to let my 14 year old

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My 14 year old daughter wants her nose pierced, aibu to let her?
Fully prepared to be flamed here 🥴

I had mine done at 14. Just turned up at home with it done, so you are lucky she asked 😂 I've still got mine in now.

I'd let her do it, just stick a plaster over it for school.

@ChunkySloth

I had mine done at 14. Just turned up at home with it done, so you are lucky she asked 😂 I've still got mine in now.

I'd let her do it, just stick a plaster over it for school.

Healthy bit of teenage rebellion. Any teen worth their salt should rebel at something and a nose piercing is an evergreen classic.

I had my belly button done at 15/16 too, without my mums input, still got that and I had a tattoo at 16/17. I told her I was going out to get that done when I was on my way out to the appointment.

It was done in an in-shops with a gun 🙈

It didn't get infected though.

Yes but get her a clear retainer for school or college. I have 4 nose piercings and with a retainer in the nostril you cant tell its there. Taking it out causes it to close up very very fast so a retainer is necessary as school wont allow it. Other than that a nostril is a low risk piercing, easy to clean and heal. Just warn her it could cause problems with activities like sports, trampolines etc so it has to come out if she does them.

Invariably our answers to the question asked will hinge on whether we have a negative, neutral or positive view towards nose piercings. Hence the range of views. It would be negative for me as would a tattoo (albeit tattoos are clearly very different in being permanent and piercings are not) so I'd say no at her age. If I liked it, I'd probably say to my kids that 16 was the minimum age.

However, I don't really like the current trend of skin fades for boys' haircuts either, so I understand the need to compromise with our teenagers. Good luck!

I wouldn't, but mainly because I had way too many giant balls to the face in PE to feel safe having my child have additional metal or plastic that could cause complications. If you do, I agree with getting the retainers as I know a lot of schools near me have already put out pre-emptive letters that piercings will ask to be removed and it's not the school responsibility if they close.

Also, my sister got one at that age and it got horrible infected, she uncomfortable and embarrassed to have what looked like a massive zit, and even though I haven't worn earrings since I was about 15 (after having them pierced at 10), I can still feel where they were and the area gets flaky and itchy at times.

Healthy bit of teenage rebellion. Any teen worth their salt should rebel at something and a nose piercing is an evergreen classic.

But if your parents accept you doing it (or even have the same), is it really rebellion?

I think some of our kids may struggle with the whole being rebellious phase Teen-me used to make jokes that I was rebellious not drinking/doing drugs because that was what my parents did, but there was some truth to that.

But if your parents accept you doing it (or even have the same), is it really rebellion?

I was referring to the person who came home with a pierced nose, fait accompli. No prior discussion.

I’d worry that anyone who’d agree to do it on an under 16 (would their insurance cover them etc.?) wouldn’t be the sort of person I’d want doing it iyswim. I pierced dds ears myself during lockdown so my standards aren’t exactly sky high.

Look into using clear Teflon/Bioflex piercing retainers as they are unobtrusive and should be ok for school.

@FindingMeno

Fine, but they can be tricky with healing, and depends on school jewellery code.

I was just going to say this. If school asks her to take it out then it will interfere with healing. I don't really like facial piercings... more so to do with scarring on the face if I were not to wear the facial piercing anymore.

@LST

I'd had my nose, tongue and lip pierced at 14. School was a pain in the arse though. I still have mine in 17 years later

Wow..... your mum was...relaxed.

I bet it didn't look good....tongue, nose and lip piercing (the worse) doesn't look good on a teen. It looks much better with someone who has their own unique style, are in their late teens/ adults, combined with small and delicate jewellery.

At 14 I don't say fine as long as she can find a reputable place that will do it for her, not all will. Never get a nose pierced with a gun (or by a friend- trust me)
Schools here wouldn't object

I’d be fine with it. It’s been a truly rubbish 18 months. Let her have it for the summer and enjoy herself. She can then take it out for school or have a retainer.

@secular39 thanks for your concern but it was pretty normal in the group of friends I had and I thought I rocked it. You can't even see a tongue piercing so I don't understand how that can look good or not? My mum was ace as was my dad. You're just another one of those poster that just has to have a dig. Does it make you feel better about yourself?

@secular39

Can people only develop ‘their own unique style’ at age 16 plus? At which point piercings look nice?

Honestly, trying different styles as teenagers is how we develop our own style and learn what looks good on us. A nose piercing is basically the worrying thing a 14 year old can experiment with.

[quote LST]@secular39 thanks for your concern but it was pretty normal in the group of friends I had and I thought I rocked it. You can't even see a tongue piercing so I don't understand how that can look good or not? My mum was ace as was my dad. You're just another one of those poster that just has to have a dig. Does it make you feel better about yourself?[/quote]
It doesn't look good at all as a teenager. I'm sorry. It doesn't. But everyone is entitled to their opinion. If you liked it then- that's fine.

@secular ok then. I say your opinion is incorrect. What age do you think it looks 'good'?

I probably would but I like piercings, the only ones I'm not a fan of are eyebrows but that's only because I was a goth and eyebrow piercings with gold hoops were very chavvy to me. Usually the people who picked on me for the way I looked had those.
I had my outer ears pierced around 7 times by then, didn't need parents consent then though, you might find a lot of piercers won't do it until 16 nowadays anyway.
Teenagers like to express themselves and all piercings mean is

Sorry sent too soon!
All piercings show is that someone likes them, they don't mean anything else, they aren't cheap or skanky.

[quote LST]@secular ok then. I say your opinion is incorrect. What age do you think it looks 'good'?[/quote]
It depends how it's done. If it's with small delicate jewellery, it would look nice and goods. Adults can get away with the whole tongue piercing/facial piercing and it compliments their whole look.

A 14 year old having a tongue piercing, lip piercing (just why) and a nose piercing, whilst wearing school uniform, does not look nice at all. I think your mum was very lax, as I'm sure the school wasn't happy about it at all. 16 is pushing it but I would have stopped at the tongue and nose piercing. But every person and parent is different. If you u liked it at the time- that's great for you. But I would not have allowed my own children to get it.

It really should make no difference what others think of having piercings. I have them, I love them, others finding them 'skanky' or unhygienic and dirty is immaterial to me and my choices.

hhhmmm on the fence really, I'd probably tell her to wait till she was 16

How dull the world would be if we were all the same.
It may not be your choice, but it is NOTHNG to do with you, and your value judgments are way way way worse than any amount of body piercing.

@secular39

But why does it only compliment your whole look if you’re older than 16? That doesn’t make any sense whatsoever. If it looks horrible at 14, she’s not going to step into her sweet 16 birthday bash and suddenly it looks classy and delicate and pretty, complimenting her newly adult ‘look.’

You just sound judgemental and small minded, as if you are unaware that people have different tastes and even if something isn’t your style it can still look good.