to let my 14 year old

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My 14 year old daughter wants her nose pierced, aibu to let her?
Fully prepared to be flamed here 🥴

[quote Hallyup6]@LST* first time I've commented on this so no, I will not give it a rest. Public forum, everyone is entitled to an opinion. Just because you feel it acceptable for a parent to allow a child to be allowed to stick a piece of metal through their face, doesn't mean we all do. You might be offended that I think it looks tacky but you're only making yourself look tacky by being incredibly rude back. Well done.[/quote]
Bless your heart. You do realise how pathetic it is to name call others for how they look don't you?

Pottedpalm

You said it looked cheap. That’s judgemental and what posters will rightly say is unkind. If you don’t like it, wouldn’t allow it....that’s fine, but if you go further you’re going to get others that take issue.

Some of the comments on here calling it skanky, unclean, cheap etc are pretty nasty. I’m not a fan, wouldn’t give permission at 14, wouldn’t like it at any age really, but each to their own. I don’t believe people would say these words to someone who has piercings in real life so why do it on here over something which won’t affect you. It’s an unnecessary attack on someone’s personal choices.

@SupermanWithTheGreyHair

Pottedpalm

You said it looked cheap. That’s judgemental and what posters will rightly say is unkind. If you don’t like it, wouldn’t allow it....that’s fine, but if you go further you’re going to get others that take issue.

Some of the comments on here calling it skanky, unclean, cheap etc are pretty nasty. I’m not a fan, wouldn’t give permission at 14, wouldn’t like it at any age really, but each to their own. I don’t believe people would say these words to someone who has piercings in real life so why do it on here over something which won’t affect you. It’s an unnecessary attack on someone’s personal choices.

Would you like to point out where I said it looked cheap?

Pottedpalm

Today in your post at 8.09, you said,

Do you think It is unhygienic, cheap looking? I do.

I have already said where you said it looked cheap @Pottedpalm. Seriously if you're going to dish out insults try to at least remember them.

I'm grateful for the yes/no replies as it's helpful, however i didn't ask for derogatory comments!! There's being helpful then there's being a dick!!

I should read my own posts before posting; you are right; I did put that.
Apogies.

Apologies rather.

@LST you realise how pathetic it is to insinuate that people are drug users because they have a difference of opinion to you?

[quote Hallyup6]@LST you realise how pathetic it is to insinuate that people are drug users because they have a difference of opinion to you?[/quote]
Haha 😂 I'll add pathetic to the list of things I've learnt I am today.

I wouldn’t, ears I may consent to at that age but anywhere else I’d tell them they could do once 18 when they are an adult and can make their own decisions re their bodies.

[quote Hallyup6]@LST you realise how pathetic it is to insinuate that people are drug users because they have a difference of opinion to you?[/quote]
And I didn't say they were I asked if they were on glue. If the answer was no then o know they're just a judgmental twat

I wouldn't allow it at 14. Maybe at 16 but 14 is a bit too young in my opinion. I don't like nose piercings though so maybe that is swaying my view.

I'm really surprised that so many schools don't allow them, given the cultural significance. Definitely worth checking, as around here they allow a stud but nothing big. It'll be much easier if she doesn't have to take it in and out.

I'd let her, providing you/she can find somewhere good that will do it at her age.

@Everydayimhuffling

I'm really surprised that so many schools don't allow them, given the cultural significance. Definitely worth checking, as around here they allow a stud but nothing big. It'll be much easier if she doesn't have to take it in and out.

I'd let her, providing you/she can find somewhere good that will do it at her age.

Exceptions are made for different cultures, though I do not believe any culture insists on nose piercing; pierced ears, yes. There's nothing cultural about a UK bred person having a nose stud but if a person is over sixteen, it's their choice. Fourteen is too young.

Of your DD is mature enough to clean and care for it then I’d say yes.
My teenage DD has both sides of her nose done, septum and lip. One of the (many) conditions was that she kept everything clean etc and that extended to her room/bathroom (teenagers can be mucky buggers).

A previous poster mentioned their nose hole being large/visible. If a needle is used then that doesn’t happen.

Only you can say if your DD is sensible enough. Times have moved on and lots of people have facial piercings. To the posters calling nose piercings ‘tacky’ @Hallyup6? can you explain fully what you mean please?

Tacky seems such a strange word to describe how you view nose rings, are you quite elderly or have lived a sheltered life?

...perhaps your DD could have it done for her 15th birthday?

Mine did. She'll need one of those clear studs for school as it will close up in a day even after 6 weeks.

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I don’t understand how posters could be offended by these? And call them ‘skanky’? ‘Tacky’?

@Stath

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I don’t understand how posters could be offended by these? And call them ‘skanky’? ‘Tacky’?

They just like the reaction I think.

I wouldn't, purely due to school and issues you'll have there. I love piercings, had loads when I was younger, and waiting for them to heal us a pain. Having to take them in and out all the time, is extra annoying.
Personally I'd get her to wait until she breaks up in year 11, when hopefully she'll be fine keeping it in and letting it heal properly.

I always despaired when I was teaching when kids got cartilage piercings, as we had to make them take them out, and they're so painful and take months and months to heal. My advice is always just to wait until you're 16 and school won't be mithering you to take it out etc

I'd have no problem with this.

Young teens have plenty they can do with jewellery, hair dye, make up, clothes etc. Piercings can wait until they are old enough to give their own consent. I'd allow 2 sets of lobe piercings but no more until 16.

@MayflowerMaisie

YANBU if you know that she is the kind of student that would not be a total PITA refusing to take out a piercing that is not part of the dress code. YABU if you know she’s going to kick up a stink every time a teacher asks her to remove it, while loudly proclaiming “mum says I don’t have to, because it will heal up!”

@MayflowerMaisie do you work in the same school as me cos I hear that on the DAILY!!!

@Hallyup6
Do you really think that @LST was being serious?
It’s a classic mumsnet phrase.
Having your nose pierced is a personal choice. It’s not skanky cheap or I hygenic.
If I were you I would think about why you think that.