AIBU to think liking pictures of half naked/bikini models is cheating?

[crazymicrowave123]

Or at least shady behaviour? My sister is in a newish relationship of about 6 months and they briefly split due to trust issues and she finds it hard to stand up for herself. I don't want to say anything if it isn't that big a deal, but its almost every bikini model or half naked influencer's pictures that he likes and type of people he follows. And it leaves a bad taste in my mouth because the last thing I want is the person I care about to get hurt. She doesn't know he does this as she doesn't have social media but I follow him on Instagram and I don't really want to get involved. WWYD? Or is it harmless?

I would not call it cheating but a red flag. Sees women as purely objects, a sign of misogyny, so not harmless.

@newnortherner111

I would not call it cheating but a red flag. Sees women as purely objects, a sign of misogyny, so not harmless.

So does OP since she is following them 😁

For me, it would be more the quantity described seeming weird and a potential red flag.

Following some people in an area of interest that happen to be attractive & having genuine reactions is one thing.

Following dozen+ people just for aesthetic/hotness and scattergunning likes and certain types of remarks focusing on looks is another kettle of fish and can come across like someone is shopping, whatever their relationship status

I do follow a few weightlifters who get those types of remarks from some mostly blokes who've no interest in lifting - it's obviously all the look they're following for and following loads for a particular look isn't my thing and I wouldn't feel compatible with someone who did that.

@newnortherner111

I would not call it cheating but a red flag. Sees women as purely objects, a sign of misogyny, so not harmless.

Why do you say that?

If these women put their half naked pictures up on the Internet for everyone to look at. Why does it make people who look at them misogynistic? Why are they there in the first place?surely because these women want to be admired and looked at?

@pinkcircustop

I am sure he hides from her

She doesn’t have an Instagram, he isn’t hiding anything

As in, he doesn't do it in front of her. He does it in secret.

I think you are right to be concerned OP

Op are you single? Envious she’s in a relationship?

How is he doing it in secret? Does she not know he has an Instagram?

Or is he supposed to tell her everything/everyone he likes and follows on all social media?

I shared a naked pic of Robbie Williams and wrote yum while with dh. He didn't say I was cheating lol.

As in, he doesn't do it in front of her. He does it in secret
It would be worse if it did it in front of her imo.

@DogFoodPie

It's nowhere near to cheating, it's not even as bad as looking at porn. OK you might not think it's all that respectful to women, but there are plenty of women looking at their favourite stars with their shirt off.

Jason Mamoa, Dwayne Johnson, Chris and Liam Hemsworth. To name a few. Definitely not cheating. If he was chatting or flirting I would think differently.

Er no… not cheating
Not ideal partner behaviour but not cheating

It’s not cheating. I wouldn’t find it acceptable. Everyone has their own boundaries and it crosses mine but it doesn’t make it cheating

To me it's not the following it's the liking etc there's a difference between admiring someone's attractiveness from afar and then acting on it, making it known to them / everyone else - basically expressing an interest when you are in a relationship. Why can't he just look, like of course is only human and everyone does it, but then not act on it?

But cheating - no, shady behaviour that would cross my boundaries - yes

I think it's a grey area on the one hand following say Angelinas or Tom Hardys account & liking a photo is not cheating. A random influencer who posts undressed or sexy shots that you follow & like daily & maybe converse with over insta? I wouldn't tolerate that.

I also hate the narrative oh it's normal for me to look. I'm visual & would happily look at good looking men all day. They don't to post half dressed shots or even use instagram though.

@paepoyrol

I also hate the narrative oh it's normal for me to look. I'm visual & would happily look at good looking men all day. They don't to post half dressed shots or even use instagram though.

Of course good looking men post half naked shots to Instagram 😂 If you think they don’t you haven’t been using it properly.

WTF?! Am I a lesbian and I don’t know it then? And I’m cheating on my husband by following lots of realllllllyyyyyy fucking stunning women, liking their pictures and posting comments telling them they are fucking hawt?!? Dear lord

It's not cheating but is a bit creepy.

Agree it isn’t cheating. However I don’t think any woman would be happy with their man doing this. I personally wouldn’t get involved unless I had suspicions he was physically doing something unfaithful.

You're more shady coming on here than he is liking pictures.

@Travis1

WTF?! Am I a lesbian and I don’t know it then? And I’m cheating on my husband by following lots of realllllllyyyyyy fucking stunning women, liking their pictures and posting comments telling them they are fucking hawt?!? Dear lord

This whole comment is incredibly cringe.

Says ‘girlmom’ ok then 🙄

WTF?! Am I a lesbian and I don’t know it then? And I’m cheating on my husband by following lots of realllllllyyyyyy fucking stunning women, liking their pictures and posting comments telling them they are fucking hawt?!? Dear

Are you sexually attracted to them? No? There's your answer then