Breast feeding at 4? AIBU for my comment?

[crazymicrowave123]

I was asked to baby sit for a friend of my parent's over the weekend and her son is 4 years old (and would have been a bit of extra cash which I could do with). She let me know that she still breastfeeds him every morning, once at lunch and before bed, says it is comforting for him and for her and has no plans to stop any time soon and that she will do so at my house before she leaves. He is turning 5 in a a few weeks time, when I told her my family and I thought it was a bit strange to still be breastfeeding at 5 when he is starting school but that I wouldn't object to her doing so before leaving, she then decided to cancel the babysitting and told me I was no longer needed.

She has now decided she no longer wants to keep in touch with our family due to our 'judgemental and disgusting ways' and says I have deeply offended her. Coincidentally I have come across this article online where Ice T is defending his wife Coco who still breast feeds there daughter at 5. So AIBU and should I extend the olive branch and apologise? I wasn't intending to offend just gave my honest opinion and now I feel a bit guilty.

Article: www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-9865267/Ice-T-defends-wife-Coco-Austins-decision-continue-breastfeeding-five-year-old-daughter.html

YABU. How incredibly rude and judgmental.

@thanksforyourcommentrandomman She said she would breastfeed in my house, and when I said that's fine I'd leave until finished she said no need unless it would bother me that she does it in front of me, to which I said it is a bit strange in the first place, which is where the offence started... I am allowed an opinion, but get I should have kept it to myself.

You sound quite young so I'll guess this will be a learning experience in discretion

[quote crazymicrowave123]@Ofnorman, because she wanted to breastfeed in front of me at my house and I said I thought it's a bit strange that she still breast feeds an almost 5 year old? I mean, I'd happily apologise for offending her but not for my opinion...[/quote]
Well, if it was in your house, presumably you would be present, but not having your head dragged round and forced to observe?!

This enrages me. It has F all to do with you how long a mum chooses to breastfeed her son. You were rude and judgemental.
I don't blame your friend

It's none of your business though, just don't say anything.

I don't get why people always feel the need to comment on stuff like this.

@SmallChairs, she told my parents why she wouldn't be coming around any more, and when they said they agreed that it was strange she decided she no longer wants to associate with any of us, I did not announce anything lol

Take it as a lesson that when you are conversing with an employer or potential employer it’s best to smile and nod. Not call them or their habits strange.

Surely you know that telling someone their own choice is a ‘bit strange’ wouldn’t go down well?

no wonder she's blocked you all - I would hate to know that a group of people had been criticising me - you've been judgemental and have told her that you've been gossiping about her.

Agree or disagree with her choices - it's up to you but you don't criticise her to her face. Especially if she is about to pay you.

i don't agree with it but i wouldn't say to someones face, that's just rude.

@Keepitonthedownlow not young at all and have my own child

I wouldn’t pass comment but inside I would be mortified at a four year old being breastfed four times a day.

An anonymous opinion on a forum like this is fine, but to actually say it face to face to someone is a bit .

Have you ever breastfed OP? It doesn’t sound like you have from how insensitive your comments were so I assume you might have bottlefed even if it wasn’t your child. Now imagine she made a comment about how she found bottlefeeding unnatural. It’s the same type of thing. Just apologise.

You could have just said 'its fine' and offered her a place to do it if she wanted somewhere a bit out of the way.

You should have kept your thoughts to yourself. She wasnt asking your opinion.

She didn’t want to breastfeed you. She wanted to feed her kid, a very biologically normal thing to do. YABU.

@Pancakeorcrepe

I wouldn’t pass comment but inside I would be mortified at a four year old being breastfed four times a day.

Why would you be ‘mortified’ at something someone else is doing that doesn’t affect you?

Extremely rude. No wonder people feel judged for breast feeding. Disgraceful comment. Even worse you brought your whole family into it, and now they have lost a friend for no reason other than your utterly judgemental shite you have spouted.

It’s absolutely none of your business and you were rude and judgmental to comment.

The natural weaning age for human children is between 2 and 7 years old. Just because it’s not common doesn’t mean it’s weird.

And why on earth would you tell her that your family thinks it’s strange too?!

You can think whatever you like.

Voicing those thoughts to her is extremely rude.

I might think you're really thick and I'm allowed to think that. It would be rude if I told you though wouldn't it?

I'm not sure why on earth you felt it your place to comment? Very odd.

Surely this falls under the category of, you're not wrong, but you were rude to voice it. I would apologise. Its weird but it's also none of your business.

Just because it is outside of the norm doesn't mean it is weird, or biologically abnormal.