To give up my kids?

[rghltifndn]

I’m a single mum of 3.

One a toddler, one with additional needs.

I just cannot cope anymore.

I have no support network.

No family or friends probably because I am a horrible person with mental health issues.

No input from ex.

I fantasise about committing suicide on a daily basis because I can’t cope with how relentless my life is.

I never, ever get a break.

Oldest and youngest have sleep issues so I barely get any sleep.

I can’t go on.

They would be better off without me but l don’t know how to go about doing this.

I read your post just now.

I’m glad you’re getting support and feeling more optimistic. You’re a great mum for seeking help and will get through this with the support you’ll get.

Sending lots of hugs xxx

I’m so glad the ball is rolling. I think you are amazing and brave. Your children are so lucky to have you. Best wishes OP.

Thank you for the update, it’s a relief to hear there is a plan and support to enable you to have some much needed respite. I hope you will one day be able to look upon this dark time and feel incredibly proud of yourself for asking for help, which is something so many of us find difficult to do.
Please continue to update if it helps, there are lots of people who have struggled with mental health here, and really do understand.

Well done OP! You are a fantastic mummy ❤️. I have had support from a family worker and they were brilliant. Thinking of you xx

I'm so glad people have stepped up to support you. It won't solve all your problems overnight but at least you're not facing them alone. Also, be kind to yourself. You don't have to be supermum, good enough is fine

I also highly recommend the SHOUT free 24/7 text support service: giveusashout.org/about-us/about-shout/

Thank you for updating you strong soul. Coming to bed and logged in to check on you before I go to sleep. You did an amazing thing today. You are unreal. I'm so glad to read that something is starting in the way of a plan.

You are a wonderful mother to do this for yourself. Helping yourself helps your kids. More hugs to you lovely. Keep going. I know how hopeless feels, when you feel like you're drowning. Its lovely when a glimmer of hope shines back in. As Dory says...just keep swimming

You're so brave seeking help like this. I'll be thinking of you. Take care xx

You're doing so well, your dc are lucky to have such a strong mother 💖

Buy some melatonin from these people to sort out your kids sleeping. Brains simply cannot function properly when sleep deprived.

@AJGranny

Buy some melatonin from these people to sort out your kids sleeping. Brains simply cannot function properly when sleep deprived.

Melatonin is a short term solution. Also it doesn’t always work- as I know - and it should always be prescribed so this is not great advice

@rghltifndn
So pleased you’ve taken the first step
What we you think and however ground down you feel right now your kids are lucky to have such a devoted mother x

Well done! So glad you found help, especially when it wasn't straightforward. Glad you have a plan and are feeling a little better.

Op keep talking on here if you feel low.
I’m a sleep deprived mother of a disabled child (with a husband who is mostly absent).
It’s dreadful.
Please message me if you feel low again.
I will talk and I do understand.
I hope you get the sleep you need.
And I’m here for more advice of which agencies can help and how to do it, if you need.

Try contacting Gingerbread. They offer advice and support and there's a helpline you can call for advice. www.gingerbread.org.uk/what-we-do/contact-us/helpline/

Just wanted to come on to say how amazing I think the OP has been in seeking help. I live in Belfast and recently here a poor mum was driven to the absolute max and it resulted in a dead 8week old, a 2 ur old in ICU and attempt on her own life. She was turned away 2 weeks ago after asking for help and in a local shop hours before in a terrible state. Op you are educated and making the right choices to get help. I really hope you get some rest and can see how much you matter to those little children as you will be their whole world. You matter, you deserve to be alive

Your update is so good to read OP, even though you were practically at rock bottom you recognised you were really sinking and asked for help before it was too late, and while you still had enough hope that someone would help, and they did! I’m so relieved that you were heard, and there is now a plan in place to make your life more manageable.
Hopefully your story will inspire someone else to take that chance too

OP you have done the right thing and got a plan in place - an amazing achievement.

If by any chance you’re in the Plymouth area then PM me and I’m here for you.

Well done. I'm a single parent of 3 DC and I was admitted under 'voluntary' section in 2019. Life has gotten so much better for me then and I know it can for you. You've done such a brave and amazing thing going to ask for help. I had Early Help and SS involvement too and it didn't affect any other part of my life. I also had community care from a psychiatric nurse- I hope they can get that for you.

Good positive steps. Do contact Homestart as I did know someone who worked for them and one thing they did was have volunteers who would give parents a break.

Have you a local autism charity. Just because you are going through the process doesn’t mean you are excluded from using them (we have an excellent local one a friend uses especially in the holidays so she gets a break). They might be able to help you push for diagnosis quicker.

Ask your school if they can arrange therapy. I have worked HR in schools and I have referred many many teachers to a local company we used. Absolutely no judgment and perfectly a normal thing to do, almost a weekly occurrence. Some for CBT and some for therapy. Your Business Manager will be in some of the holidays so make contact and ask! Don’t pay for it yourself until you have and seen if they can provide, sadly lots of teachers need a bit of support now and then.

@rghltifndn - I'm glad to hear something has been put in place. Keep being honest with those you are working with so you get the right help. Have they looked at your meds?

Just to let you know I had a breakdown a few years ago. I ended up in hospital for a long time. It gave me the space to heal and there is no shame in it. I have now been back taking care of my DC for a year and I'm so glad I was helped before I took my own life. Good luck and take good care of yourself, you truly deserve it

Well done OP you have been incredibly brave.

I had been thinking about you on and off today.

Hope things will get better.

I don't have any advice but just wanted to say that you are not a horrible person - even if you're feeling like that, it's not true. I sympathise and I hope you get a break and some respite soon.

Op you are brave and amazing xx i really wish you and the children all the best, you have done the right thing . I wish I could help in real life I really do x

Very proud of you I hope you start feeling better and things start feeling easier really soon