Men having kids in their 20's

[cloudywater]

I'm asking purely because I'm curious and being a bit nosy but from your experience would you say in today's world is it not that common for men to have children when they are in their 20s. I'm asking because I've noticed a lot of footballers seem to have children when they are young. I'm just wondering from your social circles how common is it for men to have kids before the age of 30?

Not common for women or men in my circles.

As a whole uncommon

My DH was 30 and he was fairly young compared to most of his friends.

Footballers have kids young because (1) they can afford it and (2) they're bogans.

My husband was 27 when our first was born, most of his friends had atleast one while in their 20s.

My friends started younger and their boyfriends were early to mid 20s

I feel normal in our social circles (farmers if it makes a difference) but recently realised my Dh and I are the youngest parents at the school, most are borderline 40. My dd is going into y2 and I'm the youngest mum by atleast 3years (small school so I do know)

Where I grew up it was, yes. Quite often they'd have a child by a few different women by their 20s

My DH was 28 when our oldest was born. I was in my 30’s

My cousins who didn’t go to Uni but went straight out to fairly well paying apprenticeship’s or construction jobs started their families as young men in their 20’s. The ones that went to Uni or got office based jobs tended to be older.

Not bogans, just nice ordinary working class men.

I think it's the norm to father at least one child by 30 in areas I've lived in in the North East, but probably not where I lived before in Bristol.

What is a Bogan?

My dsil was a young 25

About 10% of the men I know have had children in their 20s. Most still haven't in early to mid 30s - I assume more because of money than anything, so maybe that's why footballers do.

Its common for army guys.

@TracyLords

What is a Bogan?

I've never heard of the term "bogan" either. Can someone enlighten us please?

My DP was 41 when he had his first, I was 21.

Footballers can afford to have kids whenever. Men becoming fathers in their 20s is pretty normal in my circle, really it depends who you associate with. Other people won’t know anyone who became a parent before they were 30. My friends/family and I are not bogans

A bogan is an Australian word for an uncultured, boorish person.

Once hailed as the most significant new word coined in Oz!!

Bogan is Australian slang. Boganness is a spectrum, but its broadly someone who is a bit unsophisticated, hasn't been to uni, bit rough.

Most of the men, and women, that I went to secondary school with had children in their twenties.

Where I live now, some men are having children in their late twenties but most are waiting until their early 30s.

I wonder who is fathering all the kids born to women in their twenties?

My husband and both of our sons fathered children in their twenties, with their second DC in their thirties. None are "bogans", all hardworking, family-focused men.

Not common. DH was 29 when DS was born (just shy of his 30th birthday) and was very unusual in our social circle.

I read that footballers are encouraged to marry and have kids young to help keep them on the straight and narrow.

I know several men (Paris) who had their 1st DC aged 27-30. They mostly went on to have 3-4 more

Hirples

It's not just about being family focussed, it's often simply money. Many men (and women) just can't afford a family property or either time off work/childcare to have a child until their thirties.

Isn’t bogan a derogatory work for indigenous Australian people?

I was in my 20’s when I became a Dad, lots of the Dads in our adoption group became Dads in their 20’s, the youngest was 24.

Very common in the families I know. Mid twenties about the average for a first DC in my little world.

I think it also depends how long you feel like you’ve been out there in the ‘adult’ world. I’d imagine footballers would have less to do with school, travel more than average early in life, meet more people than average and probably have less parental input in the teenage years. Rightly or wrongly they may feel like an adult earlier than someone still in education until their twenties, living at home etc.

I’d been living independently, working several jobs, paying my own bills for five years already by the time I was 21.

I’d say many people choose to start a family after 5-10 years of adult independent living. For those who are self sufficient at 16-18 that might mean reaching that point earlier than someone who doesn’t move out of education or their parents home until 24-25.