to let my 14 year old

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My 14 year old daughter wants her nose pierced, aibu to let her?
Fully prepared to be flamed here 🥴

@Hallyup6

At 14, absolutely not. I would also be wary of anyone who would actually agree to pierce her nose at that age. 16 is absolute minimum for me, and even then I'd say don't. Looks incredibly tacky.

Oh give it a fucking rest.

Yes I would. Dd is 15 or 16 when she got her nose and navel pierced, both fallen out now at 19

Just to add she just went and did it. I had no say.

I'd say fine too. Also the school issue - someone in the year below me had there's done and for school she put one of those little round plasters on it so she didn't have to take it out every day

It’s her body, her choice. However, my only concern would be that most secondary schools are fussy with piercings, only allowing single pierced earlobes. Your Dd may have to keep taking it out and remembering to put it back in.

But you’re asking on the wrong forum. Mumsnet is filled with women with the attitudes of sour Edwardian aunties who think that piercing primary aged girls ears is “child abuse.” God forbid a 15yo having a stud in her nose

I wouldn’t give permission (and it seems you would need to under 16).
What would be your objections? Do you think
It is unhygienic, cheap looking? I do. I wouldn’t allow it on a 14 year old. And I dislike tattoos on any age group; quite why people think they look good is beyond me.

I don’t think they are ‘unhygienic or cheap looking’, and even if I did, it’s not my nose.
Vive la difference

I'd say no to my child at 14

Personally I don’t think your DD is too young at 14. I expect some of her friends have a nose piercing. If it is what she wants I would let her. Been a rubbish year for young people, if it is truly something she wants then it would be a yes from me. But you are her mum, you know her best, you decide.

@OdetoMyFamily

I wouldn't be happy if my DD wanted a nose piercing. Bit skanky IMHO.

Considering that nose piercing is culturally significant for some, this is pretty offensive.

@Pottedpalm

I wouldn’t give permission (and it seems you would need to under 16). What would be your objections? Do you think It is unhygienic, cheap looking? I do. I wouldn’t allow it on a 14 year old. And I dislike tattoos on any age group; quite why people think they look good is beyond me.

You do know people think differently. It is beyond me people can't see this and just choose to be judgemental twats instead. But hey ho.

My DD is 14 and I would say no. It's not necessary and would be a pain to manage around school. At 16 I would say it's her own choice.

I'm a 40yr old professional and have quite a few friends and colleagues who have pierced noses (as do I) and I've never really seen them in the same category as other facial piercings. The demographic who have them ime, are either v middle class, left wing individuals working in social care and wearing lagenlook linens or again, pretty middle class, ageing hippies who like funky dungarees, patchouli and tie dye (I fall into this latter category).

I've never quite understood the perception of them in some quarters. It's not getting love and hate tattooed on your knuckles.

I wouldn’t. It’s a very personal thing though. If you’re ok with it, why not?

I wouldn't allow this personally.

School might be arseholes about it but other than that why the hell not. I’ve got quite a few piercings, 3 in my nose. I’ve always found nose to be a pretty painless one and easy to take care of.

@LST
You do know people think differently to YOU too?
I don’t think you thinking differently makes YOU a judgemental twat. I just think you think differently.

Personally I wouldn't at 14. I think it's too young.

[quote Pottedpalm]@LST
You do know people think differently to YOU too?
I don’t think you thinking differently makes YOU a judgemental twat. I just think you think differently.[/quote]
Totally ok for someon to say I wouldn't personally have one. But I have been called a cheap, tacky, rough, unclean skank on this thread. Is that ok to you is it?

Let her. My DD has a nose piercing and it's a tiny diamond stud and looks really nice.

No issues for school as it's v discreet and she is an expert in keeping it clean changing the nose ring etc .

Just make sure you go to a proper piercing studio who will advise her on proper maintenance.

Btw...there is nothing skanky about it!! It's a personal style and not doing any harm.

Oh and I let her get hers done at age 12

@LST I haven’t called you any of these things.
And if you read my post I was asking the OP whether her objection was on those grounds.

@LST first time I've commented on this so no, I will not give it a * rest. Public forum, everyone is entitled to an opinion. Just because you feel it acceptable for a parent to allow a child to be allowed to stick a piece of metal through their face, doesn't mean we all do. You might be offended that I think it looks tacky but you're only making yourself look tacky by being incredibly rude back. Well done.

I wouldn't purely because she'll have to take it out for school and it will irritate the piercing when it's healing. I had my bellybutton done at 14 but obv that was covered at school.

[quote Pottedpalm]@LST I haven’t called you any of these things.
And if you read my post I was asking the OP whether her objection was on those grounds.[/quote]
'Do you think it is unhygienic, cheap looking? I do'.. those were your words. So do you think people with nose piercings look cheap and are unhygienic or not?