Do most older men prefer younger women?

[Chippingbird23]

Just wondering as woman what your thoughts are? Do you find it harder to date in 30’s or 40’s or have you found ‘true’ love later in life?

@Enough4me

I agree woman use filters (men use photos that are years old), but the expectation of men jumped out when I went back. I don't think women have the same expectation to be due to be pleased by a man.

Yes i agree with you on this point definitely. So much entitlement from some men. But I was just pointing out that women are dishonest too- they are dishonest about the way they look. Men are prob dishonest about income - both things we don't want to acknowledge when discussing dating dynamics

Well coming on here as a single dad in his 40s, who's kids live with me. I always preferred women around my own age and older. So did a majority of my friends. I just want some one i can relate to and grow with.

Traditionally men are hardwired to look for slim young females ,who would be the best bet for a family. IRL of course many young women would prefer a chap nearer their own age! Wealthy older men always seem to attract pretty younger women it seems .Would Rod ,Mick Jagger and so on be so attractive if they were Dustmen?!

Yes, I think that is true I discovered my not so DH was messaging women of 25-30 on the internet.
He is in his 60's (creep).
I am much younger than him, although clearly not 'young enough'

Whilst it's not universal and there are exceptions that prove the rule I do think that most men age 45+ who find themselves single (post divorce or widowed) or ones who 'played the field' during their 30s and 40s and never settled down do prefer younger women

I disagree. Most of the couples in my circle the woman is older.

Online dating perhaps but a lot of that is scraping the barrel anyway. In real life I dont think most men or woman care that much about age. Not these days.

@TheQueef

I think it mostly depends on naivete. Typically the older we get the higher the bar is and the tolerance for any fuckery lowers. So older men go for inexperienced younger women because they couldn't get anywhere with older, wiser women.

I hadn’t looked at it that way, but your reasoning seems very believable 😃

@Willyoujustbequiet its good to hear you don't see this issue but, while there are a lot of unavailable people on OLD (e.g. cheaters), I don’t think it is fair to say it's always scraping the barrel.

For many OLD is useful as it's difficult to meet singles IRL. I was on OLD for years, now with a partner for over 3 years. Yes I had to block lots of men who offered me dodgy photos, but there were normal singles mixed in thankfully.

I’ve known a lot of men who date much younger women straight after their divorce for a couple of years but then settle with a woman about 5 to 10 years younger than them.

The topless shots (his) from the music festival in Croatia are priceless. Shame I can't share.

It's just basic evolutionary biology, we are hard wired to want to shag women of prime reproductive age, anything else is an evolutionary cul-de-sac. Women have a more complex evolutionary prerogative, both to secure a good genetic partner but also someone to provide and protect long enough for the children to reach maturity. Hence the stereotype of marrying the rich man and cheating with the tennis coach. Whatever your husband or partner might claim in order to make you feel good, he wishes you had the body of a fit 20 year old.

The economics of the sexual marketplace are unavoidable though, most people have a fair judgement of their own market capital and trade accordingly. Some (of both sexes) wildly misjudge this.

Age has not much to do with wisdom in my opinion. Older men also don't want to put up with the shit bitter women give (to flip the coin on some usual responses). A jealous and insecure young woman is likely to turn into a jealous and insecure older woman. The same goes with men. A quietly confident young woman or man is likely not to care about the opinions listed above, and will stay that way through life, grow within themselves, appreciate things and not feel the need to bring others down. These things often
don't change with age. It is a myth that an older man always wants naivete abd easy control when it comes to younger women - because not alll men are arses! It's not a genetic rule for males. A good man may want to be with a good person and later in life they may realise that age really doesn't change whether someone has a good heart or not. Nothing wrong with that is there?

I always get old men messaging me on dating sites. They tell me they like younger women and all the gross reasons why. I tell them future old me is offended and block them.

Also the women who date much older men in their 20s are probably not the most eligible in their age category- these women want hot guys in the 20s0. . Look at Mick Jagger and other old gits who date progressively younger women, the women are progressively less attractive and accomplished than the earlier wives.

Men like younger attractive women. Then look to personality/character.

Women like richer, well dressed, alpha men.
Then look to personality/character.

It's a generalisation but obviously one which holds true a decent percent of the time for a large percentage of people.

Most people are pretty shallow/animalistic when it comes down to it.

I wonder if youth always trumps attractiveness. Or is youth inherently attractive?

All the couples I know are the same age. Many moons ago, Me and DH met when I was in my twenties and he was in his forties. I soon caught up and feel older than him now

I have an older one. 10 years. It didn't seem like much in my 20s, but I'm a little worried about being 50 and having a 60 yr old dh. Or 60, still active,
with a 70 yr old.

Kind of wishing I'd stuck closer to my own age, like my friends have. I can foresee quite a lonely old age.

@CounsellorTroi I have a male friends and acquaintances who have always preferred dating women 10+ years older than themselves. Some are married to older women.

One of them I've known for 20+ years. He can take care of himself and is very house proud as he has taught me how to do some domestic tasks to high standards. He is much happier and more relaxed when he is in a relationship with a partner with that age gap.

I used to be attracted to older men. I’m now mid-30s and the older men I know are typically whingy self-obsessed Lycra types who I couldn’t imagine myself with. Plus “older” now means 50 plus and I can’t imagine having to wipe their ass in the (hopefully distant) future. I wonder how much my changed attitude is linked to my own greater material wealth.

If it's an evolutionary/biological drive in men, how comes so many suffer from ED when they hit middle age?

If it's an evolutionary/biological drive in men, how comes so many suffer from ED when they hit middle age?

My first thought was “To stop their dodgy sperm getting the upper hand” (sorry, hugely unkind) but at a biological level - testosterone decline? I’m not sure.

@Dacquoise

If it's an evolutionary/biological drive in men, how comes so many suffer from ED when they hit middle age?

Dacquoise - I love you. Everything you post has me roaring with laughter!

I'm 50 and more or less only date younger men. That's partly because the available pool of older men is much much smaller though.

My profile was set to 30-45. Very simple, pic in a tux, casual wear and a question, which elicited an answer....
After 2 yrs on bumble/tinder I met someone 12yrs younger. One date and we've never been apart in 2 yrs, house, baby on the way etc..
I chatted to and dated all the age ranges, alot of the older women had grown up children. Mine are still primary age so, I wasn't as available or free to galavant when they wanted.

I think both sexes are deluded on their relative attraction levels.