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Kids don't need a hot afternoon meal in this weather. AIBU?

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MeltingFlamenco · 21/07/2021 17:36

DSC are here for tea after school. I have two little ones of my own here too.

I have heat exhaustion and the place is a furnace which I've been trying to cool down all day. It's an open plan living/dining/kitchen area so no escaping the heat from cooking unless you sod off into a bedroom.

OH insists we must make a hot meal, well multiple meals as they won't all eat the same thing.

I think sandwiches, crisps, sausage rolls etc would suffice just this once - DSC have had a hot meal at school so aren't going to be malnourished.

AIBU?

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tallduckandhandsome · 21/07/2021 19:17

Is he heating up pizza, waffles etc, so basically hot junk food?

mbosnz · 21/07/2021 19:17

Sandwiches and ice cream is my vote.

mbosnz · 21/07/2021 19:18

Or a platter - made up of stuff that you know everyone will eat something of - everyone must take at least two items. . .

MagicSummer · 21/07/2021 19:18

We eat a hot dinner every day, winter or summer. Both of us hate salad in any shape or form. I would not be happy with sandwiches and crisps for dinner any day. Give them a proper meal with potatoes and vegetables.

Ifitquacks · 21/07/2021 19:19

@MagicSummer

We eat a hot dinner every day, winter or summer. Both of us hate salad in any shape or form. I would not be happy with sandwiches and crisps for dinner any day. Give them a proper meal with potatoes and vegetables.
So they have to have a hot meal with potatoes and veg because you don’t like sandwiches? Grin
mbosnz · 21/07/2021 19:20

Back home in NZ, anything above 35 was hot. 20 to that was just normal. But we found that a very different heat - for one thing, it was a lot dryer, where we lived, nowhere near as humid. Also, our houses were built with the ability to keep cool, in mind, as well as warm.

Whereas we find the heat here really hard to take over 25, it's very humid, the house is built to retain heat, and quite frankly, we found the heat in Spain lovely, compared to the heat here!

mbosnz · 21/07/2021 19:21

@MagicSummer

We eat a hot dinner every day, winter or summer. Both of us hate salad in any shape or form. I would not be happy with sandwiches and crisps for dinner any day. Give them a proper meal with potatoes and vegetables.
I think you just made me see my mother and father through whole new freshly appreciative eyes. . .
Ifitquacks · 21/07/2021 19:22

@mbosnz

Back home in NZ, anything above 35 was hot. 20 to that was just normal. But we found that a very different heat - for one thing, it was a lot dryer, where we lived, nowhere near as humid. Also, our houses were built with the ability to keep cool, in mind, as well as warm.

Whereas we find the heat here really hard to take over 25, it's very humid, the house is built to retain heat, and quite frankly, we found the heat in Spain lovely, compared to the heat here!

Yes agreed. The heat in Madrid was dry. Here it is muggy, humid and oppressive.
Spacehairdresserandthecowboy · 21/07/2021 19:27

Feel your pain. We stupidly ordered a delivery from Green Chef on Monday and I feel like if we don’t do all the dinners we will waste them. So every day been having hot dinners and am dying to just eat some salad or a sandwich instead.

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MeltingFlamenco · 21/07/2021 19:28

He cooked fish fingers chips and beans, then chicken burgers peas for the others who don't like fish fingers.

Strangely they all like sandwiches Hmm

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Warmduscher · 21/07/2021 19:29

I made soup for lunch for me and DH yesterday Grin.

However we have a kitchen diner with patio doors so the kitchen didn’t stay hot for long.

SpeckledlyHen · 21/07/2021 19:32

@doodlebug71 "I'm wondering what MN people on this thread consider warm/hot weather. 25-30c is warm. Anything over that is hot. I get the distinct feeling that UK peeps think anything over 20c is hot. (It really isn't). That's just warm"

Oh I thank you so much for pointing this out. I never realised. I have been sweating my arse off, the dogs are struggling and my poor kids are besides themselves at night due to the heat, but I will remind them all tomorrow that it is just "warm"

Kakey1294129 · 21/07/2021 19:33

If your oh wants a hot meal, he can bleddy cook it all! YANBU.

newnortherner111 · 21/07/2021 19:36

Not having a hot meal seems fine to me, though I think it should include some fruit instead of pastries/crisps.

