AIBU to not look after MIL dog?

[GallowwayGirl88]

My MIL got a dog a few months ago, a beautiful black lab, good for her.

I don’t like dogs (I know…Im the weird one).

Before she decided to get the dog I’d asked her about kennels & dog walkers for when she was on holidays/ when her partner returns to office (he’s been WFH, but will be doing a mix soon). She said that my husband and I would be able to dog sit. Nope. Not happening. I told her that we wouldn’t be dog sitting, ever. Reminded her that DH and I both work full time and wouldn’t be “popping in” to let the dog out for a pee either. I assumed she’d listened, but obviously not.

She’s booked a fri-mon break and we can look after the dog because we “don’t work weekends anyway”. DH told her know, she’s accusing me of being a “selfish bitch”.

AIBU?

No, not know*

She had a cheek even asking.

YANBU. You made it clear before she got the dog and she ignored you.

Stand firm and ignore.

You told her you wouldn't be dog sitting, ever. So she had no right to expect you to. Tell her to get a dog sitter. Why should you have to take the dog because she didn't listen to you?

Well that makes it so much easier to say No. Never. Ever.

Yanbu.

How dare she speak to you / about you like that? I would be expecting a proper apology for that level of rudeness and disrespect.

I don’t think you are selfish, you were very clear when she got the dog.
Plus if this is the first time then it sets a precedent - give in this once and it will be your job forever.
Does she have form for not listening/assuming you will do as she wants if she is nasty enough to you?
Personally, I wouldn’t do a favour for anyone who called me a bitch

Anyone who called me a selfish bitch would certainly never benefit from me doing them favours.

Anyone who called me that wouldn’t be getting anything from me ever!

I think the fact that she called you a bitch has turned off the favour tap for good, tbh.

YANBU stick to your guns

Stand your ground there is no obligation for you to take the dog and you made it clear you wouldn't. If she is calling you names I wouldn't be going out of my way for her or doing any favours going forward.

I have many dogs, love dogs, prefer dogs to people.

But I wouldn't look after a young labrador for anyone. I have looked after several for various neighbours but I won't do that anymore. Quite a lot of work, unsettled as not at home, need exercise, smelly, toileting is challenging as labs do huge poos, etc., before you get onto the obvious "you don't like dogs" therefore why on earth would anyone expect you to look after their dog?

I don't inflict my dogs on non-dog people. Bizarre.

Nope not unreasonable
Hope your dh is on your side

My DPs parents are like this.

It’s just assumed we’ll take a week off work and drive up to theirs to look after the dogs for the week. In fact they book trips at times they know we’ve booked time off work (but haven’t got round to making plans yet, I have to book leave 6-9 months in advance)

I’ve put my foot down. Otherwise it would just keep happening.

They seem to think going to their house in the middle of nowhere and picking up dog shit for a week is a “holiday” for us…

Time to tell it to her straight:
"Mum, I told you before you got the dog that neither DH nor I would be available to dog sit or take the dog for walks. Our position on this hasn't changed since you got the dog. Just so we are really clear here - we will not be looking after your dog while you're on holidays or at any other time either now or in the future. I had hoped that it was clear to you from the start but obviously not so I'm spelling it out for you now. This is your dog, and you are responsible for it. Please contact a local kennel or professional dog sitter/walker as we are not available. Oh, and if you ever call me a selfish bitch again, you will have cut yourself off from me. I expect an apology for that. Failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."

Sorry - start that comment off "MiL" not Mum.

This is one of the cheekiest things I’ve ever heard! MIL could get stuffed if she ever thought she could get another favour out of me either!

Her dog, her problem.

And if anyone called me a bitch I wouldn't speak to them again.

Why can't your husband look after it over the weekend if you don't like dogs?

Very interesting that it was DH who told her no, but somehow you're a selfish bitch! Did she call DH any names too? Selfish dog, presumably?

So DH reiterated that it won't be happening and she calls you names? Leave DH to deal with her. Now and in the future.

@FetchezLaVache

Very interesting that it was DH who told her no, but somehow you're a selfish bitch! Did she call DH any names too? Selfish dog, presumably?

I was wondering this as well!

So Op is a selfish bitch & MIL's own son is...

Blameless because he's obviously being told what to do by Op??

Yeah, I wouldn't be looking after her dog either.

BUT I presume she doesn't look after your kids? Cos tit for tat and all that.