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AIBU to think liking pictures of half naked/bikini models is cheating?

154 replies

crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:27

Or at least shady behaviour? My sister is in a newish relationship of about 6 months and they briefly split due to trust issues and she finds it hard to stand up for herself. I don't want to say anything if it isn't that big a deal, but its almost every bikini model or half naked influencer's pictures that he likes and type of people he follows. And it leaves a bad taste in my mouth because the last thing I want is the person I care about to get hurt. She doesn't know he does this as she doesn't have social media but I follow him on Instagram and I don't really want to get involved. WWYD? Or is it harmless?

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NotYourCupOfTea · 16/08/2021 14:28

Right… Confused

Original poster
crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:29

@NotYourCupOfTea

Right… Confused
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Crowtooyo · 16/08/2021 14:30

So he likes photos on a public social media and you think it classes as cheating ? I disagree.

Nicknacky · 16/08/2021 14:31

How do you even know this?

DriftGames · 16/08/2021 14:31

It's not cheating. It may make your sister feel upset but I think it's just men being men, especially with influencers and models. If, for example, it was girls he knew or ex partners then I'd maybe say it was crossing some sort of line but not in this context. I think there will be varied views here.

goodwinter · 16/08/2021 14:32

Of course it's not cheating. I think it's pretty cringey behaviour though and not something I would put up with.

ChiefAdjusterOfRubensShorts · 16/08/2021 14:33

@Crowtooyo

So he likes photos on a public social media and you think it classes as cheating ? I disagree.
Absolutely not cheating is it?
pinkcircustop · 16/08/2021 14:33

YABU. Of course it’s not cheating Confused

There’s nothing wrong with liking attractive people. Everyone does - even people in relationships.

DogFoodPie · 16/08/2021 14:34

It's nowhere near to cheating, it's not even as bad as looking at porn. OK you might not think it's all that respectful to women, but there are plenty of women looking at their favourite stars with their shirt off.

Iusedtobesoooomuchfun · 16/08/2021 14:34

What do these girls/women want from posting these pictures online, publicly, so everyone can see them? They want to be looked at and admired. Told they're beautiful/sexy/gorgeous. To feel good about themselves because people are enjoying their half naked bodies.

If they didn't want men looking at their half naked bodies they wouldn't post them.

We all know why they do it and Why people look! It's not cheating. It's looking.

LeonieSims · 16/08/2021 14:34

I wouldn't want to be with someone like that personally.

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crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:34

@Nicknacky

How do you even know this?
I follow a lot of influencers and popular models and I guess he does too, because on Instagram it shows when someone who you follow ( and vice versa) has liked the picture. And he seems to like every one. I don't trust him at all based on his and my sisters trust issue problems and so I checked who he follows, and its all practically half naked women/models.
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Hemingwaycat · 16/08/2021 14:35

Is she going out with Jack Grealish by any chance?

It isn’t cheating but it leaves a rather bad taste in the mouth. I wouldn’t ‘like’ photos of scantily clad men out of respect for my DH and would expect the same behaviour from him.

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 14:35

How do you know this?

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 14:36

@crazymicrowave123 so you follow a lot of half naked women and models and think it's off that he does too.

I mean I wouldn't like it but I don't think it's cheating. Its up to your sister.

vincettenoir · 16/08/2021 14:37

Don’t get involved

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/08/2021 14:38

[quote StarDrawers]@crazymicrowave123 so you follow a lot of half naked women and models and think it's off that he does too.

I mean I wouldn't like it but I don't think it's cheating. Its up to your sister.[/quote]
Saved me typing that...

Original poster
crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:38

Ok maybe cheating is the wrong words to use, but I still think it's shady behaviour and if I was her I wouldn't like it. She hardly uses social media apart from the odd FB post so she would be none the wiser, which I think he knows and why he does it.

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DaisyWaldron · 16/08/2021 14:39

Does that mean that every woman I know who is in a relationship who has shared that clip of Tom Holland on Lip Sync Battle has been unfaithful?

SprayedWithDettol · 16/08/2021 14:39

So when I watched the men’s swimming at the Olympics was I cheating? They are in similar stages of undress.

pinkcircustop · 16/08/2021 14:41

You do realise that your partner (or any future partners you’ll have if you don’t have one now) will look at other women, don’t you?

It’s okay to admire attractive people. That’s not being shady - that’s just being human.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/08/2021 14:41

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AIBU to think liking pictures of half naked/bikini models is cheating?
Original poster
crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:42

@SchrodingersImmigrant

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Had no idea we could post GIFS?? my mind is blown!
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SchrodingersImmigrant · 16/08/2021 14:43

😁

LemonPeonies · 16/08/2021 14:43

I follow and like good looking guys pics on social media but I'm not fucking them so I'm not cheating Confused