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AIBU to think liking pictures of half naked/bikini models is cheating?

154 replies

crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 14:27

Or at least shady behaviour? My sister is in a newish relationship of about 6 months and they briefly split due to trust issues and she finds it hard to stand up for herself. I don't want to say anything if it isn't that big a deal, but its almost every bikini model or half naked influencer's pictures that he likes and type of people he follows. And it leaves a bad taste in my mouth because the last thing I want is the person I care about to get hurt. She doesn't know he does this as she doesn't have social media but I follow him on Instagram and I don't really want to get involved. WWYD? Or is it harmless?

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LeonieSims · 16/08/2021 15:05

So looking is fine but interacting with the photo in any way is cheating? Looking doesn't broadcast your attraction publicly, does it? Like how if I saw a fit bloke when out with my partner, I wouldn't wink at him.

LeonieSims · 16/08/2021 15:06

I also didn't say it was cheating. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that though.

WorraLiberty · 16/08/2021 15:06

Bikini models, women in their lingerie and social media influencers in bikinis

Right so women in bikinis and lingerie.

You've never clicked 'like' on a photo of a bloke in just a pair of shorts?

Bluntness100 · 16/08/2021 15:06

I won’t lie this is a bit odd op. You sound obsessed. This guy is doing nothing wrong, stop stalking him

Outbutnotoutout · 16/08/2021 15:06

@DriftGames

It's not cheating. It may make your sister feel upset but I think it's just men being men, especially with influencers and models. If, for example, it was girls he knew or ex partners then I'd maybe say it was crossing some sort of line but not in this context. I think there will be varied views here.
What do you mean by "just men being men"

Men being sleazy wankers by any chance?

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 15:06

@LeonieSims

So looking is fine but interacting with the photo in any way is cheating? Looking doesn't broadcast your attraction publicly, does it? Like how if I saw a fit bloke when out with my partner, I wouldn't wink at him.
I wouldn't do that anyway it's a bit weird.
Bluntness100 · 16/08/2021 15:07

Men being sleazy wankers by any chance?

The ops doing it too.

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crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 15:07

@Bluntness100

I won’t lie this is a bit odd op. You sound obsessed. This guy is doing nothing wrong, stop stalking him
Right, asking my opinion on whether something is disrespectful (I admit I shouldn't have used the word cheating) is suddenly an obsession, because I care about the person that it would directly affect? Ok.
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StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 15:08

@LeonieSims

I also didn't say it was cheating. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that though.
No nor would I, but it's not cheating. Sorry it was the OP who said it was.
Bluntness100 · 16/08/2021 15:08

No, because you used the word cheating and then said you’d searched who he followed on social media and then checked out his likes. That’s the odd bit.

LeonieSims · 16/08/2021 15:08

I wouldn't do that anyway it's a bit weird. Liking photos like that is exactly the same to me. It's just the online version of being a bit sleazy.

LeonieSims · 16/08/2021 15:09

Like what is the need to like the pic rather than appreciating it in your head and scrolling past? I don't get it, never will.

Lanique · 16/08/2021 15:09

Obviously this is where all the cool girlfriends hang out. I'm out of place here and clearly very uncool as I wouldn't respect my dh at all if he did this. Grin

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crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 15:09

@StarDrawers you know I mean like as in click 'like' on the picture right?

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MyHairNeedsASnip · 16/08/2021 15:09

It's not cheating, it's probably not nice though. It's one thing to think "I like that half naked photo" in your head and another to press the 🧡 button to show them and other people that you liked it too. But it depends who it is, if it's famous models and that's their job or if it's liking bikini shots of Molly from next door on holiday in Mallorca.

Anonymous48 · 16/08/2021 15:10

I wouldn't say it's cheating, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who follows people on Instagram or whatever just because they're attractive. It sounds incredibly immature and I wouldn't do it either.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 16/08/2021 15:10

Liking such pictures on the internet is not infidelity.
It is creepy though.

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crazymicrowave123 · 16/08/2021 15:11

@Bluntness100 I said I see he has liked every picture that comes up on my own feed, and out of interested looked at his follow list. Cheating is a bit dramatic I admitted that, but its not very nice.

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WorraLiberty · 16/08/2021 15:12

@Lanique

Obviously this is where all the cool girlfriends hang out. I'm out of place here and clearly very uncool as I wouldn't respect my dh at all if he did this. Grin
🙄🙄 Cool girlfriends again

Took a while but of course it had to happen at some point...

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 15:13

[quote crazymicrowave123]@StarDrawers you know I mean like as in click 'like' on the picture right?[/quote]
Yes. Liking is better than saving it for later.

WorraLiberty · 16/08/2021 15:13

When you're in a relationship yourself OP, are you still as invested in your sister's?

Lanique · 16/08/2021 15:14

I'm entitled to think that reading this thread is making me feel particularly uncool Worra.

StarDrawers · 16/08/2021 15:14

[quote crazymicrowave123]@Bluntness100 I said I see he has liked every picture that comes up on my own feed, and out of interested looked at his follow list. Cheating is a bit dramatic I admitted that, but its not very nice.[/quote]
Ah I see. Yes I don't think it's particularly nice, I'm a bit of a prude. But it's not cheating, I see you have changed your mind about that now.

Holothane · 16/08/2021 15:15

Crikey you see the photos l00s of them of my crushes, but I’m not cheating (only in my dreams)

Kitfish · 16/08/2021 15:17

At the risk of being very unpopular, I'm with the OP.
But I go with this definition of cheating:
"Anything you wouldn't comfortably do in front of your partner is adultery."

Anyone agree?