To think this is really bad form?

[Window1]

My friend has gone abroad for a long weekend with a group of other friends.

The hosting accommodation had offered them a few extra days at a reduced cost due to last minute availability.

My friend is the only one that cannot afford to do this both in time and money.

All the others are talking about how they are all up for staying on, seemingly only concerned with themselves and not any regard for my friend and the fact that her transport is with them so would have to make entirely new and additional cost arrangements to get home alone.

That's bad form isn't it? I would have expected an all for one type situation where either they all stay, or they all go.

So even if she could get back to the transport she couldn't get on it as she would be a foot passager & not in a car?

@IntermittentParps

Hmm well I guess on the flip side why should they miss out because of your friend? They're not 'missing out'; they're on the holiday they planned and expected. It would be a bonus to stay longer, yes, but that's not the same thing.

I also don't understand why people travel with no extra money on them in case of emergencies or unexpected situations. If you can just barely afford to travel and rely a lot on others to make your travel plans happen, I wouldn't say you can actually afford to travel.
It's not just money, is it, it's time/work.

I think it's poor form considering there's no easy way around it transport-wise. It'd be kinder for them not to be discussing it and making your friend feel like she's the spanner in the works.

I agree with this.

They need to find a solution, and assist her in making sure she can get home.

Would be great if someone could get out there & bring her back in one of the cars...

cant your mate tell them that this has really put her in a pickle in terms of transport if they all stay on.

@LynetteScavo

It's bad form of them not to drive her to the airport and back if they want to stay (and ask her to pay for the petrol). That's what real friends would do.

Real friends wouldn’t, after car sharing and a ferry journey she has a return ticket for, extend their holiday leaving a friend to shell out extra money to get home.

Shitty behaviour op.

Wimo I completely agree. Really, really poor form in my opinion ☹️

"Real friends wouldn’t, after car sharing and a ferry journey she has a return ticket for, extend their holiday leaving a friend to shell out extra money to get home.

Shitty behaviour op."

"Real friends wouldn’t, after car sharing and a ferry journey she has a return ticket for, extend their holiday leaving a friend to shell out extra money to get home."

I agree-can those who want to stay even rebook the ferry?

Shame that she's the only one who needs to get back for work.

But even so, you'd think that someone else would "suck it up" & go with her.

I suspect your friendships over anyway. If you all go, they’re going to be pissed off at you. If not, you’re going to be annoyed with them.

I’d try and find a way to stay - will they cover your share?

Oh and learn to bloody drive!

I don’t really think it is bad form

It’s not like they asked to stay on for longer - they’ve unexpectedly been offered the opportunity to do so and the majority can and want to

The odd one out is the one who can’t stay but it seems unfair on the others to have to leave because of her

Even if she could drive, that would leave the rest of them with one car, so doubtless they would stop her taking it somehow.

"The odd one out is the one who can’t stay but it seems unfair on the others to have to leave because of her"

Sometimes as an adult there are obligations that mean we can't always do as we want.

She certainly has picked a bunch of selfish fuckers as "friends"

Sometimes as an adult there are obligations that mean we can't always do as we want.

Which equally applies to the person who would have to find alternative way home if the others stayed

I would expect her to say this doesn't work for her and she had planned the trip expenses wise based on what the outlay has already been.

They should be paying for her to get back!

Is it your daughter?

I'd be annoyed. But then I wouldn't want to miss out on extra, cheap/free holiday days just because one person needed to get back.

I think the idea of everyone else chipping in towards travel (and refunding half of any previous paid petrol money) is a good idea.

@Butterflyfluff

Sometimes as an adult there are obligations that mean we can't always do as we want.

Which equally applies to the person who would have to find alternative way home if the others stayed

I'm sure she is trying to find an alternative way home though.

As it is though, the agreed holiday has been taken so no one will have lost out.

Yes I think it's bad form.

The holiday was booked under agreed parameters.

The assumption that everyone can change those last minute is unfair.

I can understand why some people want to stay and experience a "cheap" extended holiday but that shouldn't be at the cost of one member of the party shelling out additional money to get home.

I think they either need to all come home, or those who want to stay, club together to pay for alternative transportation for the person who needs to leave.

Can you send your friend some money for her travel?

@aerosocks

Just goes to show that people really do look after Number One.

Yes I agree, it makes me a bit sad to be honest. I wonder how they’d feel if the boot was on the other foot?

It’s when you know you’re one of the quieter ones on the periphery of the friendship group who no one really gives a stuff about, whereas if it was one of the other more popular or louder ones they’d all decide to leave together. Hurtful.

@NotYourCupOfTea

Hmm well I guess on the flip side why should they miss out because of your friend you? If transport is all together she can ask them to take and drop her off surely)

Because they went for a set number of days and people have jobs to get back to, maybe? I would never take an extra 3 days off in case my travel companions decide to stay on longer when we agreed to a 4 day weekend away, for example. Why the fuck would such an idea even cross my mind? Such madness.

If I had gone away with friends, sharing the car and ferry costs I would, at the very least expect them to refund my part of the return journey.

She is not being unreasonable, it's shitty behaviour to ignore the implication for everyone in the group.

@aerosocks

Just goes to show that people really do look after Number One.

So true.

She needs to get back for work, even if could get to the ferry can't go on it as now a foot passanger!

It's not as if she doesn't ave good reason.

Can't help thinking she'll end up staying & finding the funds somehow-plus hoping that she keeps her job!

One car is coming back and one car will be staying on.

@Window1

One car is coming back and one car will be staying on.

What’s the issue then?

If they want to stay on, they should pay for your friends travel home.
Its not always about money though, I'm assumkng she's got to get back to work and can't afford to use any more holiday or have unpaid holiday.

* One car is coming back and one car will be staying on.*

^What exactly is the issue here then?