AIBU to think DD isn't fully dressed in leggings & a t-shirt?

[shesellsseacats]

When I ask DD (nearly 9) to get dressed she often comes down in just leggings and a t-shirt, tucked in.

She looks undressed to me.

A t-shirt and leggings are fine for sport, or bed, or for toddlers IMO. Or a long tshirt over leggings is fine too.

But she likes to wear her T-shirt tucked in (which looks lumpy!) She just looks like she forgot to finish getting dressed like that, AIBU?

And AIBU to ask her to put another layer over the leggings? e.g. a skirt or pinafore dress or shorts?

I know it's only a small thing in the scheme of things and I'm inclined to let her get her way if we're just going to the park for a play or something. But I'm curious how others see it?

@isthisareverse

I'm surprised what people wear impact so much on others when they are appropriately covered. Possibly something the impacted person needs to work on?!

nice story, but we are only talking about setting rules for your own children. We all do. Your personal choices might go towards a different direction, but as a parent you still have rules.

We also all have different taste, and "fashion" can mean anything and everything. It cannot come as such a massive shock to realise that your taste is not shared unanimously.

It doesn't mean people care that much, just they can find any outfit very unflattering or unattractive. Big deal.

Ok but that was in response to someone else who seems to genuinely feel impacted by what others wear. You are speaking from your own opinion that you say just covers your own child - not theirs, who clearly stated that people's dress affects or impacts them and others

@liveforsummer. Yes, poster upthread who feels that the whole community is impacted by what others wear.

@MrsSkylerWhite

Biancadelrioisback

T-Shirt and leggings is fine. T-shirt tucked into leggings looks weird, like tucking a top into thick tights. You see all the mounds from the fabric stuffed down the tighter fabric so doesn't look right.
I will occasionally wear a body suit with leggings as they sit over the top well.“

This is an 8 year old.

Yes I am aware...doesn't suddenly make tucking a t-shirt into leggings look any less weird. It's the tucking bit that makes it look so strange, not the combo of clothing.

My dd 9 has started tucking her t shirt into her leggings or shorts must be the new thing !!

Biancadelrioisback

Yes I am aware...doesn't suddenly make tucking a t-shirt into leggings look any less weird. It's the tucking bit that makes it look so strange, not the combo of clothing.“

I suppose most 8 year olds don’t care if people think they look weird. They just want to be comfy. I’m with the 8 year olds.

Yes I am aware...doesn't suddenly make tucking a t-shirt into leggings look any less weird. It's the tucking bit that makes it look so strange, not the combo of clothing.

Why does is matter if another person's clothing choice looks weird- especially an 8 year old girl!

Maybe she thinks what you wear is weird, should you then change what you wear because a stranger doesn't approve?

YABU. Leggings and a t-shirt is fine, and I'd probably still be wearing the same if I hadn't mysteriously got old and fat. (My leggings were never see through, I hasten to add, unlike those of the woman in Waitrose on Saturday who was wearing bright pink shiny pants beneath hers!)

Not so keen on the t-shirt tucked in though. I'd have thought that was a bit uncomfortable. But she's 8, just let her be comfortable.

So let me get this straight, if I go outside in leggings and a t-shirt I am having a negative impact on the community?

My DD’s are 9 and 10 and this is a regular outfit for them. I haven’t been able to get them to wear a dress for about 2 years now. They live in jeans/shorts/leggings and T-shirt’s.

@LaChatte

11yo DD was still wandering round the house in pants at lunchtime so I asked to get dressed. She returned a few minutes later wearing a pair of socks...

I have one of those. When he’s wearing pants, he’s dressed.

@dayslikethese1

So let me get this straight, if I go outside in leggings and a t-shirt I am having a negative impact on the community?

yup, back into your red gown and the hat with the blinkers IMMEDIATELY

@LakieLady

YABU. Leggings and a t-shirt is fine, and I'd probably still be wearing the same if I hadn't mysteriously got old and fat. (My leggings were never see through, I hasten to add, unlike those of the woman in Waitrose on Saturday who was wearing bright pink shiny pants beneath hers!)

Not so keen on the t-shirt tucked in though. I'd have thought that was a bit uncomfortable. But she's 8, just let her be comfortable.

I am old and fat and wear leggings and Seasalt tunics or long sweatshirts :)

I'm about to go shopping in my t shirt and leggings I don't think anyone will assume I forgot to finish dressing.
My girls often wear t shirts and leggings too. I don't understand why it's not being fully dressed..

