To be pissed off at mothers who take their kids to toddlers full of the cold!!!!!

[elliemac]

Have just been to toddlers where one of the mothers was moaning that her DS had been up all night coughing. He was stood there with green snot all down his face poor little mite. He should have been indoors. Now its going to be passed round all the kids

i get told from docctor and health visitor that unless they have a temperature then to send them nursery or play grotp as the amount of colds they will end up with you will spend half your life stuck at home

also it good to give them some activity if they had fever or anything else i would be annoyed but not a cold too many children suffer with continuous colds nursery teacher also says to send with a cold but not fever or any other upset

to be honest with pfb I used to feel like that a bit..however now experience has taught me that if I was to stay home every time one of the little fishes are ill then I would never be going anywhere..at the min 2 out of 3 have a cold, green snot etc last week it was myself and ds who had it while the girls were fine..next week they will have a different bug its the way it works.

If a child feels poorly and under the weather, then don't go out. If your child has a cold but is otherwise fine, then go. I get really annoyed with people who expect me not to take my children out when they have colds. Fair enough if he was wiping his nose on their sleeves - but you can't just stay indoors for the entire winter.

In response to your OP and thread title - yes you are being totally unreasonable. In response to your clarification that the child in question looked ill and was not enjoying himself then maybe he should have stayed away - but for his sake, not for yours or anyone else's.

Soupdragon, a hacking cough is different from a cold. Would probably kill my dd.

If she was well in herself, yes I probably would. Mainly because I never bother taking temperatures. Anyway, the OP never mentioned a temperature.

YABU. colds are a fact of life

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I am firmly in the "I would never go out at all if I stayed in because one of my three had a cold" camp. Fgs children get a lot of colds.
Also two of mine have Asthma, and one of the ways this presented when they were little was a permenantly snotty nose. People wouldn't often say "oh they look ill" but I knew they were fine.
Also, surely other people have had the experience of taking a child out who seems okay, only for them to crash when you get there.
As for temperatures, yes I keep them away.

I'm sorry to hear that, needmorecoffee, but I still wouldn't keep a perfectly well in herself toddler in because of a cold/cough. I wouldn't take her to play with your DD or anyone I knew had health issues like that though.

In reply to the OP, yes, I think you're being a bit unreasonable.

I personally wouldn't take my child to a playgroup etc if they were obviously poorly. But that's a parenting decision that's for me to make.

I wouldn't get annoyed by another child's snotty nose and the infection 'risk' that posed... children nearly always have one bug or another, esp at this time of year. They are all at high risk of contracting everything! (All good for the immune system, anyway!)

Stomach bugs - absolutely - you quarantine yourselves off and get cleaning.
Colds - what are we, the boy in the bubble?
I'm afraid that if your kid has a depressed/lowered immune system, the onus is rather more on you to keep him/her out of circulation, rather than expect the entire world to stop around you.
Obviously you should be informed when other kids have obvious symptoms, but otherwise, you're trying to control something that's errrr...impossible to control.
I get quite annoyed with people who act as though you've got ebola when it's a poxy cold.
yes they're nasty (i usually end up with it lingering on my chest), but it's a work-out for young immune systems.

DS has snot up his nose from November to March - I was the same as a child. Short of joining a harem there's not much I can do. Anyway one doctor told me that colds are at their most infectious before symptoms start to show and I choose to believe that!

I wouldn't take DS out in the roaring, high temp, red faced phase but IME once the green snot starts the worst is over.

I would take my to toddlers if they had a cold with or without snot but tbh if they were unwell with it I'd keep them at home. Anyway, where do you think they caught the cold from in the first place, from someone else obviously.

They just have to catch them to build up their immunity.

I can't believe there are people who take their children out when they have a temperature. I've never known anyone do this is it common now or something?

YAB DS constantly has a snotty/ runny nose and sometimes a slight cough in witner. But if he is happy and bouncy I'm not forcing him to stay indoors and miss his playgroup/ nursery! Besides which that would mean alternative childcare as I work.

If he is miserably ill its a different matter but a runny nose - even green snot? if the kid is fine in themselves then of course you get on with stuff, can't avoid colds and coughs over the winter if you have kids.

YABU.

colds are a fact of life.

ditto VVV

Do people really routinely take their child's temperature whenever they have a cold???

I have no idea if mine have a temperature. If they appear well despite the snot, they're fine IMO.

YABVU

I can tell if my children have a temperature withour actually taking their temperature.

If they appear well, then they probably haven't got a temperature.

I've heard of parents taking their child's temperature routinely every day

yabu. I assume you only have one, elliemac? If I stayed at home every time ds2 had a cold, we'd never go out.

Actually I think raised temp can be a bit of a judgement call anyway. My mate's ds gets a temp as a first response to any slight illness, will be happy and appear well but have a high temp. When he's properly ill his temp goes sky high.

Both mine OTH rarely get temps despite being feeling awful.

So its got to be acombination of things and the most important being if you feel like your dc is feeling poorly.

Putting aside tummy bugs.

soupdragon I was about to say the exact same thing as belgo if kids seem OKish then their v. unlikely to have a temp so yeah, take them out.

You'd know if they had a temp coz they'd be all shivery.

My mother and toddlers group is awash with snot at the moment, there would be no-one there if every kid with a cough, cold and snotty nose didn't attend.

Its nearly December sure doesn't every second person have a cold.

YABU

Gosh, imagine what it'll be like when they hit school age if you keep em away from it all at toddler age. Your DC would never be in school

The only time I disagree with colds being flaunted is around v pg women or new mothers and babies. That's a time when they really could do without getting a cold.

Not always shivery when have a temp.