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Locked parking thread 2

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 01/08/2021 07:38

Sorry everyone I didn't post a new thread last night but I was a bit freaked out by the comment about finding me online at the end.

Anyway as the world's most boring update it is still here but someone is coming round about lunchtime to pick it up.

I rang 101 and reported it and that I was concerned they'd essentially vanished. They said there wasn't anything they could do about the car as its on private land but I could be liable for any damage if I moved it and that they would check on the registered owner.

I posted it on a couple of the local Facebook groups last night saying
"Anyone know whose cat this is? Please get them to contact me urgently on xxxx as itll be being towed tomorrow"

I had a response from the guys DS and she said she'd contact him and get him ring me. He hasn't rang me but she messaged me back to say he'd collect it at lunchtime if that was OK. I've said fine but we going out at at 2 so if he's not here before then he won't be able to get it till we get back later.

And that's it really.

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diddl · 01/08/2021 09:41

Ideally you should have said "lunchtime?-er no-now!"

When he does collect he'll be trying to turn it all ways into your fault Op.

Can't believe-well actually I can- that he is still calling the shots!

I think I'd just point out that at any time yesterday all he had to do was knock on the door.

Billybagpuss · 01/08/2021 09:41

I agree you should let her know the gate has to remain locked for security purposes and they will need to knock when they arrive.

PegasusReturns · 01/08/2021 09:42

Agree that he is now trying to inconvenience OP. He’s also hoping that she will be angry so he too can show righteous anger.

OP I’m glad you’ve got your brother with you. I’d go for breezy humour “oh you took your time…lucky there wasn’t an emergency otherwise you car would have been wrecked…laugh”.

Will take the wind right out of his sails if he’s expecting a confrontation but is suspect his poor sister will be on her way up.

WingingItSince1973 · 01/08/2021 09:44

I don't think he's gutless. To me he sounds like a man who doesn't like being told by a woman what to do. He's not knocked because that would go against his ego. Maybe that's a far reach but I've known men like him. He would have been too proud and stubborn to knock. His poor kids!

winewolfhowls · 01/08/2021 09:44

@JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue

My theory is that, after finding himself locked in the second time he returned to the car, he figured he would inconvenience the OP by leaving the car blocking her second drive. He's trying now to cause maximum inconvenience to the OP out of spite.

He won't come back to collect the car, he'll send his sister.

This. Especially as you said before that he didn't realise your two front areas were connected, he thinks he's being very clever and causing YOU a problem. Deliberately. The absolute nob. Definitely only hand over to him to him personally, make him wait, plus an apology.
WingingItSince1973 · 01/08/2021 09:45

@JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue

My theory is that, after finding himself locked in the second time he returned to the car, he figured he would inconvenience the OP by leaving the car blocking her second drive. He's trying now to cause maximum inconvenience to the OP out of spite.

He won't come back to collect the car, he'll send his sister.

Yep my thoughts too!
DollyBantry · 01/08/2021 09:45

What an inconsiderate, selfish arsehole. Whatever time someone turns up to collect the car, make them wait 20 mins outside while you finish a meal/hoover the hallway/watch the end of Cash In The Attic. Make it inconvenient for them, it’s the only way to teach them a lesson.

NoProblem123 · 01/08/2021 09:46

How did they all get home ?!!
I can’t believe he didn’t just knock & apologise 24 hours ago Confused

MeridianB · 01/08/2021 09:46

Please have your DB with you!

caughtinanet · 01/08/2021 09:46

You're being too kind, he needs to come at a time to suit you. Lunchtime is non specific and allows his to carry on being an entitled wanker. Tell him 12 noon or whatever and if he doesn't come at that time you won't be opening the gate

Does he expect you to wait around for him?

SoupDragon · 01/08/2021 09:47

@yeOldeTrout

And then there's me, who said that this situation was causing OP more inconvenience than it's worth. For which I got lots of sharp & unpleasant replies.

Yet here we are, OP's drive is blocked & she stopped having fun with the situation. Doesn't know how the situation will resolve.

Maybe MNers shouldn't egg these scenarios on. Just a suggestion.

The only person at fault is the driver who did not knock and apologise instead of behaving like an entitled twat.
TheSunShinesBrighter · 01/08/2021 09:48

@WingingItSince1973

I don't think he's gutless. To me he sounds like a man who doesn't like being told by a woman what to do. He's not knocked because that would go against his ego. Maybe that's a far reach but I've known men like him. He would have been too proud and stubborn to knock. His poor kids!
This is exactly why he IS gutless.

To me he sounds like a man who doesn't like being told by a woman what to do. He's not knocked because that would go against his ego.

His fragile ego won’t allow him to back down. This is a huge weakness and makes him spineless/gutless.

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 01/08/2021 09:48

This is ridiculous.

So someone can park on your property, bugger off, and if you lock up to secure your home and belongings you're the one that's made to be the unreasonable one? And there is nothing you can do to get rid of the him?

