To say yes, I am a part of this village?

[draghimtothemits]

I recently joined the local village FB group having recently moved here.

I asked a question about what local hospital people generally used since it isn't clear which one is the local one.

A few responses there, then a woman asked 'where are you then dear'. I explained I was in one of the new build houses at the back.

The responses are out there! 6 different people falling over themselves to say I'm NOT a part of the village.

One comment said 'that's not x village, that's the outskirts'

I said my address is this very village. He replied 'no, that simply isn't possible'

Another response said 'you're not one of us! You should be banned'. Granted, that comment for a few laughing face reactions, but not a soul has come on to say that yes, I am a part of the village.

AIBU to think I am a part of the village?!

Op. It's just a few people, the type that moan on Facebook community sites, not all the villagers. So don't take it to heart. There's a hilarious thread in classics about the local Facebook page. You should have a read , it'll put it all in perspective. Hope you and your little one love your new home.

I live in a village. A train line runs through the middle of it. The other side of the tracks in newer but still has houses 50/60 years old.
When we moved here I called the GP to try and register. There were two and I chose the one on the other, older side of the tracks as parking was ample. The receptionist asked my address and replied, with her best Hyacinth Bucket voice “oh no! We don’t take anyone from that side of the tracks”

I was still laughing when I put the phone down. It’s a bit of a standing joke with DH and I. Especially as he was born on their side of the track.

Just tell them that nowadays you can self identify as anything - so you are self identifying as a bona fide villager.......

Make your own FB group. 'New xx village group'

@Mn753

Lines and lines and lines

Petral?

Some years ago I was havng a conversation with an NDN who reminded me that she had been living here since XX. I told her "I dont care if you remember the dinosaurs. That doesnt give you any more rights than me".

@Mn753

Say you identify as a villager and to question it is hate speech

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If you are not born in The Village you will never be of The Village. This is the unwritten rule in Scotland. You can be tolerated and included but where you take your first breath is vital. Then comes the status within the village. The local authority area versus the traditional home owners. Those who buy their local authority houses (cheaper) will never be equally accepted by those who own their Independent homes (expensive) Particularly if it’s a mining village.
This is an active economic class war and unspoken village rules.

Village life can be cozy if you’re part of the ‘In crowd’ Extremely lonely if you’re on the outskirts.

Clearly NIMBY’s with nothing better to do if that’s your address then you are clearly part of the village, hate people like this, they probably tried for years to stop the development you are living in and failed but they are all probably quite happy to moan about their offspring being pushed out of their village because there’s no “affordable” housing for them there

but they are all probably quite happy to moan about their offspring being pushed out of their village because there’s no “affordable” housing for them there

That's what I never get - these people are the ones who sell their houses to 'incomers'. The houses aren't being stolen. Why don't they sell to their own kids instead? Job done

I grew up,in a village abd lived there for a number of years.My advice to anyone is dont move to one. I now live in a city and im far happier.My social life is better, my neighbours are friendlier. And for single people of any age and im retired they are far better places to live.I wouldnt live in a village again if you paid me.

Your problem sounds very like that of a young Northern girl in my grandmother's very SMALL southern town here in the US. The girl told my grandmother that she accepted that SHE would never be considered from the town, but at least her children would. My grandmother's reply? "Well, let's hope so, but Darlin', just because the cat has kittens in the oven doesn't mean we call the biscuits."

Most very small places, whether "town" or "village," tend to be very insular and somewhat xenophobic. Give them some time. Possibly centuries.

You’re not part of the village - lucky escape!

Where are these weird little villages predominantly? Midlands, North? Everywhere?

I've only ever lived in large City's around the world so am used to all sorts of people and there are many people similar to me. I can't think of anything more hellish than living in one of these funny little villages, my head would just explode with the craziness of it, but I'd have a good laugh with all my firends about it.

@MarmiteyCrumpets

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves - to answer Bakewell - I would just say "joan"

Typical village mentality from people who have lived there a long time.

I know your village. It used to be called Chinview and it has two centres - an inner centre and an outer centre. Members of the inner centre are inward looking and cannot see past their own chins. It is a disease, but they are still the true members of Chinview (Central). Members of the outer centre belong to Chinview Beyond. They require day passes and health questionnaires to enter Chinview Central, as it is a place diseased with an infective chin pandemic.

The question isn’t really ‘am I part of the village?’ It’s ‘do I want to be part of this village?’

The reason I left the village I mainly grew up in and have lived in big cities ever since - couldn't bear the pettiness, snooping, gossiping and judgement attitudes of small minded villagers - nightmare - you will always be a "newcomer" or worse "incomer"

These people are the ones who sell their houses to 'incomers'

Yes, and that's one of those facts "which shall never be mentioned" - a bit like those who insist there's not enough social housing and then buy their own, thus reducing the stock still further

YABVVVVU to admit you live in a new build even though I do too People hate new builds.

But Op they sound like a typical village, I would say you're started your own " not in the village but I am fete." Then stick a scarecrow outside anyway

@nancybotwinbloom

Make your own FB group. 'New xx village group'

Funnily enough someone in your area did just that and there were spies from the "real villagers" on it 😂 - all we are talking about is washing machines and dogs shitting !

I feel your pain. We moved to a small town about 8 miles from where we used to live in April, and committed the heinous crime of buying a new build house. Every time someone local asks where I live I get a real pursed mouth, nasty look or comment.

You are absolutely spot on, that make me laugh so much.

We have a Facebook group for the village and there is a new build estate on the outskirts (it could hardly be anywhere else. It's a bloody village!) Some people like to point out if a poster is from the new build estate but there are plenty of us who don't give a shiny shit about the difference. You ARE part of the village.

We also have a second new housing estate a mile from the village which is still in the parish i.e. pays parish council precept to our parish council. You should see the attempts to argue them out of the parish! Nimbys.