Husband huffing over cutting grass

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

He didn't get up til after 10. Fair enough, it's Sunday. Lazed around all morning (as did I, after putting a wash on, which I will hang out). I just asked him to cut the grass - it's a 15 minute job. He huffs and whines, saying 'at some point today I might get a minute to myself.' He's doing it, but I'm pissed off that he clearly thinks I was unreasonable to ask him to get off his arse and do one tiny job. Genuinely don't know if I'm the unreasonable one now?

YANBU.

Can you not cut it yourself? I wouldn't like someone breathing down my neck like that.

@rjacksmiss

Can you not cut it yourself? I wouldn't like someone breathing down my neck like that.

I have hay fever. It makes me ill if I cut it.

I don't think its fair to be nagging someone to do housework according to your personal timetable, on a Sunday.

By all means make the request, once, but really, its not up to you to instruct

I think it all depends how many times you asked him.
Could it of waited till later? Did it need done right now?

That's an afternoon job between nap and another nap😁

How can anyone conclude that the OP ‘instructed according to her timetable’ or was ‘breathing down his neck’?

I hate cutting the grass. I don't know what it is but it is a strong feeling. My DH can't do it as he is disabled so I have to do it. I'd rather vacuum the whole house, strip the beds, wash the bedding and remake the beds, cook a meal and clear up afterwards rather than cut the grass.

Maybe your husband feels like me.

How can anyone conclude that the OP ‘instructed according to her timetable’ or was ‘breathing down his neck’?

People that would probably look for an argument in the middle of an empty desert.

@ancientgran

I hate cutting the grass. I don't know what it is but it is a strong feeling. My DH can't do it as he is disabled so I have to do it. I'd rather vacuum the whole house, strip the beds, wash the bedding and remake the beds, cook a meal and clear up afterwards rather than cut the grass.

Maybe your husband feels like me.

I have this with mopping! Absolutely hate it. Genuinely am thinking of getting a cleaner jsut because I hate it that much. Dh hates it too😂 I would rather scrub toilets in local asda than mop my kitchen! Oddluly, I LOVE hoovering and have 2 hoovers

Depends how you asked him whether YABU or not.
If it was
“Darling, would you mind cutting the grass sometime today?” YANBU
But if it was
“Get off your lazy arse and cut the grass. It’s just fifteen minutes and I want it done before I hang out the washing in twenty minutes.” YABU

You weren’t nagging, you asked once. I don’t think it’s unreasonable.

@SchrodingersImmigrant It is weird isn't it. Mopping isn't a favourite of mine, I prefer to get down on my knees and think I do a better job. As 70 approaches I feel me knees are starting to rebel so I think I am going to have to build a relationship with the mop. I don't hate it the way I hate cutting the grass though.

Maybe everyone has "that job" that they hate. My mother was like it about cleaning the oven which I don't mind at all.

I said 'the grass could do with a cut.' Didn't dictate a time table.

I hate mopping too. And hoovering. I have a cleaner

Ah, then he’s huffing and puffing over nothing. YANBU.

@rjacksmiss

Can you not cut it yourself? I wouldn't like someone breathing down my neck like that.

She's already done the washing, he's done F all. Do everything women, EVERYTHING!

@chocolatesaltyballs22

I said 'the grass could do with a cut.' Didn't dictate a time table.

I hate mopping too. And hoovering. I have a cleaner

Maybe he thought you were hinting he should do it when he prefers to be asked outright?

@chocolatesaltyballs22

I said 'the grass could do with a cut.' Didn't dictate a time table.

I hate mopping too. And hoovering. I have a cleaner

If my DH said "The carpet could do with vacuuming", I'd look up over my glasses and agree...before going straight back to Mumsnetting 😂

@chocolatesaltyballs22

I said 'the grass could do with a cut.' Didn't dictate a time table.

I hate mopping too. And hoovering. I have a cleaner

That's bit🙈 "Yeah it could" and ignore

Fair enough, I will re-word my request to be more direct next time!

Oh dear. I am long divorced, but my husband just hated being asked (told?) to do anything. And in fact, why the heck can they not see for themselves if something needs doing?
These are the times when I think there should be some kind of manual - or mission statement for these fundamental chores and the kind of life you bth/all want to have. Draw it up together at the start, and amend as necessary. Getting all the basic stuff done and out of the way means it's easier to relax/have fun/partake of activities of choice separately or together - without anyone needing to "nag" anyone (i.e. asking more than once....) - and I'm sorry to say, it is usually the female of the partnership.
I hated that aspect of being married - and we were polar opposites. In the end I just felt as though I was his mother, or teacher.

Jesus what a bloody man child.

@DumbestBlonde you make a fair point. Why the hell couldn't he see it needed doing? I swear to god it would be 6ft high before he thought to do it off his own initiative!

What do you get out of your marriage? There can’t be anything more of a turn off than having to ask your partner to do something that obviously needs doing.

YABU… it can wait until later