Rewards for A level results

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My son got his a level results yesterday (got an a, b & c) and I gave him a heartfelt, meaningful gift that cost about £50. He said “so am I not getting three grand?”. I laughed as I thought he was joking but he says that everyone he knows gets this. I didn’t know what to say! I was stunned that this is a thing (£3k is an awful lot of money in my opinion), shocked that he could be so rude, and absolutely gutted that my gift had gone down like a lead balloon. I’d planned a household party for us all (plus their partners) on Friday night with takeaway pizza (this will cost around £150) and a family party on Saturday which I’ve cost caterers for (costing around £300).
Would you give your child £3k just for finishing their a levels?

Ha, no! He’s having you on. Now he’s finished his A levels maybe he can work on not being an entitled wind-up merchant.

Absolutely not. DC1 got too much as I misunderstood something but then all ours got/get £100 for their A levels/GCSE so tell your over exuberant child that no, not everyone gets £3k!

Absolutely not! Is he at an expensive private school where some of the rich kids do this? Definately not the norm round here.

No I gave nothing and don’t know anyone who did.

I got nothing other than ‘well done, darling’ from my very proud and supportive parents. Cannot imagine we’ll do any different than you are!

No. A smaller gift perhaps but not 3k.

Yeah hes either having you on or he has some very wealthy friends!

My mum and dad gave me some money for my GCSE results but I dont think I got anything for my a level results, probably because I only turned 18 a couple of months before and they gave me some money for that.

I'm trying to remember what we gave our DS when he did his A levels but can't remember but it most certainly wasn't £3k! My DS graduated this year with a First and we "only" gave him £500 in premium bonds for that!

I bought a chocolate party cake for us all to share. The reward for doing well is getting to do whatever you wanted to do next eg uni.

I took mine out to lunch. I did feel a bit guilty about not giving money but I'm broke atm

Does he want two family parties?

£3k! I’ve never heard of such a thing.

When my son Graduated from university I gave him a pat on the back and framed his certificate ( to be fair it was last year so everything was on lockdown and generally pants to celebrate in any way) but at best I would have taken him for a meal to anywhere he wanted to go.

Our did get cash incentives for their GCSE and A Levels, although between the 2 of them across all results we didn't get near to £3k

And there has been/will not be any reward for graduating uni, that has cost more than enough already

I got nothing other than ‘well done, darling’ from my very proud and supportive parents. Cannot imagine we’ll do any different than you are!

This 100%!

I gave nothing. Their future not mine!

Nope.
I took him & his gf and ds2 out fir tea last night to celebrate.
Didn't give him any money, and if he'd wanted some he could have got a job this summer.

Your son needs a reality/empathy check. Show him some threads on here about how life is for many people, such as wondering if £55 is enough to feed yourself for a month. He really does not deserve everything nice you have planned for him this weekend.

Ds1 got a card and a meal at his favourite restaurant

I’m a (state) secondary teacher in a nice area. Money for results is 100% a thing for both GCSE’s and A Levels. Normally it’s a set price per grade. As they do fewer A Levels, the amounts tend to be quite high. For example, 1k = A*, 800 = A, 600 = B, 400 = C etc.

Oh and my mum got him a hoodie because he might get cold at university 🙄😅

No gifts given out here.

Just a "Well done, I'm very, very proud of you. You obviously paid some attention during online learning when I thought you were just asleep"

We bought him a car not long ago and he's "taking a year out" with no intention of ever going to university so is earning enough to not want us to buy him anything. I'm certainly not handing over £3K!

I've always been a the "results are the reward" type of parent. None of mine would put more effort in for monetary reward.

I said if my daughter beat my grades I would give her £1k to incentivise her at the beginning of her studies- she never forgot this and beat me!

ds1 got a toblerone! He was perfectly happy with that. He has obviously learnt to have low expectations of his parents.

Not a chance. It was his birthday yesterday so got a bit of cash and bits and bobs plus a party for him and his friends - nothing for passing exams.

Uni is expensive enough without cash handouts. We will get everything he needs for uni and his accommodation is paid for. That is it. He is working for any extras he wants.