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Someone has parked over my H bar and blocked my car in ...

475 replies

WatfordGap · 23/07/2021 15:22

Earlier this year, I had an H bar painted across my dropped kerb because people kept parking over the edge of the dropped bit, meaning I couldn't get in or out of my drive (the drive is narrow and at an angle on a very narrow street with cars parked opposite).

So far, it's pretty much done the trick. But today I went out for an hour and came back and someone has parked a good foot or so over the end of it, meaning that I can't get my car off the driveway. Unfortunately for them, I was not using the vehicle which was (and still is) parked on the drive, but another one. :)

So I've parked across the rest of my H bar. There's now enough room between my front bumper and their rear one to get a matchbox in. There's about a foot between them and the car parked in front of them.

Today is my last day at work for 2 weeks. Do you think I should have an early glass of wine to celebrate? Grin

OP posts:
DysmalRadius · 23/07/2021 17:57

If it blocked access for an emergency worker ,someone needing access to get to a dying relative then that would be awful .

And if the OP, who isn't in this situation, is able to get an inconsiderate driver to think twice before they do similar again, then she could be preventing them from doing it to someone when it could be an emergency.

The OP doesn't need to go out ,could use her second car if she wanted to .She just wants to be outraged .For no reason .

You may only be bothered by inconsiderate and anti-social behaviour when it is a problem for you - the OP (and many of us here) would prefer to address that kind of behaviour and hope to prevent it before it becomes a huge problem for someone else. I'm not sure of your motivation in discouraging her to be honest.

Quarantino · 23/07/2021 17:57

@peridito

Gosh you're easily angered aren't you OP ?

I was just going by your diagram - not obvious to me why you can't get your second car off the drive . But the point here is that you've indicated that you don't need to .So why are you so determined to make this a huge issue ?

No doubt it's a public spirited effort to highlight the rights of all dropped kerb owners .

Ah, you didn't bother to read the op then. "because people kept parking over the edge of the dropped bit, meaning I couldn't get in or out of my drive (the drive is narrow and at an angle on a very narrow street with cars parked opposite)." Hardly op's fault!
Kipperandarthur · 23/07/2021 17:57

That’s a fine diagram if ever there was one. I award you a gold star.
Sometimes people need a bit of a jolt to show them just how selfish their parking is.

I had a situation once where someone had parked his van in my drive. Nothing to do with me. I couldn’t then get onto my own drive. I circled round the block and the git had gone when I returned so couldn’t even have the satisfaction of parking wars. Apparently he had been there all afternoon.

Oversize · 23/07/2021 17:58

Sorry meant to quote the post where you said you park over your drive to help with the parking shortage.

tigger1001 · 23/07/2021 17:58

@peridito

Gosh you're easily angered aren't you OP ?

I was just going by your diagram - not obvious to me why you can't get your second car off the drive . But the point here is that you've indicated that you don't need to .So why are you so determined to make this a huge issue ?

No doubt it's a public spirited effort to highlight the rights of all dropped kerb owners .

I think the point is no one should park over a dropped kerb stopping someone leaving their property. It's irrelevant if she doesn't need to go anywhere at this moment, the point is the inconsiderate Parker didn't know that, and has blocked the op from getting the car out of her drive.

Surely if you see a space in a street with lots of parked cars you double check that you are not parking over a drive? Especially if there are helpful markings on the road to help you know it's a drive?

peridito · 23/07/2021 17:59

Yeah ,fair play godmum .If proscribed channels are being followed ,I guess it's the OP following them by deciding on her own penalty and deliberately restricting the access/exit of another driver.Grin

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 23/07/2021 17:59

If only there was some sort of recognised way of marking areas that are not to be parked on.

Or some sort of little booklet that people can buy when they learn to drive . Some sort of CODE about the HIGHWAY .......if only Wink

Sparklingbrook · 23/07/2021 18:01

TBF some on this thread have said they didn't know what an H bar was.

peridito · 23/07/2021 18:01

No the point here is that the OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to this specific incident .

Because of her circumstances ,not that of hypothetical others .

gardeninggirl68 · 23/07/2021 18:04

@peridito

No the point here is that the OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to this specific incident .

