To have just thrown a tantrum

[SmidgenofaPigeon]

I am 32 weeks pregnant, bored of it and uncomfortable, and I’m not normally known for being easygoing as it is, but Christ the red mist that just descended. I don’t even know why really.

We had our passports out to send to mortgage guy. DH commented I had 9 months left on mine and would probably need a new one before I traveled abroad again. I said I wouldn’t and I could travel abroad anytime I want in the next nine months. He reminded me about the baby and about covid. I said ‘what so I can’t even go to fucking Paris on the Eurostar just because I have a baby?!’

He’s such a reasonable person that it just made it worse, I screamed that I hated everything, actually stamped my foot , he made a hasty retreat and said he was going out for a fry up, and I kicked his trainers around the room because he can’t ever fucking put them away and blasted System of a Down.

It’s a proper full on teenage rage tantrum.

(This is lighthearted and DH is not trapped in an abusive marriage and will enjoy fry up until I’m calm enough for him to return)

Make me feel better. Have you ever had a proper tantrum as an adult? (Is ‘throwing a wobbly’ an offensive term these days?!)

[Confiscatedpopit]

Ancientgran- that’s a bit different! 😂 I like her response 😂👍🏻.

[ancientgran]

@Confiscatedpopit

Ancientgran- that’s a bit different! 😂 I like her response 😂👍🏻.

She did deal with it well. I think she was shocked that I wasn't over the moon at hitting the jackpot with a girl after 3 boys. Even in my fuddled state I felt the need to defend my wonderful sons.

I do feel an idiot though even all these years later.

[roarfeckingroarr]

Not unreasonable at all OP and all these perfectly serene women can bugger off.

I cried during pregnancy over spilt milk, actual spilt milk. My wonderful, calm best friend is currently 33 weeks and has serious rage. It's normal and you'll look back and laugh.

Good choice about SOAD - putting them on myself now.

[IonaLeg]

Pregnancy hormones can drive even the most reasonable person to moments of abject insanity. Hope you’re feeling better soon!

[roarfeckingroarr]

@ancientgran

I threw a tantrum as I was wheeled back to the ward after EMCS. I heard midwife from delivery team telling the midwife from the ward that'd I'd had a little girl which was lovely as I already had boys. I said, "I had a boy." Totally ridiculous as I'd had a GA and had no idea what I'd had.

She said, "No it is a girl."

I shrieked at them, "I don't have girls, I have boys and it is a boy."

She said, "Okay it's a boy."

God knows what was going on in my head.

[ObviousNameChage]

I had a proper tantrum once when pregnant, complete with screaming, stamping my feet, name calling and I walked out before I started throwing and kicking things.

HIS dog ate MY burger. I was starving and had been craving a big tasty for ages and MCDs were finally doing them again.

OH's real mistake was trying to make excuses and make it my fault think the word stupid was used too. Like I gave a shit. It was his dog an MY (precious,delicious,mouthwatering, worth the frikking heartburn) burger. I completely lost it. Not apologetic in the slightest.

[user16395699]

There are a few other stops between perfectly serene and abusive.

Being hyperbolic and nonsensical doesn't really lend credibility to the argument that it's ok to use pregnancy as an excuse to abuse people.

It's normal to condemn abuse. Calling people names for doing so is utterly bizarre.

[ancientgran]

I'm sat here laughing at myself. I'm such an idiot.

[1forAll74]

Adult tantrums are pointless and ridiculous, so self control is needed. You can train yourself to not go into flare ups.

[EmmalineC]

What part of lighthearted don't posters understand?

[Wellwhatalovelyday]

Fuck it all, let’s go to Paris and buy some nice baby clothes

[Bythemillpond]

1forAll74

Adult tantrums are pointless and ridiculous, so self control is needed. You can train yourself to not go into flare ups

Not if you have ADHD. You need meds for that😀
I am known for having full on meltdowns when things don’t go right. Usually it is about every few months when frustration builds up.
I have ADHD (assessed a few weeks ago) so does dd (started meds yesterday) and Ds is being referred for assessment. Someone is usually having a meltdown.

Hoping for a quieter life in the future now with meds.

