Aibu to use her ticket

[Ticketchancer]

Name change for this:

My friend and I booked an activity to take our children to back in the spring. (I booked the tickets and she sent me the money for her and her DC). The place doesn’t offer refunds but you can move your tickets to other days if needed- since originally booked it’s been moved (by me calling) twice:
First because she didn’t want to go in bad weather (didn’t bother me especially)
Second because her child wasn’t well

We are due to go tomorrow but she informed me last wk her DCs best friend is having a bday and so she can’t come. She offered to call and move the tickets (we haven’t agreed a date) but hasn’t yet (she has the info)- I really cannot be bothered to reschedule yet again, and at this point I think she’s resigned to losing the tickets as hasn’t been in contact.
Would I be unreasonable to use her ticket for my husband so we go as a family?

Seems fair enough to me.

Just tell her that is what you plan to do as she has not rescheduled.

Not unreasonable , but I'd offer to pay for it

Fine as long as you refund the cost to her and the price hasn't changed. Just say you really want to go now rather than changing again so are sending her the money back to book when/if she wants.

Just send the money back and tell her you’ll do something else together another time

She wanted to reschedule, so it was up to her to rebook it. Text her after the lines have closed asking her what alternative date she booked. Then go if she didn't.

As long as you pay her back, why not?

@FlorenceNightshade

Just send the money back and tell her you’ll do something else together another time

Why should I send the money back?

Because you want to take your husband using her ticket that she paid for ?

Why should I send the money back?

Regardless of whether she should have reorganised, it’s her ticket. You can’t take it upon yourself to reallocate it. What you can do is a) ask if she’s happy to give up her ticket to someone else, b) refund or c) go alone.

Hi X
Just getting ready for the weekend.
Did you call & reschedule in the end?
No, ah well we'll go anyway then.
Wouldn't even mention dh using it and then just go.
If you share the photos on social and she asks then say didn't want to waste the ticket. Let her ask for the money.

You can’t just steal her ticket without paying! She’s happy to rearrange the date herself, so you definitely shouldn’t use it.

Ask first and refund her money.

@MuddyStiletto

Not unreasonable , but I'd offer to pay for it

Me too!

But I guess the OP doesn’t want to.

You need to give her the money because she’s paid for it! You’re not unreasonable to go, you would be unreasonable to steal her ticket to do so.

I don’t think you should use her ticket, just leave her to sort out what she wants to do with it.

That's fine if you pay for it.

If not just give her ticket to her and buy your husband his own one

@Ponoka7

She wanted to reschedule, so it was up to her to rebook it. Text her after the lines have closed asking her what alternative date she booked. Then go if she didn't.

This

Go and refund her for her tickets.

Just use the ticket and refund her the money.
Is it really worth losing a friend over a few pounds?

She offered to call and move the tickets

Why doesn't she then?

Im not sure what the AIBU is here. She can change her date and if your DH wants to tag along with you he can buy his own ticket.

I’m a bit gob smacked actually. You were right to say you were still going with your ticket but her ticket was hers to reschedule if she wanted. I would have told her the same and at the least offered to buy hers off her.

You can’t just assume ownership

You definitely need to pay her if you use her ticket. It’s that simple.

She’s a friend FGS

I can’t comprehend this.

She is not longer coming. You give her money back and take your husband

Don’t be a tight ass
And don’t piss a friendship up the wall by being the aforementioned