What if OP had to travel somewhere? On holidays? Should she have let the gates unlocked so someone can come and go as they please?

seconddateshithead · 01/08/2021 09:50

Absolutely this knob thinks he's got one over you

I would not hand over the car to anyone other than the bellend you spoke to and literally told they were parked on private property.

Please remember that. It's not often CFs get the prior warning so there can be absolutely no wriggle room, no doubt. He KNEW he was being a cheeky fucker. He just didn't care.

I wouldn't tell his sister you'll only release the car to him so he can apologise. Odds on he won't turn up. So it'll be longer for him without his car.

I would also make it explicitly clear to her and on your Facebook post what happened. As you did here. He was warned. He still did it. He didn't bother to knock on to get his car.

Do not apologise. Only release the car when you get an apology from him. Otherwise he's learnt nothing other than how he can get away with being a dick.

Keepingthingsinteresting · 01/08/2021 09:51

Hey OP. Ignore the idiot yesterday, they were bitter and out to make you feel bad. I suspect they too are a parking twat.

Personally I’d be messaging the sister to say you won’t be releasing the gate until the driver comes back to apologies and explain his behaviour and to compensate you for the inconvenience. I’d have put bird seed on the car last night too, but then I’m a bit of a bitch.

After they left having done so I would be posting on Facebook what had happened, bare facts only so you can’t be said to be making him look bad, to discourage similar behaviour in future.

That’s me, though I get you may not want the drama. I hate stupid men who take th piss because you’re a woman. I think you’ve handled this well, & I hope it doesn’t spoil the celebration with your DB today.

Kinneddar · 01/08/2021 09:51

You could also hammer a nail in a tyre

Why do people make these ridiculous suggestions. Why would that even remotely seem a good idea

ToffeePennie · 01/08/2021 09:51

Inform the sister you need the original owner to collect, along with £5 per hour secure storage fee.
And of course the gates are to be kept locked until the original owner appears and knocks.
And NO APOLOGISING. If you absolutely must “you were told the car is on private land, remove it.” And stick to it.
He is the twat not you.

eurochick · 01/08/2021 09:52

What an idiot that man is. Please don't apologise to him OP.

KateTheEighth · 01/08/2021 09:52

Good luck OP

If you think there's any danger of you apologising to him then get your brother to deal with him!

BlueLobelia · 01/08/2021 09:52

I would say 'Let me be clear. You got away with it this time. If it happens again I am emptying my muck heap onto your car. '

HaveringWavering · 01/08/2021 09:56

@CuriousaboutSamphire

Happily that Google Earth suggestion would probably get my house too!

And a fair few others around the forest here. And I don't think OP and I live anywhere near each other. Not the same county, not the same forest. Gilbert was just spinning twaddle!

@BlueEyesWhiteDragon I too doubt he will have the balls to come and get his own car, but you just have to explain to whoever does come and get it that farm tracks and gates have a purpose and it is your livelihood you are protecting. That he was inconvenienced was just tough shit, he was told and chose to act like a dick.

Maybe go back to the FB post and add that sort of info once the car has gone. As I said FC here often have to move vehicles parked in their gates. Us locals are sensible about it and know the times the gates are padlocked (against raves) but many visitors see the wide entrances with single bar gates across as fair game. And then get surprised when that 'lonely forest track' turns out to be quite a busy FC road or road to a timbermill - that was fun when there was a fire at the mill and 4 cars were shunted off the track, cue some very, very angry visitors moaning about how unwelcome they were made to feel here!!

This. Please promise us you will calmly explain that the gate was not locked just because you wanted to mess with him. Tell him (or his proxy) about the insurance and the things in the yard.

Did the sister give any indication why he was not messaging you himself? (Also, did you really put your phone number on Facebook?!)

Girlmum89 · 01/08/2021 09:58

I’ve just read through both threads. Brilliant OP!! I hope he has his tail between his legs when he comes to collect his car

CrotchetyQuaver · 01/08/2021 10:02

I think you message back and say look you want a firm time they're coming and you need proof of ID and that he's the rightful owner of the car. Take back control and be firm.

Just put some words down to the effect of this chancer has messed you about enough now. Otherwise he's going to turn up at 1359 just so he feels like he's won.

What a prince of a man he is.

ParrotsAteThemAll · 01/08/2021 10:02

I’m becoming more and more infuriated with this cowardly little man!! How dare he leave his car after you told him it was private property, then send his child over the fence with dogs on the loose! To be too scared to knock your door and now to just leave it there over night, probably just to piss you off because a woman dared challenge him on his prickish entitled behaviour!! And he still can’t even message you and gets his sister to do it!!!

You can’t go down without a fight here, I’m in your DB’s side with putting horse shit under the handles!!

HaveringWavering · 01/08/2021 10:02

Hold on didn’t you say on yesterday’s thread that you were going out for carvery birthday lunch today? You surely have not postponed that to wait in for the CF?

Why did you not insist that someone came sooner?