In hospital

[2under2howscary]

Okay. So I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I woke up this morning with sudden onset blurry vision, and severe headache.

Went to eye a&e were I was found to have pressure in the back of my eyes, so they decided to send me straight to a&e

I went sent straight to a&e as told. I've had a CT can (awaiting results) where they're querying a blood clot or intercranial hypertension.

My partner works away. Tonight he is 2 hours away in Preston. He's gone out for dinner with his work friends which is fine. Here is where I may be unreasonable.
I asked him not to get drunk in case I needed him tonight, or for whatever reason he had to drive back. He agreed three times.

I've just been texting him and he's drunk as anything. He says I'm having a pop for no reason, and just being argumentative and stopping him having drinks for no reason. He'll no doubt stop talking to me now.

So AIBU for asking him not to drink? Even though he's 2.5 hours away?

I hope you have sorted out our UC claim and CMS.

Well done for getting rid. Does he have any interest in having DS whilst he's local?

Good for you OP! Interesting that he managed to play nice right up until he was at a safe distance again then let his real dickhead self show through.

@RandomMess UC already sorted. CMS going to do this weekend. Xx

@Sunbird24 exactly that. His excuse was work is separate to home life. Apparently he needs to switch off to be able to work away from home...

Ridiculous excuse :(

Also, slight interest in DS. Nothing more than usual.

Will be interesting to see if you end up financially better off seeing as though he won't be doing overnights.

He really did think you would put up with anything from him.

I hope his parents continue to have a relationship with you and DS.

@2under2howscary

I'm so glad to hear you've prioritized you, your DC and that you are getting the help you need for your health.

It really is shit when the scales finally 'fall from our eyes', but you and your DC can now enjoy every day in peace and harmony, and that's what makes it all worth doing.

Stay strong, and continue to put you and your child first. Don't be tempted by his 'sob story' and how 'terrible' he feels .

Just remember how he'd rather sleep than hear about your health emergency
He'd rather go to work, than be on his DC's birth certificate
He'd rather get drunk with strangers than help his DC in a crisis situation.

So you remember exactly what it is that he thinks is worth his time ! (and anything to do with the welfare of his 'family' simply isn't worth HIS time ! )

Be strong.

Good for you, OP.

Thank you xx

Well done OP. You sound like a great Mum.

Wishing you all the best, stay strong, I think you'll be fine.

@2under2howscary sorry if this has been mentioned but join the facebook groups for idiopathic intracranial hypertension. There is one for general and then one for pregnancy both are very useful and informative.

Dont let the neurologist fob you off with weight gain as well. Mine was triggered by hormone changes and since having my 2nd baby have been in remission with only "difficulty" during my periods or when really tired.

Weight can also cause problems and being pregnant doesnt help but seeing as I am heavier now than when first diagnosed I struggle to see how they are linked for me.

Also you can take one of the medications when you are in your 2nd trimester.

As for your partner.. I'm sorry he is such a selfish lump!

Well done OP. I have the same condition as you, IIH. I think given you are pregnant your care is more complex, you will need monitoring and shd see the consultant in neurology. There are some good IIH support groups on Facebook

Well done, OP, and I hope they manage to sort your health issues out.

Fantastic update OP. You've done the right thing. Here's to a happy and healthy future!

Bravo 👏🏻 you’re being a fantastic role model
For your lovely son and your new baby too in standing up for yourself and dumping this twat.
All the best to you