Whatup · 21/07/2021 19:36

Perfect barbeque weather? I got a 2 pint of milk defrosting in my lap when it gets really bad I fill a hot water bottle and freeze it

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MeltingFlamenco · 21/07/2021 19:41

We have lots of fruit in, always do.

BBQ suggestions sound lovely but we don't have a garden, that's partially why I was insistent I didn't want any more hot air in here. I can't even go outside later on to cool down unless I want to stand on a main road. Open windows do very little Sad

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/07/2021 19:43

I'm wondering what MN people on this thread consider warm/hot weather. 25-30c is warm. Anything over that is hot. I get the distinct feeling that UK peeps think anything over 20c is hot. (It really isn't). That's just warm It's the joy of geography!

This hot in Spain - no problem,? Across Africa? Fine! It's a far dryer heat.

This heat in UK, it's muggy, the air is really moist and still. So us UK 'peeps' live in a country that is always on th edge of weather systems. Remember our 'wrong type of snow'? And all the "Ooh! The manage in Finland with meres of the stuff". Same point. Even if you ignore the & of any year when snow ploughs are required, we have ice and snow that melts and refreezes daily, in a mloist atmosphere, Finland doesn't..

Our houses are built to keep heat in... we are colder more than we are warm, so that makes sense, historically.

So when you want to be derogatory and smug try thinking it through!

Cos I get the distinct feeling that you didn't bother!

Mulhollandmagoo · 21/07/2021 19:48

He's is absolutely crackers!! I bet the kids would have much rather eaten sandwiches and snack bits! You need to address this with him tonight when everything has calmed down and explain to him what a daft idea that was, and that a picnic tea in 28 degree weather is most definitely 'proper food'

godmum56 · 21/07/2021 19:50

yep, as I have said before, I have been to many hot climates all over the world and dry heat is a walk in the park compared to humid heat

CarnationCat · 21/07/2021 19:50

Children definitely don't need a hot dinner every day. A 'cold' dinner can provide the same nutrition.

I feel for you with the heat the cooking must create with no garden to escape to. Can you take a walk in a bit when the weather's cooled down?

mbosnz · 21/07/2021 19:51

MeltingFlamenco, I'm possibly pointing out the bloody obvious, but if you haven't already, a very cold flannel across the back of the neck (or down the front of your dress or knickers, or all three), really helps. As does going and washing your hands over the wrists in water as cold as you can get it. And dunking your feet in a bowl of cold water.

EmpathyBypass · 21/07/2021 19:54

I'm wondering what MN people on this thread consider warm/hot weather. 25-30c is warm. Anything over that is hot. I get the distinct feeling that UK peeps think anything over 20c is hot. (It really isn't). That's just warm

There's always one 🙄

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 21/07/2021 19:54

cereal, cold milk, piece of fruit.

or OH can cook

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MeltingFlamenco · 21/07/2021 20:01

@mbosnz

MeltingFlamenco, I'm possibly pointing out the bloody obvious, but if you haven't already, a very cold flannel across the back of the neck (or down the front of your dress or knickers, or all three), really helps. As does going and washing your hands over the wrists in water as cold as you can get it. And dunking your feet in a bowl of cold water.
Thank you, I've done everything bar feet in a bowl of cold water so I'll do that now Smile
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MeltingFlamenco · 21/07/2021 20:03

@Mulhollandmagoo

He's is absolutely crackers!! I bet the kids would have much rather eaten sandwiches and snack bits! You need to address this with him tonight when everything has calmed down and explain to him what a daft idea that was, and that a picnic tea in 28 degree weather is most definitely 'proper food'
I have addressed it with him, he knows I'm not best pleased.

He said he didn't think there was enough bread in to make everybody sandwiches, to which I replied he could have easily walked to the shop 2 minutes down the road to get some rather than make the place even hotter when I have heat exhaustion.

He can be so lovely but so fucking dim sometimes 😶

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