CF. DSD, DSDs mum and dog

[Purplewishes]

Currently on mat leave with twins, also have a toddler and DSD13 who stays between 2-4 nights a week depending on what she wants to do.

Have a great relationship with DSD and been in her life since she was 4 and usually have a good relationship with her mum.

DSD has a dog at her mum's, it's a small dog, unsure of the breed, it's yappy and it's not house trained and still pees and shits in the house. (DSD tells me this) I am not a great lover of dogs (traumatic experience when I was younger so please don't let the dog lovers hate me) anyway DSD has been talking a lot recently about her dog and she should bring it to meet the twins (?) Obv met with a laugh and "no chance"

I got a message from her mum a few days ago "Hiya, just a random question, are you a dog person?" To which I replied no. She then messaged back and said "oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one" She has a weekend away with her partner that has been booked for ages (which we obv knew about for childcare for DSD) I messaged her back joking and said no way. A few messages back and forth and she explained that her dog care had fallen through at the last min and she's really stuck.
She said that she either will need to cancel the weekend or that me and DSD would need to travel back and forward to her house twice a day to walk the dog so that would be two half hour round trips. I said no that I would be busy and she Jokingly said it would give me something to do while on mat leave

Also to note DSD will be in school on the Thurs and friday so her mum would be expecting me, the toddler and the twins to all take the journey to walk the dog ourselves.

Spoke to DSD who has been begging me to allow the dog to come and I was starting to feel a bit guilty and was starting to consider it UNTIL she let the cat out of the bag and said her mum had never booked dog care in the first place and had told DSD the dog would always be coming with her to our house.

AIBU to just sit and laugh knowing there's not a fuckin chance in the world I'm doing it now

@callmeadoctor I think I had mentioned on a previous post that DH and ex don't get on and they used to argue a lot over pointless things. Where as me and ex do (mostly) get on. Not everyone might get it but works for our dynamics and we are all happy with how it works.

DSD won't be at school that day. She'll come up with some reason - appointment, vague illness, PMT - that sounds valid for DSD being off school but capable of being dropped at your house. Or maybe brought over the evening before. With the dog.

It's not even house broken! Unbelievable cheek!

@JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue

DSD won't be at school that day. She'll come up with some reason - appointment, vague illness, PMT - that sounds valid for DSD being off school but capable of being dropped at your house. Or maybe brought over the evening before. With the dog.

Stopppppp

Surely... SURELY noone is that cheeky?

Fuck. That.

@Purplewishes you are my hero and I am a crazy dog lady!

Surely...SURELY noone is that cheeky? confused

Read your own OP. Someone who says, ‘oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one* when they have lied about having booked dog care really is that cheeky.

If you can be bothered, you could try phoning local kennels: "Great news - I've just spoken to Doggy Hotel and they've got space this weekend."

Nope. I would say no sorry, you can't help with the dog. Extremely cheeky to assume that your ex-partner will look after your dog. You need to say no because you're not comfortable looking after a dog, it's inconvenient for you, you don't want to do it and this lady lied. Do I need to go on?

She should have planned the dog care, a nearby relative or friend.

@Howshouldibehave

Surely...SURELY noone is that cheeky? confused

Read your own OP. Someone who says, ‘oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one* when they have lied about having booked dog care really is that cheeky.

I admit she is cheeky, but if DSD was to turn up on the doorstep on Thursday afternoon with the dog.... Surely that's a new level???

I honestly don't know if DSD would be that brave to do it. But now I'm doubting it and am imagining her trying to explain why there is a dog in her school bag 🤣

The most offensive part is saying it will give you something to do on mat leave like toddler and twins isn’t enough

[quote Purplewishes]@callmeadoctor I think I had mentioned on a previous post that DH and ex don't get on and they used to argue a lot over pointless things. Where as me and ex do (mostly) get on. Not everyone might get it but works for our dynamics and we are all happy with how it works.[/quote]
That obviously works well for you but in this scenario your DH has still left you to "carry the can" involving his dsd.

She is a cf of the highest order. I wouldn't take the dog for a walk pregnant, with twins and a toddler in tow. Her dog, her problem. She might well try to pull a fast one and drop off her dd at the door with the dog but then I would march her right back with it.

If it does turn up, then sell it on Facebook & keep the money (or at least send her the ad)

A dog is like a child - no one should have one unless they care for it. It needs a kennel - do not accept it, if it arrives out it in a kennel and get DH to pay for it

@lanthanum THAT is a great idea.

@callmeadoctor I'm not sure what you mean by carrying the can?

Would you be able to guess which vet she uses?
Worst case scenario you ring the vet for an email copy of vaccination card and drop the ddog and a showing of the card at boarding kennels and walk away.
Or you ring the local council and say you found it. She will have to pay to have it back.

I'd be tempted to send a follow up message along the lines of "i really really will not be responsible for your dog. If it ends up in my hands in any way shape or form this weekend I will be dropping it at the nearest PDSA/RSPCA/Lost and found doggy homeless shelter and you can go deal with it because it is not my responsibility no matter how it ends up in my house."

So glad you said no - fingers crossed there are no unwelcome surprises.
It is unfair to put a dog with children they are not familiar with- especially babies.

I bloody hope not.
But if she is here and she is reading then "hello... I'm still not taking the dog

Omg this has me rolling 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
When my dp son got a dog and he said great he won't come and stay with me now after you getting him that he's 14 by the way the so not the dog lol, and her words sure you can take the dog to urs when he does stay my words not fucking happening in a million years I have 2 dogs and they don't get in to the house he had already said that won't be happening as she won't allow it in to the house sorry. Stick to ur guns if dsd turns up with phone dog Warren's and tell them u found a lost dog and she can phone and collect when she gets home 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@ButtonMoonLoon, do you think the OP is so suggestible she would read this light-hearted remark and actually carry out the suggestion? If she does, I’ll take full responsibility. 👍🏻

What’s your partner saying about it?