To have just thrown a tantrum

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I am 32 weeks pregnant, bored of it and uncomfortable, and I’m not normally known for being easygoing as it is, but Christ the red mist that just descended. I don’t even know why really.

We had our passports out to send to mortgage guy. DH commented I had 9 months left on mine and would probably need a new one before I traveled abroad again. I said I wouldn’t and I could travel abroad anytime I want in the next nine months. He reminded me about the baby and about covid. I said ‘what so I can’t even go to fucking Paris on the Eurostar just because I have a baby?!’

He’s such a reasonable person that it just made it worse, I screamed that I hated everything, actually stamped my foot , he made a hasty retreat and said he was going out for a fry up, and I kicked his trainers around the room because he can’t ever fucking put them away and blasted System of a Down.

It’s a proper full on teenage rage tantrum.

(This is lighthearted and DH is not trapped in an abusive marriage and will enjoy fry up until I’m calm enough for him to return)

Make me feel better. Have you ever had a proper tantrum as an adult? (Is ‘throwing a wobbly’ an offensive term these days?!)

[MagicMatilda]

Yes, I remember having a full on tantrum when I was pregnant, it was amazing!!! We still laugh about it now. It’s good to get it out

[Taoneusa]

The emotionally repressed crew arrive to advocate a stiff upper lip at all times. As if that was necessary.

[CharityDingle]

@Marmitemarinaded

Smiling through her tears!!!

I admit I was laughing at smoking through her tears.

[Confiscatedpopit]

OP your reactions to posters not finding your actions ‘funny’ here are very telling about how you conduct yourself generally as well as your behaviour towards your husband. You are very defensive and somewhat hyperbolic.

Honestly, it’s time for some self-reflection. It’ll be a good thing for you and your baby. No-one sticks around for this type of thing long-term if they are decent.

[Antwerpen]

@motheroreily

Hmm I wouldn't class 32 weeks as particularly heavily pregnant. I think you should apologise. I hope he enjoys his fry up and you calm down.

Give over

[MrsKJones]

Ok @SmidgenofaPigeon, firstly your DH is being massively unreasonable for attempting to argue with a pregnant woman. Those hormones are brutal and he would be wise to learn to agree to disagree without making it a huge thing. Second, he should know to return with either a takeaway for you or at least some treats because, you know you're actually growing a person and that takes energy so you need re-fuelling at every and any opportunity.

When i was 7 months pregnant I had a full on crying rage because the car seat of the pram set I wanted in toys r us I was told wouldn't fit in my car. The poor salesman who must have been about 13 (I exaggerate) went, when faced with this blubbering human blimp, and got his manager who herself had just returned from mat leave and told him that of course it would fit and to get me a drink of water, a chair and box of tissues. Within 10 minutes of her coming out of her office, they had "fitted" the display car seat in my car and reassured me it was all ok. My DH was slightly embarrassed and was making lighthearted comments trying to cheer me up.

[feelingmehtoday]

@SiSiSi

I've had four kids and at no point in any of my pregnancies did I turn into a force ten shitcunt and blame it on da hormones. Take fucking responsibility for yourself, ffs.

😳

[feelingmehtoday]

Fair enough, have a cry over a bagel but it's embarrassing to see pregnancy used as an excuse to behave like a psychopath.

As someone who has worked clinically with actual diagnosed psychopaths, I can assure you that a bit of a "tantrum" does not a psychopath make. So don't worry, OP - you're quite safe.

[Blossomtoes]

One of the funniest things I ever saw was a very senior 40 year old guy have a tantrum at work and stamp his foot. There was total silence while it was happening and gales of laughter after he’d flounced out. Nobody could ever take him seriously again. I’d LTB if my bloke did it.

[Pinkandpink]

I threw a tantrum when I was pregnant when my sister stole some of my chips from my Chinese takeaway lol she brings it up every now and again lol

[Kanaloa]

I don’t think anyone has suggested the were a model of ‘patient womanhood’ all through pregnancy. I had my fair share of emotional hormonal moments, especially during my youngest child’s pregnancy as I was quite unwell.

I just didn’t scream and shout at people, but I wouldn’t do that anyway, because I wouldn’t tolerate it happening to me, so it’s not acceptable for me to do it to others. I don’t know why it’s ‘lighthearted’ just because you say it is. But as I said, you’re going to apologise so I’m sure your husband will be understanding.

[Maggiesfarm]

I can't imagine wanting to go abroad eight weeks before due date.
However each to their own.

I'm glad your tantrum was good humoured.

[DifferentHair]

I can't stand people who fly off the handle. I honestly couldn't live with someone who ever thought it was ok. Pregnancy or not.

