip.

Doodlebug71 · 25/08/2021 21:08

@Medievalist

I personally think loud music past midnight is rude in a quite neighbourhood.

I personally think inflicting loud music on neighbours at any time is totally unacceptable. Hire a venue if you want to have a lot of noise.

"Not after 2am" is completely arbitrary. How does that help the person on shift work who gets off at midnight and wants to roll into bed? Or the person who needs to get up for work at the crack of dawn? Or the person who is very ill and desperately trying to sleep? Or the person trying to settle young children? Or the person who has exams coming up and needs a good night's sleep? Loud music is selfish, annoying and intimidating at any time of day or night.

This, for a start. You keep me awake until 2am or later, and you *will wake up when I do (7am).

Loud music at any time is a nuisance. Wear headphones, or keep it down.

WitchBaby · 25/08/2021 21:10

Still chuckling at stealing your sleeping hours 😂

OrganicAvocado · 25/08/2021 21:12

My neighbours have at least one loud party per week and have no consideration for anyone but themselves. Out in the garden, loud as you like, often until 4am. Be thankful yours are letting you know and that it’s not a regular thing!

Doodlebug71 · 25/08/2021 21:14

@1FootInTheRave

Steal your sleeping hours?

Get a grip.

I have to be awake at 7am. Every day. You keep ,me awake until 2am and I *will make sure you're awake when I have to be.

Don't fuck with someone else's need to sleep.

Doodlebug71 · 25/08/2021 21:15

@WitchBaby

Still chuckling at stealing your sleeping hours 😂
Really? Is this the sort of asshattery that MN supports?
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