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Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

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FuckingFabulous · 01/08/2021 18:47

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

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AbsolutelyPatsy · 01/08/2021 19:37

what a dreadful person, i hope an Ex friend now op

FreeBritnee · 01/08/2021 19:37

I’d respond to that by blocking her.

Accidentgirlfriend · 01/08/2021 19:40

I would be asking on her post why she didn’t have the balls to tag you in her post seeing as it’s about you !!!

daphnedoo12 · 01/08/2021 19:43

I would remove her from my life

Frazzled2207 · 01/08/2021 19:44

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

I would respond. In public. On the same message she put on. At the time you went to hers no one had anything to indicate covid. And I'd make a point of calling her out on her putting this on Facebook too.
Yes this. I wouldn’t be friends with her anymore either. Though if your kids are friends that admittedly makes it awkward. I hope you get over covid very quickly.
pinatastick · 01/08/2021 19:47

I'd want to reply publicly to make sure everyone knows how unreasonable she is! You had no symptoms at the time you met, neither did anyone else in your household, how on Earth were you meant to know you'd then go on to test positive?! Honestly some people are so stupid.

Tanfastic · 01/08/2021 19:47

She sounds like a right prick. What a fucking drama queen. Tell her to do one.

rwalker · 01/08/2021 19:48

Kill it with passive aggressive kindness..

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that's terrible can't believe some people christ I felt bad for seeing you on friday even though everyone fine then sat DH started with symptom and we are now positive obs we did nothing wrong .

Jazzhandedintrovert · 01/08/2021 19:56

I’d definitely comment on her post ‘Is this about us? We were perfectly healthy, no symptoms at all when we saw you, only developed them the next day. I can’t believe you wish us dead, that’s unbelievably cruel’ hopefully she’ll give her head a wobble and feel a tad ashamed of herself.

RightYesButNo · 01/08/2021 20:03

I think the really important but bizarre question here, OP, is what are you doing being friends with a teenager? Joking, but on a real note, no adult should be posting this cryptic, dramatic vague-booking shite. That really is best left in secondary school, and I imagine there are plenty of posters who will say their secondary school DCs don’t even do that. It’s childish, attention-seeking twaddle on her part.

And… If she’s so worried about being CV, what the hell was she doing at the football thing to begin with? This disease has been around long enough now that we understand people can have it and be completely asymptomatic, and as she saw and interacted with you, she KNOWS you were asymptomatic, so… she just wants to be poisonous, and I suppose gather a slew of “you got it, hun”s from the more rabid amongst her friends.

How pointless, mean, and pathetic of her.

teraculum29 · 01/08/2021 20:04

Even by post test results are very quick,
my DD test ordered last Fri, test arrived Sat, send same day and result on Sun by noon.

for some reason on weekdays is a bit later than weekend (at least from my experience).

newnortherner111 · 01/08/2021 20:07

Ex friend I hope by now.

TheCupboardOfChaos · 01/08/2021 20:13

@KaptainKaveman

This is why I don't 'do' Facebook or similar.
Same here.

However, OP has seen this ridiculous Facebook nonsense.

Given that this is the case: if I were her, I would ignore the post and regard that particular friendship as terminated. I would have nothing further to do with anyone who a) thought that about me; and b) put it on Facebook.

DingDongThongs · 01/08/2021 20:14

@FuckingFabulous

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

Jesus, she's nuts!
QueenBee52 · 01/08/2021 20:15

@FuckingFabulous

how are you guys OP... and your family.. are your symptoms feeling any worse .. sending best wishes for having to deal with this crap as well as the Covid 🌸

alreadytaken · 01/08/2021 20:16

Why assume it was aimed at you? You possibly picked it up there and she, or her child, could have given it to you. The rapid onset makes it unlikely but it's still possible.

ForeverSausages · 01/08/2021 20:16

@Thehop

“Hi, I assume this is aimed at me? Obviously, when we attended football camp nobody in the house had any symptoms or we wouldn’t have gone. Husband developed one lesser known symptom the following day and we did absolutely the right thing by getting tests and letting everyone that we had seen know.

I assume your hideous diatribe is down to fear so I’ll wish you well and cross my fingers that you’ve avoided infection, and thank you for helping me to spread the word amongst any shared friends that we may need some support over the coming days. Take care”

Beautifully put.
DingDongThongs · 01/08/2021 20:17

My step-dad caught Covid we think from his nurse as he'd cancer. We realise she wasn't aware. He passed away and we miss him terribly. We bear no malice - illness can and does happen.

PurpleOkapi · 01/08/2021 20:17

I'd tell her that if she wants to socialize with people without regard for vaccination or test status, then obviously she's going to be exposed to covid at some point, and the only person at fault here is her for being too stupid to figure that out beforehand.

But that's me. YMMV.

DingDongThongs · 01/08/2021 20:17

is friend not vaccinated?

TheCupboardOfChaos · 01/08/2021 20:18

@rwalker

Kill it with passive aggressive kindness..

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that's terrible can't believe some people christ I felt bad for seeing you on friday even though everyone fine then sat DH started with symptom and we are now positive obs we did nothing wrong .

Though this idea made me laugh, not least as I imagine that this is how people talk on Facebook.
Original poster
FuckingFabulous · 01/08/2021 20:19

@DingDongThongs

is friend not vaccinated?
I don't know, but my husband is and so am I, yet he still has it
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ForeverSausages · 01/08/2021 20:20

Why does vaccination status matter? Sorry not being goady, hadn't considered that would make any difference and curious?

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FuckingFabulous · 01/08/2021 20:21

[quote QueenBee52]@FuckingFabulous

how are you guys OP... and your family.. are your symptoms feeling any worse .. sending best wishes for having to deal with this crap as well as the Covid 🌸[/quote]
We're alright, but DH is aching all over and extremely dizzy, middle DS now has a terrible headache and has taken himself off to bed- V unusual!

Honestly, with everything else I've had to cope with recently, her ridiculousness has made me feel really upset!

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ForeverSausages · 01/08/2021 20:23

Oh please don't be upset OP. You've done nothing wrong and she's being a twat. I hope you all recover quickly! Flowers