To have had my first quick comeback but now I feel SO guilty!!

[firstquickcomeback]

I'll keep this brief,

We're staying in a hotel, sitting at breakfast and my 5yr old is being a handful (nothing crazy!) just he is very excitable and can be loud at times. Anyway we're all sorted and he's eating nicely and a lady passes our table (early 60's in age I'm guessing) she started talking and then I realized she was talking to me. So I said "pardon" to which she blurted out "he's quite a handful isn't he, I should think you'll be stopping and doing yourself a favour and not having any more!"
Then...without further thought I turned and said "and isn't it a shame your mother didn't stop before having you, she could have done us all a favour before bringing another judgmental person into the world"

Well my husbands jaw dropped! She said "excuse me?" I told her to go away.

The woman on the table across from me said it was the most entertaining thing she had heard all summer and told me she was out of line. BUT now I feel immensely guilty

Should I find her and apologise? WIBU?

I think this is a stealth boast post.
The woman was rude.
Your reply was ott tbh.
She should not have approached you but maybe her version is different to yours.

At 5 DS wouldn't really have taken any of it in. I personally find other peoples noisy kids irritating, but would never say anything as I know mine were the same when younger. It's just kids. So she was in the wrong, and it was a very nasty thing to say, so on balance your response was justified. Don't feel guilty

DO NOT APOLOGIZE! She is vile and deserves your stupendous quick thinking razor wire come back!
On the other hand though please don’t be one of ‘those’ entitled people’ who ignore their kids being a noisy pain in the ass!

@Aprilx

Reading between the lines, your child was being a noisy brat, somebody said something to you and got an earful from you in response. I somehow think I would prefer her as a fellow hotel guest.

Wow, you sound like a barrel of fun to be around...

Well done you. Miserable old bag deserved it

Good for you, no apology required

You were rude
Your kid sounds bratty

That answer was gold! You should enable the vote option on this

Two wrongs don't are a right. What matters most is how you feel not what we say on here. Do what will make you sleep better at night.

@firstquickcomeback
A friend said to me once when I gave a tenner to a stranger, “You did what you were supposed to do.”
”You did what you were supposed to do.”
She was way out of line & deserved straightening out.

@TheYearOfSmallThings

I would feel shitty too, rightly or wrongly. I just don't want to be the sort of person who takes pleasure in saying unpleasant things when a blank stare would suffice.

“A blank stare” would imply that the offensive comments had hit home & that you were too stunned to respond. @firstquickcomeback spoke up for herself and her son - absolutely admirable given this unnecessary situation started by the elder woman.

Omg that is absolute class, don’t feel guilty at all. She is the one who should be feeling guilty and hopefully this will make her think twice before she opens her mouth again.

😂😂 love it!! I can never think of smart come backs for at least 2 hours!

@firstquickcomeback

Why do I feel guilty?

It's not usually like me to talk back like that I suppose 

@Aprilx he wasn't being brat.

I think most here would agree that next holiday, @Aprilx & rude lady absolutely take up April’s idea and vacay together - someplace remote.

I think the reply to the woman was so long that it was probably ineffectual. Half of it would have been enough.

You are my hero

Well done you 👍don't feel guilty, she will think twice before she says nasty stuff like this to other women again 👏👏👏👏

Bravo to you, you stood up to her. Don't feel guilty!

She came over, interrupted your breakfast to tell you how she thought your child's behaviour was so intolerable that a) she felt she had to comment and b) that comment was to not have any more kids? Bravo you for calling her up on it!

For those saying you set a bad example I disagree. The lady was a bully and you calmly reversed her own words against her.
What if you had been struggling ttc? Or just had a miscarriage? Her words would have devastated me at various points in my life.

Her comments were out of order, Stop being immensely guilty be IMMENSELY PROUD. well done !

You could have just told her to mind her own business rather than being as nasty as her. The cheerleading comments are odd.

As Michelle Obama says, when they go low, we go high. You might have felt better if you’d stopped short of insulting the woman and just said that you found the common hurtful and rude.

epic wonderful response :)

And everyone stood up and clapped.