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To say yes, I am a part of this village?

279 replies

draghimtothemits · 15/08/2021 07:33

I recently joined the local village FB group having recently moved here.

I asked a question about what local hospital people generally used since it isn't clear which one is the local one.

A few responses there, then a woman asked 'where are you then dear'. I explained I was in one of the new build houses at the back.

The responses are out there! 6 different people falling over themselves to say I'm NOT a part of the village.

One comment said 'that's not x village, that's the outskirts'

I said my address is this very village. He replied 'no, that simply isn't possible' Confused

Another response said 'you're not one of us! You should be banned'. Granted, that comment for a few laughing face reactions, but not a soul has come on to say that yes, I am a part of the village.

AIBU to think I am a part of the village?!

OP posts:
Rachie1973 · 15/08/2021 09:12

Lol. I was a ‘villager’ due to being about 6 generations in. I moved away but when I go back I’m still a ‘villager’.

My exh was never a villager, marrying I didn’t get you a pass. It was far more important to him than me!

I moved away rather than fart at the top of the high street and be told about it when I reached the bottom.

dryasaboner · 15/08/2021 09:13

@Penistoe

Scarecrow competition? Kurtan is that you?
Mind your own business Len. And change your trousers
user1487194234 · 15/08/2021 09:13

There was a lot of objections to new build estate next to where I stay
Not by me
TBF there were genuine concerns eg much increased traffic,pressure on school places
In the 10 years that mine were still at school there didn't seem to be much mixing but that might have improved
Some of it was just built in to who you knew,for example places at Brownies etc ,but definitely a bit of snobbery too
We moved back to the city once the DC finished at school

dryasaboner · 15/08/2021 09:13

Ahh the joys of Royston Vasey

purpletrains · 15/08/2021 09:16

Is it Royston Vasey?

tinselvestsparklepants · 15/08/2021 09:17

Well you're clearly part of the village if you've pissed off one if the village idiots...!

Each village has one or two 'church warden' types. Ignore. I hope you and your family are happy in your new home.

Marmitemarinaded · 15/08/2021 09:18

The friendliest community I have ever lived in?

Central London.

Welcoming of all and sundry. Any and all nationality. No matter how long you’d been there.

The irony is - this village probably sees itself as very friendly and London as the big anonymous smoke

SpiderinaWingMirror · 15/08/2021 09:19

Lol. I posted on ours a question about the park.
One person told me they didn't have a park. It was a recreation ground......
It took me all I had not to reply "oh do fuck off".

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 15/08/2021 09:19

This is why I live in London!

ichundich · 15/08/2021 09:19

What a load of shite and badly disguised racism.

BertramLacey · 15/08/2021 09:20

There's a poster on our village Facebook page who must be late twenties early 30's and always starts her posts 'born and bread in the village'

I'd be tempted to correct her spelling at least.

Some gems from my local FB group include people posting about suspicious men lurking around in a van - they were fish sellers. In fairness the response to the idea that they were foreign and not to be trusted was met with 'I just bought fish off them'. Then there was the argument over the grass in the graveyard during Covid, which really did come down to a competition to see who had the most relatives buried there.

If you want to work out which hospital is local to you, I would ask your GP. Or, have a look at the parish boundaries, district council boundary and county council boundaries and work it out from there.

WorriedWishingWell · 15/08/2021 09:22

I was recently reading the parish council election statements from the candidates for a village near me. Unusually, they had about 15 candidates for 3 vacancies.
So many of them made the main claim of their candidacy that they had lived in the village all their lives, or even better had family in the village going back several generations, but failed to say what they would do about problems in the village or how they would improve it in the future.
Not sure if that got them extra votes or not.

EishetChayil · 15/08/2021 09:22

"This is a local group for local people!"

PinkiOcelot · 15/08/2021 09:23

Wow! Why do you want to be part of the village?! They don’t sound very nice!

ichundich · 15/08/2021 09:24

@ichundich

What a load of shite and badly disguised racism.
MN quote fail. This was meant in response to @Caughtinanet.
Foxyloxy1plus1 · 15/08/2021 09:25

There was plenty of opposition to our development before it was built. Building started about ten years ago and finished this year.

One man, who regards himself as the ‘head of the area’ and decides who can and can’t be part of the FB group, is now campaigning against a nearby proposed development. I don’t know why he can’t see the irony.

Dragon50 · 15/08/2021 09:25

@Marmitemarinaded I’m reading this as synonymous with urban postcode wars.

I guess it’s genteel postcode warfare!

Whammyyammy · 15/08/2021 09:26

After many years of living in different countries or parts of the UK with my husbands job,, we bought a cottage in the village my husband grew up in for 20 years to settle. The next door but one neighbour, who's lived here 5 years, introduced herself and said we would be made welcome but wouldn't be considered villagers for many years!

I jokingly asked her if the fact my husbands was born and gew up here, or any of his many relatives that live and have lived here for over 6 generations could accelerate this application process? She left 🤣

Village life is bonkers

MoreRainThanAnyYet · 15/08/2021 09:26

I’d play it straight, OP. You have, by the sound of it, a seriously disabled child and no time for petty local squabbles.

If you are ok with giving a bit of your personal history, I’d post back, ‘I didn’t mean to start a postcode war! I’ve just moved here and I have a child who needs frequent hospital appointments. Can someone local tell me which hospital is the best option?’

Dragon50 · 15/08/2021 09:27

I’m a city dweller so no skin in this game, but it must be hard for people with limited services seeing how they will be stretched further.

Subbaxeo · 15/08/2021 09:28

@MoreRainThanAnyYet

Make a few comments about dog poo. They’ll soon take you to their hearts.
So, so true!!
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draghimtothemits · 15/08/2021 09:29

@Dragon50

I’m a city dweller so no skin in this game, but it must be hard for people with limited services seeing how they will be stretched further.

Then lucky for them I won't be using their local school, DC needs his special need one.

Won't be using their GP, I managed to get into one a bit further away

Won't be using their playground much either, DC cannot cope in busy areas like that

I do understand it but more people is also part of the reason certain local small businesses don't go out of business in the first place

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 15/08/2021 09:30

These kind of posts remind me why I'd never live in a village. Such cliquey snobby behaviour! Give me my anonymity in my large town any day Grin

AbsolutelyPatsy · 15/08/2021 09:31

pah, litter pick
our village put out a picture of the litter pickers, great, with the tagline that the group was full and they needed no more volunteers!

TheRabbitStoleMyHat · 15/08/2021 09:31

Funnily enough I visited my parents last week and went for a walk with the DC round the village with my DM, and got a tour of all the new houses going up! All have been opposed to, predictably.

Trouble is all the new houses are so big that people with families can’t afford them so they aren’t moving in to the village.

Even though I moved away years ago I’ve still joined the fb page to see what’s going on (surprised I haven’t been kicked out Grin).