[GlutenFreeGingerCake]

I can have a lot of sympathy with someone who behaves badly when pregnant or unwell or whatever, but I do think they need to admit they were wrong to act that way and apologise once they have calmed down -or at least look a bit sheepish and offer to make me a cuppa- not think it's totally fine and they are entitled to be unpleasant and I just have to accept it because of their condition.

[Confiscatedpopit]

Wow- what lead to the diagnosis for all 3 of you? No expectation to answer- I’m just being bossy, This must be a huge thing to process.

[Confiscatedpopit]

Nosey not bossy 😂😂🤣interesting choice from autocorrect, perhaps it knows me well 🙈

[stellaisabella]

@EsoNoSeHace

Yes, I’ve punched the wall and tried to spit, but my mouth was too dry. DH kept telling me something that was true wasn’t true. I locked myself in the loo, but he kept shouting through the door. I came out and had a tantrum. It’s not to be recommended, but there it is.

That's fucking vile

[saffronfreezing]

if it were reversed

It should be reversed. Men should have to experience the whole shebang, including the PMT and PND and we would see how much they complained about having a cold afterwards.

They should be very grateful biology has given them a free pass on this and should keep silent tactful vigil with those who haven't been so lucky and who will be producing their offspring.

It's really not fair. Men are handed this lovely baby like a Sunday roast they haven't even had to peel the potatoes for.

I was very cross with my DP for suggesting I might like baked beans and poached egg for lunch while in the throes of morning sickness. Who could possibly stomach that. He reminded me that the previous day it had been the only thing I could ever dream of eating and I had to have it now or I'd throw up. I was completely unmoved by that revelation and said something to the effect of "Things change, keep up."

[ElizaDoolots]

OP, I get it. I’m also heavily pregnant and am finding it hard to not get worked up over little things. Last week I broke the kitchen cabinet because things kept falling out and I couldn’t get the door to close. When my Dad commented on it a few days later I blamed the toddler

[Franklyfrost]

My partner had chips when he was out and didn’t bring me any home. I cried.

[cafenoirbiscuit]

Might be linked with baby’s gender?
I had the rage a couple of times when pg with my boys. Not with dd though
Interestingly, DSs are very level-minded boys, while DD, not so much.

[crystaltips98]

I accused him of stealing my cadburys creme egg. He had moved it next to my teacup so I had it to hand. I was out of order but pregnancy does that to you.
Enjoy SOAD. Apologise later and laugh about it next year. X

[Frankola]

When I was 3 weeks away from my due date I was utterly craving a KFC. Dh went to get me one - I was so happy when it arrived!

Unfortunately by that point in my pregnancy I was so full of baby that I struggled to eat my food. It took me 2 hours infact. 2 hours of sitting there periodically crying because I was so full but was desperate for fried chicken!

The food was cold, I kept crying all over it, and poor DH just sat there trying not to laugh or ask what the fuck I was actually doing

[Tiana4]

[quote SofiaMichelle]@Tiana4

Who are you to tell people to ignore other posters?

Everyone - ignore @Tiana4 because I don't agree with her.

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Because they are nasty posts. The majority PPs get that it's light hearted and these are horrid PPs. OP didn't kick things around in front of him she let off a bit of steam and owned her own behaviour.

I have every right to point that out and say for OPs sake she is better for OP to ignore those who are as likely unpleasant in life to colleagues friends and likely their own DC as well, lacking any understanding or empathy, including yourself.

[douliket]

@girlmom21

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Seriously???!!!!
Is this what women have come to???

As a woman you should be in complete support of this woman who is dealing with pregnancy hormones. Do not try and play it down like men would like to. Do not try and pretend that this isn't a normal Occurrence when pregnant. Am sick to death of reading comments like this expecting women to do it all and to shut up while doing it. Yes,irrational tantrums are completely normal in pregnancy,yes of course u will apologise and your dh,who seems to be a rational man, will understand and thats how normal relationships work. To those condemning this pregnant women for having an irrational melt down..shame on you all. As women we need to stick together and everybody should be aware of how very difficult it is to be pregnant. Women certainly do not need those who lack compassion and empathy in their lives. I would even hope he brings you home chocolates after his fry up because I'm sure he is very well aware of all you are going through to bring his child into the world. Ignore the negative comments Op and I wish u a safe and healthy remainder of your pregnancy x

[Meraas]

Sorry but you were a complete twat and wrong too boot. Poor DP, he’ll have two kids to deal with.