Because of her circumstances ,not that of hypothetical others .

Why is she?? Where else do you suggest she parks then? Rest of roadside is all metered
Winemewhynot · 23/07/2021 18:06

Hit the wine and deny all knowledge. If they knock I’d go with ‘yeah you’ve blocked me I’ve been stuck all day, so rude isn’t it’ then door slam in the face!

itcouldhave · 23/07/2021 18:06

@WatfordGap This is Mumsnet. Not only should you provide free parking for strangers purely because you have a drive, you must also give them chocolates, flowers and wine.

You’re also unreasonable for owning a car. You must walk, cycle or get the bus everywhere.

CiaoForNiao · 23/07/2021 18:07

@peridito

No the point here is that the OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to this specific incident .

Because of her circumstances ,not that of hypothetical others .

My mum used to regularly get her car blocked onto her own driveway by inconsiderate twat mums parking over the end of it to drop their little darlings at the local school. It wasn't usually an issue so she didn't say anything. Then one day she had a hospital appointment which she needed to leave in the middle of school drop off for. So she either had to leave early, move her car onto the road in advance, or rearrange. She chose to move the car before school mums arrived which she shouldn't have had to do. She paid for a house with a driveway for a reason! But she's been taught to "be kind" and doesn't do confrontation so she moved it and moaned to me about it. The next time it was an issue was an emergency. Thankfully not life and death but still an emergency.

She wishes now that she'd asked them to stop parking there when it was first an issue.

melspur · 23/07/2021 18:08

So if the car's still blocking the driveway when OP does need to get off it, will a reaction then be ok?. Can NM make Peridito an administrator or moderator with full responsibility for approving posts and policing suitable and not so suitable opinions?

DysmalRadius · 23/07/2021 18:08

I was just going by your diagram - not obvious to me why you can't get your second car off the drive .

Given that you are advocating the use of the written word to make the OP's point to the inconsiderate parker, it would definitely strengthen your case if you read the words that the OP has written where she clearly explains that this is not possible.

Vodkabulary · 23/07/2021 18:08

Surely she’s being totally reasonable parking across her own drive? Leaving the rest of the street for all the other cars not her fault some idiot decided part partly over her drop curb.

They’re in the wrong they clearly knew they were blocking her drive when they got out there car and didn’t care so why should the op

NativityDreaming · 23/07/2021 18:08

@peridito

No the point here is that the OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to this specific incident .

Because of her circumstances ,not that of hypothetical others .

Yours is a minority opinion, it would seem.
Happytodayhappytomorrow · 23/07/2021 18:08

Perhaps a note on the windscreen of the badly parked car explaining situation and the reason for the H bar would have been a better/nicer/kinder first step.

First offence and all that

'To err is human, to forgive divine'

Smile Smile Smile

CakeandGo · 23/07/2021 18:09

YANBU. Living next to a London station with unrestricted street parking, we paid for the council to paint a H bar. People park across a section of it pretty much every day.
Sometimes a tyre. Sometimes the end of a van.
Once a taxi driver parked completely across it and fell asleep with the engine running (I’m not even kidding).

It’s irritating to say the least.

WallaceinAnderland · 23/07/2021 18:09

@peridito

No the point here is that the OP is being unreasonable in her reaction to this specific incident .

Because of her circumstances ,not that of hypothetical others .

94% of 568 posters disagree with you. But carry on Grin
texasss · 23/07/2021 18:10

Drink all the wine and go and do a shit on their bonnet.

goes too far

CakeandGo · 23/07/2021 18:11

@texasss

Drink all the wine and go and do a shit on their bonnet.

goes too far

Ladies and Gentlemen we have a winner Grin
AntenatalNellie · 23/07/2021 18:12

@texasss

Drink all the wine and go and do a shit on their bonnet.

goes too far

How about drink all the wine and then draw a picture of a shit on the bonnet? After all OP’s drawing skills are legendary.
AmandaHoldensLips · 23/07/2021 18:12

If you shove a potato up an exhaust pipe the car won't start.
My dad taught me this when I was 7.
Our neighbour was a *t.

DinosaurDiana · 23/07/2021 18:15

You pay the council where I live for a H .

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