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Locked parking thread 2

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 01/08/2021 07:38

Sorry everyone I didn't post a new thread last night but I was a bit freaked out by the comment about finding me online at the end.

Anyway as the world's most boring update it is still here but someone is coming round about lunchtime to pick it up.

I rang 101 and reported it and that I was concerned they'd essentially vanished. They said there wasn't anything they could do about the car as its on private land but I could be liable for any damage if I moved it and that they would check on the registered owner.

I posted it on a couple of the local Facebook groups last night saying
"Anyone know whose cat this is? Please get them to contact me urgently on xxxx as itll be being towed tomorrow"

I had a response from the guys DS and she said she'd contact him and get him ring me. He hasn't rang me but she messaged me back to say he'd collect it at lunchtime if that was OK. I've said fine but we going out at at 2 so if he's not here before then he won't be able to get it till we get back later.

And that's it really.

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LittleBear21 · 01/08/2021 10:03

Even if it isn't him who turns up, nicely (but directly) point out that to leave his car there when he'd been told it was private land was entitled and selfish, and not how he should be teaching his children to act. It doesn't need to be more detailed or aggressive than that. If he has any conscious, those words will sink in over time. And if he doesn't nothing you do will make a difference and that's his problem.

Cannot believe you've been put out like this. Don't apologise; and don't if you can given him the satisfaction of seeing you annoyed or upset.

Yesitsbess · 01/08/2021 10:07

I am blatantly placemarking and reminding OP to post a picture of lunch again. Also WTF does "lunchtime" even mean? What time is that?

newnortherner111 · 01/08/2021 10:09

No apology, and once he has gone contact the DVLA as if he cannot read a simple sign his eyesight may be poor, and about whether his behaviour makes him unfit to have a licence.

Also if you have any idea where he lives (unlikely), relay the incident to the local social services. Letting a child into an area where dogs may be loose was putting them at risk, however well behaved and trained your dogs are.

Rogue1001 · 01/08/2021 10:12

Is his note to you still there? I really hope so.

They will NOT have had a good day yesterday.

Personally, when whoever comes to pick up arrives (agree it won't be him) id go with puzzled rather than self righteous. "But why did you park here when I told you...." etc

FunnyWonder · 01/08/2021 10:13

I'm beginning to agree with others that he has not been inconvenienced by this. I reckon he thinks he's having the last laugh by leaving you blocked in. I also think it's deplorable that you should have to wait until lunchtime - noon? 1 o'clock? 2 o'clock? Even later? - for him to remove his vehicle. This is a game to him because if he needed his car he would have been banging your door down by now. He's a horrible specimen of humanity. A man who will go to the wire for his misplaced principles. What sort of lesson are his children learning from this behaviour?

HaveringWavering · 01/08/2021 10:14

@LittleBear21

Even if it isn't him who turns up, nicely (but directly) point out that to leave his car there when he'd been told it was private land was entitled and selfish, and not how he should be teaching his children to act. It doesn't need to be more detailed or aggressive than that. If he has any conscious, those words will sink in over time. And if he doesn't nothing you do will make a difference and that's his problem.

Cannot believe you've been put out like this. Don't apologise; and don't if you can given him the satisfaction of seeing you annoyed or upset.

Don’t start talking about how he should bring up his children! Less is more.
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/08/2021 10:14

There's always "advice" about charging (for parking or childcare ) ......it just weakens your arguement because it points out you did not have an iota of legalities ,
Only a registered CM can charge fr childcare (diffferent to babysitting)
And you cannot levy charges unless there are obvious signs in place to state this .

No to damaging the car .
Take photos before the car is released .

Though a smattering of random animal waste could be expected near a working farm, cerainlt some straw/hay

Not too late for birdseed

YY you should've said "No come and collect it NOW , I'll expect you within the next 45 minutes"

But this will pan out he's injured or he's a n Essential NHS worker on a shift today .

Thewinterofdiscontent · 01/08/2021 10:15

I’d be tempted to put something on Facebook to remind people that it’s private land. With a nice photo of knobbers car possibly with attached note so everyone can see what a dick he is.

TheSunShinesBrighter · 01/08/2021 10:18

‘Lunchtime’ can mean any time between 11.30 and 4pm in bars and restaurants.

TokyoSushi · 01/08/2021 10:18

This has turned into a right pain for you OP, hope it works out today!

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 01/08/2021 10:20

A carvery lunch in this household is ALWAYS 2.30ish in order to make sure full value for money and it act as both a late lunch and early tea 😉

And yep I've got a business page on FB so my number is readily available on there for anyone to see anyway.

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Mountainpika · 01/08/2021 10:21

Don't farming people have meals earlier than most because they start their day so ear;y? Lunch - 12.00. Lunch over by 12.30. Then go out for the afternoon or work on the most distant piece of land.

bananafish · 01/08/2021 10:22

He's being a CF right to the end.

I think you're being too accommodating. Message back and say you need an exact time for this morning and the gates will be locked as well, so will need to come to the house.

What an entitled arse he is - I'm cross on your behalf.

dapsnotplimsolls · 01/08/2021 10:22

Thank you for the update. I'll be amazed if he turns up himself!

Mountainpika · 01/08/2021 10:22

Oh. Was writing as others were posting.

lannistunut · 01/08/2021 10:24

He's managed to really drag this out!!

TheSunShinesBrighter · 01/08/2021 10:24

A carvery lunch in this household is ALWAYS 2.30ish in order to make sure full value for money and it act as both a late lunch and early tea 😉

Not just you!
If we eat out for lunch (actually it’s dinner) we don’t have dinner (actually it’s tea) later. 🤣

Blossomtoes · 01/08/2021 10:24

My money’s on him sending his sister to pick it up. She’ll say that she’s really sorry, he’s a complete fuckwit and this isn’t the first time she’s bailed him out and it probably won’t be the last.

BruceAndNosh · 01/08/2021 10:24

@DollyBantry

What an inconsiderate, selfish arsehole. Whatever time someone turns up to collect the car, make them wait 20 mins outside while you finish a meal/hoover the hallway/watch the end of Cash In The Attic. Make it inconvenient for them, it’s the only way to teach them a lesson.
I suspect that the CF (or deputy) will turn up at 13.55 since he knows OP wants to go out at 2pm. So any delay in opening gate will inconvenience her more than him.
QueenStromba · 01/08/2021 10:27

If he did that I'd say I didn't have time now as I'm on my way out.

Fortheloveofgodwhy · 01/08/2021 10:27

OP you need to message back that lunchtime is no longer convenient. You’re going out in 20 mins and won’t be home until 10pm. Collect now or leave it until tomorrow. Make CF life awkward…

Biblionerd · 01/08/2021 10:27

I'm amazed CF has kids as he clearly has no balls! Sneaked off yesterday leaving the car and today letting his DSis sort it out for him. He really is a chickenshit CF

Concestor · 01/08/2021 10:28

I'd go out early. You don't owe him anything. I might also loosen the lids on his tyres so they go down slowly. I'd be bloody fuming by now.

Concestor · 01/08/2021 10:30

@Fortheloveofgodwhy

OP you need to message back that lunchtime is no longer convenient. You’re going out in 20 mins and won’t be home until 10pm. Collect now or leave it until tomorrow. Make CF life awkward…
I agree. What a shame you aren't available for a fortnight now/have lost the key to the gate and need to get a new one.
Sssloou · 01/08/2021 10:31

It’s really lucky that he didn’t block the tractor in that was delivering the hay bales.

The “polite old woman” refs of PP are just typical of a passive aggressive entitled donkey. No surprise he’s a single parent.