CF. DSD, DSDs mum and dog

[Purplewishes]

Currently on mat leave with twins, also have a toddler and DSD13 who stays between 2-4 nights a week depending on what she wants to do.

Have a great relationship with DSD and been in her life since she was 4 and usually have a good relationship with her mum.

DSD has a dog at her mum's, it's a small dog, unsure of the breed, it's yappy and it's not house trained and still pees and shits in the house. (DSD tells me this) I am not a great lover of dogs (traumatic experience when I was younger so please don't let the dog lovers hate me) anyway DSD has been talking a lot recently about her dog and she should bring it to meet the twins (?) Obv met with a laugh and "no chance"

I got a message from her mum a few days ago "Hiya, just a random question, are you a dog person?" To which I replied no. She then messaged back and said "oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one" She has a weekend away with her partner that has been booked for ages (which we obv knew about for childcare for DSD) I messaged her back joking and said no way. A few messages back and forth and she explained that her dog care had fallen through at the last min and she's really stuck.
She said that she either will need to cancel the weekend or that me and DSD would need to travel back and forward to her house twice a day to walk the dog so that would be two half hour round trips. I said no that I would be busy and she Jokingly said it would give me something to do while on mat leave

Also to note DSD will be in school on the Thurs and friday so her mum would be expecting me, the toddler and the twins to all take the journey to walk the dog ourselves.

Spoke to DSD who has been begging me to allow the dog to come and I was starting to feel a bit guilty and was starting to consider it UNTIL she let the cat out of the bag and said her mum had never booked dog care in the first place and had told DSD the dog would always be coming with her to our house.

AIBU to just sit and laugh knowing there's not a fuckin chance in the world I'm doing it now

good, I am glad you are not

She is a CF. That would be a no from me. Plus with twins and toddler you have enough to deal with.

absolute no from me and I have a dog. She is a CF and if you dont say no now that dog will be at your home all the time going forward when she her 'dog care' lets her down

Suggest that she books kennels like most people do..
Do not be bullied...

God no. No is a complete sentence. Well done you for standing your ground

She's even told DSD to ask her dad and try and get him to convince me.
No chance

YANBU. CF for sure!

Total CF! I would send a final message making it unmistakably clear that you will not be sorting the dog!

If you do it this time that dog will be living with you full time before you know it!

Don’t do it, you’ve got enough on your plate and she’s taking advantage massively!

Definitely not!
As pp says don’t be bullied. Or else you’ll be setting a precedent as well.

Literally no fucking way. Cheeky cow. Why’s she bothering you with this and not your husband? I hope he’s on the same page as you.

Her dog, her problem. And tell DSD to stop bloody banging on about it.

Total CF behaviour!! Before you know it, it'll be turning up the 2-4 nights a week your DSD is there too! Stand your ground!

No chance. YANBU at all

@AnneLovesGilbert me and her mum generally get on better than she does with DH so most the organisation for DSD has always went through me. Plus she knows I'm the boss in the house

No and make sure her Dad doesn’t blame you for it!

I am a dog lover and I have looked after other people’s dogs at my house before but no way should you do this, she’s a cheeky cow

Imagine the extra shit you would be dealing with!! Stay strong!!

That's breathtakingly cheeky, stand your ground OP!

Haha! I was like Where's this going?! YANBU!

I agree with @AnneLovesGilbert, let their dad handle the organisation etc.

Make sure that (1) your DH doesn't agree on your behalf and (2) your DSD doesn't simply turn up at your house in carrying the dog (and her mum has left the house when you try to take it back).

Yanbu
If you look after the dog this weekend she’ll only expect you to another time. Can’t Dsd pop back at the weekend and another friend look in on the dog for her Thursday and Friday.

It’s not your responsibility at all.

I’m not a dog person either and I wouldn’t ever look after a dog unless it was an real emergency for someone I actually cared about.

Absolutely no fucking way. Cheeky cow.

Whoaaaa!! CF to a whole new level. Hah! I'd be holding favours back for a while for this one.
Sit back with the popcorn (or whatever you're craving!) and enjoy

@JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue

Make sure that (1) your DH doesn't agree on your behalf and (2) your DSD doesn't simply turn up at your house in carrying the dog (and her mum has left the house when you try to take it back).

Oh god that would be a nightmare!