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Have any celebrities gone missing?!

291 replies

RevolvingPivot · 21/08/2021 00:00

No AIBU just posting here as more people use this topic.

I know being famous means you cannot leave your old life and start again like some missing people must.

Some people just vanish though don't they? Taking no money or ID.

Can people just "disappear? I know a lot of these people will have been murdered and no evidence found but how come it hadn't happened to anyone famous.

Had a drink tonight abs I can't really put it into words what I'm trying to say.

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Birthdaybits · 21/08/2021 08:22

@COL1N Duffy actually got really badly raped in a horrible way to hid away while trying to get over it really sad actually as she was an amazing singer

Iimaginethiswillbefun · 21/08/2021 08:26

Shelley Miscavige the wife of the leader of Scientology. No one has seen her in years, and Leah Rimini I think has tried filing out a missing persons report to try and get it looked into.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shelly_Miscavige

IchHabeSiebenFlowers · 21/08/2021 08:29

@HoppingPavlova

A swimming pool was named after a man that drowned!?

Even more hilariously it’s called the ‘Harold Holt Swim Centre’.

It's so gloriously Australian Grin
brokenbiscuitsx · 21/08/2021 08:30

@queenrollo

Banksy is not in a band or anyone remotely famous. He's a completely unassuming middle aged white guy. I'm always amused by how many theories bounce around about who he is though. Neil Buchanan is closer to the mark than any of the other guesses.
Ok Banksy 🤣😉
toopoliticallycorrect · 21/08/2021 08:34

Olivia Newton-John's long time partner went missing. He's never been found.

MrsFin · 21/08/2021 08:39

I bet Prince Andrew would like to go missing.

What about that canoeist couple that were found in Panama? I think he faked his death so his wife could collect the life insurance or something like that.
I think they are in jail now.

iloveeverykindofcat · 21/08/2021 08:43

@FlorenceWintle the accounts conflict a bit, but as best I can work it out they found his own car at a service station near the bridge. He didn't take it the whole way . He appeared to have used his own car to return to his flat in Cardiff briefly then lived in it for a few days, maybe while he made his final decision. The taxi driver said he remembered the guy because he overpaid by a lot and told him to keep the change, I guess because he knew he wouldn't be needing it. Very sad.

Newhorizon21 · 21/08/2021 08:44

@viques

John Stonehouse, an MP who pretended to commit suicide doing a Reggie Perrin, but was caught out.
@viques a reminder that suicide is no longer considered a sin or a crime.

Words have power.

www.irmi.com/articles/expert-commentary/language-matters-committed-suicide

Ellmau · 21/08/2021 09:10

I resume it was to encourage people to learn to swim so they wouldn't drown?

kwiksavenofrillsusername · 21/08/2021 09:19

@HoppingPavlova

Whatserfaces husband in tiger king

Carol. I presumed he was tiger food. There was a huge industrial grinder on her property (that large whole animal like deer were put through I thought), so very easy to get rid of him. I think the police came and checked it but that was a few years after he disappeared so can’t imagine there would be any trace of him left after hundreds of animals went through meanwhile.

They showed the meat grinder in the show and it was tiny. It would have been a ridiculous task to chop him up.

Not shown in Tiger King was that he was driving those little planes for drug cartels. He probably pissed one of them off and was never seen again.

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/08/2021 09:32

@Newhorizon21
I do not consider committing suicide to mean a sin in the eyes of God. This is now divorced from the original meaning rather like the vulgar word buggery was used to denote a crime and punishable sin. In origin this was a synonym for heresy.

Term still very much in use www.verywellmind.com/why-do-people-commit-suicide-1067515.

ChipButties · 21/08/2021 09:41

@SafeMove

Avril Lavigne is meant to have gone missing and been replaced to carry on making the music people money. Don't go down the rabbit hole and Google it. You will never get that time back...
And Paul McCartney!

The guy from Weezer went missing years ago. They found him days later up a tree absolutely off his face.

ChipButties · 21/08/2021 09:43

@thedevilinablackdress

Neil Buchanan must be 64 - is he still zipping around doing those Banksy paintings?

Since most 64 year olds still work and live relatively active lives, I don't see why not.

This is an Art Attack, this is an Art Attack - this is…ART ATTACK!

Buchanan is far to straight laced to be Banksy, bless his wee cottons.

QueenPeary · 21/08/2021 09:53

Banksy is not in a band or anyone remotely famous. He's a completely unassuming middle aged white guy. I'm always amused by how many theories bounce around about who he is though.
Neil Buchanan is closer to the mark than any of the other guesses.

Is it Mr Maker?

viques · 21/08/2021 09:54

@Newhorizon21

Thanks, an interesting article. I hope this is not an issue that has affected you personally.

