To have just thrown a tantrum

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I am 32 weeks pregnant, bored of it and uncomfortable, and I’m not normally known for being easygoing as it is, but Christ the red mist that just descended. I don’t even know why really.

We had our passports out to send to mortgage guy. DH commented I had 9 months left on mine and would probably need a new one before I traveled abroad again. I said I wouldn’t and I could travel abroad anytime I want in the next nine months. He reminded me about the baby and about covid. I said ‘what so I can’t even go to fucking Paris on the Eurostar just because I have a baby?!’

He’s such a reasonable person that it just made it worse, I screamed that I hated everything, actually stamped my foot , he made a hasty retreat and said he was going out for a fry up, and I kicked his trainers around the room because he can’t ever fucking put them away and blasted System of a Down.

It’s a proper full on teenage rage tantrum.

(This is lighthearted and DH is not trapped in an abusive marriage and will enjoy fry up until I’m calm enough for him to return)

Make me feel better. Have you ever had a proper tantrum as an adult? (Is ‘throwing a wobbly’ an offensive term these days?!)

@MoiraRose4

God some people just have no empathy or compassion or any basic understanding do they?! Go ahead and tantrum - you obviously recognise it wasn’t entirely rational, but we’re all human. Most of us anyway 🙄

A 32 week pregnant woman stamping her feet and having a tantrum in a minor disagreement with her husband, and it transpiring she was wrong anyway?

“Empathy” “compassion”

@SiSiSi

I've had four kids and at no point in any of my pregnancies did I turn into a force ten shitcunt and blame it on da hormones. Take fucking responsibility for yourself, ffs.

You're being one now though.

This so reminds me of the bit in the first Adrian Mole book where his pregnant mum shrieks that she’ll climb the Hindu Kush if she wants to when the baby is born.

Hope you’re feeling better OP after your magnificent strop. If you can’t have a tantrum when you’re 32 weeks pregnant when can you? There’s nothing more annoying than people being right at just the bloody wrong time!

And 32 weeks is pretty bloody heavily pregnant! You could be giving birth in 6 weeks!

Sometimes things overwhelm us.

I really don’t understand why people post suggest unhelpful comments. Don’t worry op, we have all had tantrums, pregnant or not. Just move on, it’ll all be ok x

*Such not suggest

Do you know though, as I posted this I thought ‘I bet some posters use it as a platform to tell everyone what a shining beacon of patient womanhood they were in pregnancy, with no negative impact from hormones whatsoever, and how they have borne children without so much as getting annoyed at the queue in Sainsbury’s.

Good to see there’s a few of these here.

Anyway, I KNOW I was wrong. I KNOW I was ridiculous. That was sort of the point.

what is the point of having an expiry date on a passport if it is useless for 6 months before that date anyway, I don't get it, am I being thick?

@girlmom21 do you know what you sound like?

I really hate the "I'm pregnant and a tiny bit abusive, aren't I goofy" threads.
Fair enough, have a cry over a bagel but it's embarrassing to see pregnancy used as an excuse to behave like a psychopath.

I've never understood that six months thing. Surely the expiry date is the expiry date? Effectively the passport is only valid for travel for nine and a half years.
Sorry about your tantrum OP. I lost it at eight and a half months pregnant on a packed train when no one would let me have a seat. Not pretty and quite embarrassing.

@SiSiSi

I've had four kids and at no point in any of my pregnancies did I turn into a force ten shitcunt and blame it on da hormones. Take fucking responsibility for yourself, ffs.

Erm.. aren’t you being a force ten shitcunt in this thread, though…

What shall we blame it on? da weather?

Or should you be taking responsibility for yourself, ffs and being nicer to somebody who isn’t you.

If a man had posted this thread saying he was exhausted working 50 hour weeks with a commute on top, his wife told him something she was correct about and he responded with a rage tantrum of screaming and kicking belongings around the room and it made him feel better, the wife would be told to get to a safe place and leave the bastard as he is abusive.

I'm sick of double standards. That is inexcusable and embarrassing.

You owe him a massive apology.

Thing is it’s meant to be lighthearted but I don’t find this at all funny. As always reverse this and it would be seen as emotionally abusive. I know pregnancy is hard but it doesn’t excuse acting like a toddler to those who are calm and composed enough to shrug it off. One day their tolerance will run out.

OP you need to work on calming down a bit before the baby is born… life will no longer be just about you and you will struggle if you constantly react to your emotions like this.

Try calm down. Kicking things and screaming isn't good for you or the baby. Post Partum you definitely can't be doing that with the baby around and your hormones go wild after birth.

You are 32 weeks pregnant. You are entitled to a tantrum. You don’t need a good reason. You are making a human. That’s enough of an excuse.

Hugs

@TheGumption

I really hate the "I'm pregnant and a tiny bit abusive, aren't I goofy" threads. Fair enough, have a cry over a bagel but it's embarrassing to see pregnancy used as an excuse to behave like a psychopath.

This.

It’s embarrassing. I hated the idea that when I was pregnant people might think I was prone to hysteria, temper tantrums etc.

I remember being heavily pregnant at work, reading a newspaper article at work and emotion overcame here. I went to the ladies and balled my eyes out.
Then wiped my eyes and returned to my desk.

A couple years later, there was a pregnant lady at work. A colleague was recounting a sad story she’d read in the paper. The pregnant woman broke down, waiting, smoking through her tears blaming her “bump”. She asked to go home as the emotions were too much to handle.

Drama drama drama

Anyway, I KNOW I was wrong. I KNOW I was ridiculous. That was sort of the point.

I read it as you didn't know the passport thing.

Smiling through her tears!!!

@Abitlostrightnow

God no, you’re right. I might go from mildly kicking a trainer round the room (DH wasn’t actually there then by the way and who hasn’t lost it a bit at times when people just don’t put their stuff away so it’s out to be tripped over)

To kicking a baby round when I get a bit cross

I think many of us have had a hormonal blip out whilst pregnant.
That being said, in your opening post you say you're not known for being easy going anyway. To me that's not dissimilar to the parent that claims their child is 'spirited' when we all know that means a frigging nightmare.
I do feel a bit sorry for him especially as he was right, however I hope you're ok and feel better!

I had a tantrum yesterday and I'm not even pregnant, I actually think it was a new way for my panic attacks to manifest 🙃 Meh I apologised to DH and I'll work through it and try not to do it again.
Must be nice for everyone that was born perfect not to have to learn and grow

@imamule well I know NOW.

And I did know a bit about the six month thing before- I just thought it applied to places where you need a visa etc.

At least you didn't snap and fart...
It's your hormones. Tell DP it's practice for the toddler years and put it behind you.

Love your choice of tantrum music.