to let my 14 year old

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My 14 year old daughter wants her nose pierced, aibu to let her?
Fully prepared to be flamed here 🥴

Yes to pps idea of a retainer actually, that’s probably better than taking it in and out all the time.

Sure, go for it. My 12 year old DD is having her upper ear pierced and belly button pierced next week.

I'd probably make her wait until she was 16 and then hope she changed her mind in the meantime.

I don't think 14 is terribly young though if you think it's fine.

I wouldn't tbh. I say tell her she can do it as gift for 16th bday if she still wants it then

No, she is too young. Hopefully she will have changed her mind by the time she is sixteen.

Yanbu, it's her nose, if she wants it pierced it's her decision. Ignore the comments about being skanky or cheap, I very much doubt that your dd is interested in whether her style choices meet the expectations of the mainstream elderly and middle aged.

I had mine pierced at 14, it lasted all of 6 months, was a faff, kept falling out, hole closed pretty quick! It wouldn't bother me

I think 14 is too young. They need something to look forward to, even though having a ring through your nose is hardly something to look forward to. My youngest wanted it done at 14. I said she could have it done when she was 16, but not before. Cue ranting. She had it done when she was 17. I had to sign the forms, and muttered on about it spoiling her pretty nose and making her look like a bull in a field. I wouldn't have signed the forms when she was 14, though.

I think 14 is a bit too young for a nose piercing. I made DD1 wait until 16, 6th form were much more relaxed about piercings than lower years which made it easier.

A nose piercing can look absolutely gorgeous, I’d definitely let her if she was the mature type who will take care of it properly, cleaning, letting it heal etc.
If she’s got good form for being responsible id let her yes, it’s only a piercing and it can heal over if she ever wants to remove it and easily cover with make up anyway.

Piercings are better than a tattoo every time! (At a young age anyway!).

I think it’s a case of pick your battles and a little nose stud would be ok with me

@OdetoMyFamily skanky? As in filthy, unhygienic and/or repugnant? I'm not sure I understand.

I'd say no until she's 16.

But if she really wants it done she will, and it sounds like you've already said yes.

I know someone who had her nose pierced. Kept it in for years. Got fed up with it and took it out and years later it still looks like a massive blackhead and she'll never be able to disguise it. Just a warning.

My ds wants his nose pierced age 14 too! I’ve said no as I think he’s too young but a part of me is also thinking ‘ do boys have their noses pierced?’ I feel really awful for thinking that, I’m not stereotypical at all usually………
Anyhow, make her wait until she’s 16, that’s what I’ve said, then they have autonomy over their own body so not as much you can do about it!!!

@ShowOfHands it's very simple to understand. A nose piercing isn't in the 'how to pretend you're middle class starter kit' ergo it is skanky.

[quote ShowOfHands]@OdetoMyFamily skanky? As in filthy, unhygienic and/or repugnant? I'm not sure I understand.[/quote]
Cheap. Not clean.

@odetomyfamily cheap how? And not clean? Eh? Are you on glue?

@Lotsachocolateplease

My ds wants his nose pierced age 14 too! I’ve said no as I think he’s too young but a part of me is also thinking ‘ do boys have their noses pierced?’ I feel really awful for thinking that, I’m not stereotypical at all usually……… Anyhow, make her wait until she’s 16, that’s what I’ve said, then they have autonomy over their own body so not as much you can do about it!!!

Lenny Kravitz. Enough said.

I very much doubt that your dd is interested in whether her style choices meet the expectations of the mainstream elderly and middle aged

No but OP is. Hence her AIBU.

@OdetoMyFamily are you bored tonight? Are you ok hun?

I said no wait until 16, and my dd (nearly 15) did it anyway herself with a kit! She hid it from me removing it when she was downstairs for months! I may aswell have just said yes from the outset. It’s really no big deal I don’t even notice it anymore.

Lenny Kravitz. Enough said.

Ha ha. Piercings aren’t really my thing but he definitely looks good. 😍 He’s just very, very cool isn’t he.

Cheap and unclean? 🙄

I think it's fine. My daughter had hers done at 16. I did check with the school first and they were ok.
What type of nose piercing does she want? If it's nostril then a stud can be small and subtle. If it's the septum then you can have a piercing that you can tuck back in to the nostrils so it's not visible at school. My daughter's friend had that.
However I don't know of many places that will pierce a nose under 16. We had to go to Brighton (we live in London). As my daughter's friend was only 15 at the time.
We went here:

punktured.co.uk/pages/faqs

@OdetoMyFamily no, op asked about getting it done at 14. She didn't ask for general opinions on whether people liked nose piercings. And even if she had, my answer still stands.