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/08/2021 10:01

FightingtheFoo

A swimming pool was named after a man that drowned!? confused“

Thought it was just me. Does feel very inappropriate.

ThelmaDinkley · 21/08/2021 10:09

There’s a theory Banksy is Jamie Hewlett of Gorillaz. Links to Companies House co reg details etc.

Newhorizon21 · 21/08/2021 10:11

[quote Mummyoflittledragon]@Newhorizon21
I do not consider committing suicide to mean a sin in the eyes of God. This is now divorced from the original meaning rather like the vulgar word buggery was used to denote a crime and punishable sin. In origin this was a synonym for heresy.

Term still very much in use www.verywellmind.com/why-do-people-commit-suicide-1067515.[/quote]
@Mummyoflittledragon The terminology may still be in use, but it is out of date & carries with it stigma & powerful, unhelpful associations. The dated, continued use of the words 'commit' & 'committed' in relation to suicide imply a crime, or to some people, a sin.

I have attached an image (from my original linked article) which suggests other ways of saying this, e.g., 'died by/from suicide'. I have included an excerpt from this article which discusses, better than I can, why our choice of words is important.

Thank you for the verywellmind link, I have emailed this organisation & asked that the author, Nancy Schimelpfening, is contacted with my feedback, the author is the administrator for a non-profit depression support group, her words have the potential to reach & impact, positively or negatively, many people. I hope to make it more positive.

@RevolvingPivot apologies for hogging your thread with this, it is important. I won't post, here, about this again.

"The Power of Words
Language matters when discussing issues of suicide; language reflects our attitudes and influences our attitudes and the attitudes of others. Words have power; words matter. The language we choose is an indicator of social injustice and has the power to shape our ideas and feelings in very insidious ways.

Phrases To Describe Suicide
For example, the phrase "committed suicide" is frowned on because it harks back to an era when suicide was considered a sin or a crime. Think about the times when we use the word "commit": "commit adultery" or "commit murder." Similarly, "successful suicide" or "unsuccessful attempt" are considered poor choices because they connote an achievement or something positive even though they result in tragic outcomes.

Taken from the article link I posted sbove
Putting People First
Likewise, using "suicide" as a noun to describe a person ("the suicide was wheeled into the morgue") is considered dehumanizing and reductionist. When we identify a person solely by his or her mental illness ("He is bipolar."), we have diminished that individual's wholeness. We wouldn't say, "He was a heart attack." Instead, we need to define a person by his or her life, not the manner of death, and say, "He was a person who died of suicide; he also loved to play golf, brew beer, and climb mountains." Or: "She is a teacher, writer, and animal lover who lives with a bipolar condition." So, let's put people first and focus on their resilience. Instead of "suicide attempter," we can say "they are a person who has lived through a suicide attempt."

The litmus test for talking about suicide is to substitute the word "cancer" for the word "suicide" to see if the sentence still makes sense or if it has a negative connotation. We wouldn't say "committed cancer" or "successful cancer"—we would simply say "cancer death" or "died of cancer." Thus, when it comes to suicide, we should say "suicide death" or "died of suicide."

We should also be wary of assuming intent when we use the phrases "cry for help" or "suicide gesture." This line of thinking can be a slippery slope. Instead of dismissing these suicidal behaviors as not serious, we should lean in and better understand what function they are serving in a person's life. Perhaps, we can get that need met in another way."

Have any celebrities gone missing?!
Ijustknowitstimetogo · 21/08/2021 10:30

Yes op I sometimes wonder about this. Not ‘known mysteries’ where people are known to have gone missing, but people who were on tv and then appear to have never been heard of again.

One is Barbara Kellerman who played the white witch in the BBC’s The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe in the 80s. There is no trace of her anywhere.

MyShoelaceIsUndone · 21/08/2021 10:35

Olivia Newton John!s long term partner disappeared,

EishetChayil · 21/08/2021 10:36

@Newhorizon21 Thank you for this, and for your efforts to ensure that the language around suicide is more sensitive.

PatsyJStone · 21/08/2021 10:43

Think Olivia Newton-Johns partner was finally located in Mexico.

BalloonSlayer · 21/08/2021 10:48

I assume the swimming pool named after Harold Holt is trying to send the message:
"Don't swim in the sea, swim in a pool where it's safer, and here's a reminder as to why."

Cattenberg · 21/08/2021 10:59

@MyOtherProfile

Saint Exupery was never found.
True, but his ID bracelet and part of his aeroplane were found a few years ago.
Balgoresboy · 21/08/2021 11:00

Olivia Newton John's husband did I recall and was presumed dead but showed up in another country.

Margot kidder,aka lois lane from 70s-80s Superman had a mental breakdown of bipolar and was found living homeless on the streets of LA.