If my DH started screaming, stamping his foot, kicking my belongings around I'd feel it was abusive.

Getting grumpy, blasting music, telling DH you want to be alone etc, crying over a bagel.. all fine.

But for an adult to have a physical tantrum instead of just using their words to say 'I feel overwhelmed and frustrated'... sorry OP, I don't think that's ok. And I don't think it's 'stiff upper lip' to feel that way. There are lots of ways to be in touch with your emotions and express them to others in a way that respects the other person.

[EsoNoSeHace]

I had almost the same argument with my boss once. I had to make four phone calls before he would believe he needed a new passport for whatever country he was going to. Then he wouldn’t believe he needed a photograph for the new passport….
(I’m sure you did then).

[bbbbbbbbbccccc]

Yeah as someone has just said. I dont tend to scream at people or kick their stuff around because i would not put up with that behaviour from others. I still managed not to do it when pregnant - its not an excuse for bad behaviour.

[MsHedgehog]

I had no tantrums when I was pregnant...and I’m usually someone who gets upset easily! DH had prepared himself for full on regular tantrums (as did I!) but I went from someone who got wound up easily to being a beacon of calm and serenity! I really don’t know how it happened but my DH certainly enjoyed it when I was pregnant! So so odd!

OP, apologise and laugh it off with him...you’re pregnant, it’s the one time you can get away with irrational tantrums! And ignore those who are calling you silly...you’re pregnant!

[GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou]

A psychopath. :o

OP the worst thing about this whole thread is that you didn't get a fry up too.

[Iwantafuckingbreak]

I was 4 days overdue and had the BIGGEST meltdown over a hose 🤣 It was much bigger tantrum then any of my kids have ever thrown... it happens 🤣

[Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse]

Don’t worry OP, I’ve just had a major tantrum and I don’t give a crap! I’m on holiday with my in laws who are just bizarre! I love them but they are weird at times. I don’t know why I keep thinking it will get any better each time we take them away. I’ve come on and have awful unpredictable heavy periods, it’s hot I’ve hardly slept and I’ve had a serious reaction to the many mosquito bites and DH keeps leaving our bedroom balcony doors open. I’m just done, I just want to go home possibly without DH (joke)

I know I should be grateful we’re away but I’ve had even less sleep then usual which is at best 4-5 hours (one DC has SEN and hardly sleeps) and still got another 7 days to go.

[Journeynotdestination]

Christ, the sanctimonious replies on here make me cringe. All the ‘if it was reversed’ bullshit. Well maybe if it was reversed and men had to carry babies, go through monumentous hormonal fluctuations, pain and physical stress, often irreversible THEY might freak out every so often!

Women on here can be really fucking horrible.

OP I found it light hearted and can totally relate.

[Fiddliestofsticks]

What was wrong with what he said though? He was right, but even if he wasn't 100% right, why would you get so angry about it? The snarky response and then the full on tantrum? Sorry, but being pregnant isnt an excuse to behave like a spoilt brat or total psycho.

[SleepingStandingUp]

32 weeks is plenty late pregnancy for some people. People handle pregnancy differently. I was huge, working a full time job plus two nights a week with teenagers and all on the bus with SPD. You're likely tired and it was just the last straw.

I'm a crier rather than a tantrummer but i reckon it must be quite cathartic

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

@SmidgenofaPigeon - I feel for you, I do. I did not enjoy being pregnant and by 32 weeks was very much "over it"!
Emotions do run high at times, and yes, I did often get quite irrationally overwrought over probably silly things (can't remember any specifics at that stage, although I had an epic tantrum at 37w, after DH went out and got pissed with his cousin and got in at 3am - but I think that's reasonable!)

I'm now the at other end of the fertility cycle - perimenopausal - and the hormonal strike rages are back. Joy! So far I haven't had a full on melt down but it's been close - have had to leave the house a few times to go and just be on my own.

I hope your DH is ok with you when he gets back - if this is your first baby, then he might not have had to deal with this sort of situation before - but I hope that once you've apologised for being wrong about the passport, all will be well.

(I too have kicked stuff around when on my own and it's just been left in the middle of the floor - I reserve most of my rages for when I'm on my own)

[icedcoffees]

@Pinkandpink

I threw a tantrum when I was pregnant when my sister stole some of my chips from my Chinese takeaway lol she brings it up every now and again lol

To be fair to you @Pinkandpink, I've never been pregnant and I definitely wouldn't be happy if someone stole my chips

[DinosaurDiana]

Women on here can be really fucking horrible

I agree, a real nest of vipers on here sometimes.