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AIBU?

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To think my neighbour is wrong to play music in the garden?

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InTheNameOfAllThatIsHonest · 19/07/2021 11:21

I work from home (always, not just a few days a week or because of Covid) and my office opens onto my garden. The section of garden it opens onto is about three metres or so from the boundary fence that separates our garden from our neighbours'.

This neighbour (who we don't have the best relationship with for a number of reasons - but I should say he's attended anger management courses in the past and other neighbours warned us about him in the past) built some kind of permanent gazebo attached to the fence (which also takes light away from our living room but it's been there for longer than we could now report it so it's there to stay) and given they are a retired couple, they spend most of their days sitting there, smoking and playing music. When their grandchildren come over to use the temporary pool, it's constant shrieking (and throwing stuff into our garden!).

We usually don't say anything but today they have started playing some sort of techno music so loud that the people on my conf calls can hear it through my laptop microphone (I have the door open because of the heat).

I tried to call out 'hello? hello?' in a 'friendly voice' but nobody answered. So they either left the music going and left the garden, or just don't care at all. I am getting more and more annoyed at the fact that I might end up having to close the door because of their music, especially in this heat.

AIBU to think they should be more considerate? That when they built that structure attached to the boundary fence they should have realised they couldn't use it as if it where further from our garden?

And, more importantly, how can I get them to stop playing loud music? Thank you!

OP posts:
minipie · 19/07/2021 20:16

@oneglassandpuzzled

People who play loud music in the garden are anti-social. They should use headphones.
This
pleasedonttextmyman · 19/07/2021 20:23

As far as I'm concerned, this country and an awful lot of its people are shit.

you do realise you are part of the problem and the group of people you pretend to dislike?

Lemonmelonsun · 19/07/2021 20:52

I find that some of of the posts bizzare.

So Mr I want to blast out loud techno, which will be heard by tons of people is allowed too because he wants to enjoy his garden, but... Everyone else who is disturbed by his choices, are therfore not allowed to enjoy their garden?

I don't understand it? Why does his need for really loud music trump other people's need for quieter musicians?

Same with fire pits and smoke on really hot days, that smoke means others will be sleeping with their windows shut, it's ghastly, why!

I think low level music for guests eg family bbq...
Louder party music for a proper party must it must be off at 12 and don't subject your neighbours to more loud music for a while.
Loud music for a children's party, two ish hours.

But no loud music every day, esp not so loud other people can hear it and be disrtubed in thier own homes.

Lemonmelonsun · 19/07/2021 20:54

@MidnightMeltdown

This is the problem, do we let them know and risk kick back or not say anything and yes they will be oblivious or... Third option, play loud music back

MyriadeOfThings · 19/07/2021 21:12

@Lemonmelonsun

I find that some of of the posts bizzare.

So Mr I want to blast out loud techno, which will be heard by tons of people is allowed too because he wants to enjoy his garden, but... Everyone else who is disturbed by his choices, are therfore not allowed to enjoy their garden?

I don't understand it? Why does his need for really loud music trump other people's need for quieter musicians?

Same with fire pits and smoke on really hot days, that smoke means others will be sleeping with their windows shut, it's ghastly, why!

I think low level music for guests eg family bbq...
Louder party music for a proper party must it must be off at 12 and don't subject your neighbours to more loud music for a while.
Loud music for a children's party, two ish hours.

But no loud music every day, esp not so loud other people can hear it and be disrtubed in thier own homes.

The thing is, the OP never said the music was techno at full. blast. This only came after she had been told to get on with it.

Just like she only mentioned she has been working from home for years, the NDN is really hard to deal with etc….

If your NDN has music blasting like this, the issue isn’t you wfh and the fact it’s a nuisance for work. The issue is anti social neigbourgs.

Starting with establishing what is the real issue helps (unless it’s because the story was changed half way through)

DeflatedGinDrinker · 19/07/2021 21:44

YABVU

AntiHop · 19/07/2021 21:47

@HeronLanyon

I don’t think anyone should play music in a garden so neighbours can hear it. Unless it’s a party and neighbours are invited or warned. Think it’s really antisocial/thoughtless. Hope you sort it out op.
Exactly this. Playing music in your garden means you are imposing your music on many others. Very anti social
Northernsoullover · 19/07/2021 21:59

Actually there is a law. Environmental Protection Act 1990 is the legislation. Councils will investigate it regardless of the time of day. Contact your Environmental Health department and raise a complaint. They will send you a noise diary and if you are happy for them to do so they can then send a letter to the neighbours. Sometimes this is enough. If they do not abate the nuisance monitoring equipment can be installed and if its decided a statutory nuisance exists then they can issue a fine or seize equipment. You don't have to put up with it nor 'suck it up'.

teass · 20/07/2021 17:44

Is it time to start another thread AIBU to think that it is acceptable to work from home and use my house and garden as I see fit?

OP - its your choice to work from home, if its a problem you need to change your work location either moving room, moving house or getting an actual office.

TertiusLydgate · 20/07/2021 17:47

I wouldn’t dream of playing music in my garden that was loud enough for neighbours to hear. It’s bloody rude and selfish.

If we were having a party, that’s different. But then I’d warn/invite the neighbours.

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