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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu to use her ticket

150 replies

Ticketchancer · 13/08/2021 16:40

Name change for this:

My friend and I booked an activity to take our children to back in the spring. (I booked the tickets and she sent me the money for her and her DC). The place doesn’t offer refunds but you can move your tickets to other days if needed- since originally booked it’s been moved (by me calling) twice:
First because she didn’t want to go in bad weather (didn’t bother me especially)
Second because her child wasn’t well

We are due to go tomorrow but she informed me last wk her DCs best friend is having a bday and so she can’t come. She offered to call and move the tickets (we haven’t agreed a date) but hasn’t yet (she has the info)- I really cannot be bothered to reschedule yet again, and at this point I think she’s resigned to losing the tickets as hasn’t been in contact.
Would I be unreasonable to use her ticket for my husband so we go as a family?

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Original poster
Ticketchancer · 13/08/2021 17:40

Gooseberrypies thanks at least u got my rationale lol

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spongedod · 13/08/2021 17:40

@Ticketchancer

Ok so here’s the next question- do I message and say can I buy the adult ticket? I don’t want to pay for her dc ticket as I don’t need it?
It seems strange that she wouldn't have changed the date for her and her DC if this was spoken about a week ago. Phone her and ask what she has done/wants to do
Original poster
Ticketchancer · 13/08/2021 17:41

To clarify all the tickets are on the same booking ref not sure she could split the tickets out- maybe she could

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StarDrawers · 13/08/2021 17:41

@Ticketchancer

Ok so if I go tomorrow without my husband then that’s fine?

I do see the point I guess I’m pissed off because she’s moved it several times and essentially bumped me for better plans. No idea why she didn’t reschedule she had everything to do so.

Yes either go without your husband and say you've used your ticket but if she reschedules her let you know in case you can buy another ticket and go again.

Or.. explain to her your husband really wants to go tomorrow so shall you send her the money and use her ticket or if you don't hear back you'll get him his own ticket and giver hers back to her.

NoSquirrels · 13/08/2021 17:42

@Ticketchancer

Ok so here’s the next question- do I message and say can I buy the adult ticket? I don’t want to pay for her dc ticket as I don’t need it?
I would say

Hey friend, did you move the tickets? If not, DH fancies coming along tomorrow so can we use your ticket? Happy to reimburse you for it.

StarDrawers · 13/08/2021 17:42

@Ticketchancer

To clarify all the tickets are on the same booking ref not sure she could split the tickets out- maybe she could
If you can't split them then use her ticket, say husband really wanted to go and can only do tomorrow. Give her the money and say if she wants to do it again then she can organise it and you'll go again with her.
Madeoftea · 13/08/2021 17:44

If this is like where I work, we only reschedule entire bookings. No splitting tickets and no refunds.

I don't think you are unreasonable to go if she doesn't and not pay her back if she clearly isn't bothered about changing it herself. I would offer to pay for the adult ticket as a good gesture though because it will be used.

AlmostSummer21 · 13/08/2021 17:46

Radical suggestion, I know, but ring her?!

GintyMcGinty · 13/08/2021 17:51

You should offer to pay for her tickets.

Sally872 · 13/08/2021 17:51

You should offer to pay, but she absolutely should not take you up on it. She has cancelled twice and the 3rd time is a very flakey reason. If I were her I would be glad someone else could use the ticket so you had another adult to go with.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/08/2021 17:51

@Herecomesthesun70

I'd message and ask her what date she rearranged for. If she hasn't done it she's lost her ticket now anyway. She might suggest taking someone else anyway
This. But I’d call not text.
Macncheeseballs · 13/08/2021 17:54

Almostsummer- she's probs to busy to answer the phone

lynxca16 · 13/08/2021 17:57

You cannot use her ticket/s without asking and re-reimbursing her the cost.
It really is that simple.

Bogofftosomewherehot · 13/08/2021 17:58

@romdowa

Because you want to take your husband using her ticket that she paid for ?
yep - this. It's not yours to take!
butterpuffed · 13/08/2021 17:59

@AlmostSummer21

Radical suggestion, I know, but ring her?!
Grin
HealthKick2021 · 13/08/2021 17:59

I wouldn't buy her out. She knows there's no refunds, so she'll lose the money. Its her own fault.

Notaroadrunner · 13/08/2021 18:01

Text her to see if she's changed the date. If not then tell her you are going tomorrow regardless and you can buy her adult ticket if she wants as Dh would go with you. I wouldn't be paying for her dc ticket though.

ExpressDelivery · 13/08/2021 18:01

I think you can do that, bu⁰t you need to tell her that's what you plan and reimburse her for the ticket.

Notaroadrunner · 13/08/2021 18:02

@GintyMcGinty

You should offer to pay for her tickets.
Ticket, not tickets. Op will only be using one of them so she shouldn't pay for the spare child's one.
Feedingthebirds1 · 13/08/2021 18:03

Assuming she's lost her booking if she hasn't re-arranged (did she bother to find out what alternative days would suit you?) I'd give her the money back for the adult ticket - presented as 'so you haven't lost all the money - go with DH and don't ever book a joint outing with her again.

If she HAS re-arranged, go on the new date but again no more joint outings.

Samafe · 13/08/2021 18:04

Just call her and chat about it

Tulips15 · 13/08/2021 18:07

@PotteringAlong

You need to give her the money because she’s paid for it! You’re not unreasonable to go, you would be unreasonable to steal her ticket to do so.
yep
cheapskatemum · 13/08/2021 18:07

YANBU, just let her know what you're doing & send her the money.

GemmaRuby · 13/08/2021 18:12

I’m looking forward to next week’s AIBU post from your friend saying you stole her tickets (which it sounds like you’re planning to).

godmum56 · 13/08/2021 18:14

just pay her for the damned ticket!