@isthisareverse

It's adult size, not child size, but you can also buy these shorts

It doesn't mean I have to let my teen daughter wear them, because #fashion. (or maybe with leggings? 😂 )

Those shorts are just a way of telling the world you're not wearing any knickers imo!

That model wouldn't be showing a lot more arse if she was just wearing a thong.

@dayslikethese1

So let me get this straight, if I go outside in leggings and a t-shirt I am having a negative impact on the community?

Apparently so 🤣🤣

Have to say, I do t really take any notice of what people are wearing when I’m out and about unless it’s something really outrageous, I’m sure loads of people wear leggings and a tshirt. My DD’s wore leggings and T-shirt’s at that age, now they are older they wear jogging bottoms, combat trousers or shorts, neither like jeans or dresses. Not sure what a 9 year old is meant to wear?

@ExpressDelivery

Our dress code at work stipulates leggings may be worn in place of hosiery but not in place of trousers

Yes, people did need telling.

I don't think it matters for a 9yo for casual wear though.

Does it also specify the length at which a top becomes a dress?

I can just imagine the conversations that could ensue as to whether an outift is a long top + leggings as trousers or a short dress + leggings as hosiery.

We don't have a dress code at work. To the best of my knowledge, in the 14 years I've been there, the only person who's ever been spoken to about inappropriate clothing was a temp who came to work wearing gauzy, floaty, loose camisole tops that showed her braless tits every time she moved.

@MessOfEyelinerAndSpraypaint

And one last comment - so much of this thread demonstrates the problem at the root of our society (& I'm talking about England only here)... "I", "I", "I". Apparently no-one is looking at anyone else, cares enough about anyone else. So long as "I" am comfortable, who cares about the rest of the people I share my locale with? Is it that I was brought up in a village, then moved to a liberal city, then a place of managed decline? I've travelled into the nooks & crannies of the UK, some of Europe, and further, with work. Clothes send signals. There are regional differences that will see you easily marked as a stranger, & those variants weave their way through the usual tribal dress codes. Our attire sends messages, even if you think you're just slinging on a pair of leggings & a top that doesn't pass the waistband "for ease", the outfit is communicating on your behalf. I dressed my dd in stretchy colourful clothes she could happily scurf all day in. At nursery she wore dresses that were practical but she felt good in, with leggings underneath. No control issues. It's not a need to be stylish as a pp asserted, it's called consideration of your environment. This is another long comment. I've oft said my belief that leggings should be classed as underwear is an unpopular opinion, but wow this thread has rammed home how little people care for their impact beyond their doorstep. Once again, go with grace op!

I await the academic essays on the impact of leggings on society whilst pondering the impact on society of people who spouted nonsense if the scale used their brains on something that was remotely important.

Like potholes.

Yes I am aware...doesn't suddenly make tucking a t-shirt into leggings look any less weird. It's the tucking bit that makes it look so strange, not the combo of clothing.

But any new fashions look weird.
Young men with their baggy jeans barely hanging on their behinds, then a bit later we are all wearing low waisted clothes. Straight leg levi jeans - then the Jeremy Clarkson effect means young people are wearing narrow black jeans with rips. Thongs visible above low waisted jeans *!?? (the worst imv) And so it goes on......

@dayslikethese1

So let me get this straight, if I go outside in leggings and a t-shirt I am having a negative impact on the community?

Yes, before you know it, your neighbours will be reporting you for anti-social behaviour or seeking an injunction forcing you to desist.

If some on here had their way, town centres would have dress codes and checkpoints with security guards checking for compliance. The magistrates courts would be chockablock with people being sentenced for venturing out of doors while committing crimes against taste. Before long, a glimpse of bra strap would be akin to indecent exposure and concert halls would have to keep piano legs covered for the sake of decency ...

There's a PhD in there for somebody somewhere, @RedToothBrush.

Where you in 'I am Victoria'?

*were

Saw this post yesterday,
And when I had a very short train journey decided to look for people wearing t shirt and leggings
Counted 13, all adults

@Ownedbypoppycat

Saw this post yesterday, And when I had a very short train journey decided to look for people wearing t shirt and leggings Counted 13, all adults

How may were tucked in, out of interest?

DS (8) and I tend to end up at church in leggings and t-shirts having come straight from junior parkrun. Fortunately the church community recognises the wider community benefits that we've spent the earlier part of the morning participating/ volunteering in a community event that promotes good physical and mental wellbeing rather than having vapours that we've apparently attended in underwear

Leggings have been normal attire for much of the past 30 years. Some can be a bit thin, but most are perfectly acceptable attire for most every day activities and are practical, comfortable garments.