Dog bit me, DH saying it is my own fault

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Playing in the garden with DS age 3 and DH. We were playing water balloons / water fight. I grabbed hose without thinking and started spraying DH, then my DS had s go, by this point our (usually well behaved) dog was getting wound up and leaping at the hose. I saw her leap close to DS with jaws open so I grabbed hose from him to turn it off and the dog leapt at me and bit my hand. It felt like my whole hand went in her mouth and she bit down hard on one of my fingers. I was annoyed and shouted that I was pissed off with the dog and that I've had enough of her (just a few things lately, like eating cat poo and puking it inside, barking at nothing in the night and waking us all up) I'm 25 weeks pregnant so a bit moody and sensitive. ALSO it could have been DS's hand so I was in shock.

DH is now in a mood, saying I know what happens when the hose is sprayed and than it is my fault for being silly - I accept that, it is. But since he hasn't been over to check I'm actually ok or said anything to me, just taken DS inside to watch a film.

Yes the dog has form for being excitable and I should have known but wtf why is he being such a dick about this?

He feels guilty, most likely.

If the skin is broken at all, you need to be checked at A&E because dog bites can turn nasty quickly. Hope it's not too sore!

You’re an owner. You need to act responsibly. The dog was over excited and you saw that, the dog was trying to grab the hose. It is your fault.

That sounds like the dog accidentally bit you after you wound her up and you’ve now realised your actions meant your DS could have been bitten instead. I’d be quite annoyed if someone knew their actions could have resulted in what happened which could have meant my dog being pts.

Yanbu, your dog doesn't sound great for kids if he has to have perfect conditions in order to bite the crap out of someone. What kind of dog is it

You need to go to A&E. Then have a discussion with your DH about the dog - it could have bitten your child.

I’ve got dogs, and yes they get excitable at certain things. If I accidentally wind them up then it’s my fault. It sounds like your dog was trying to catch the water from the hose, hence the jaw open, so when you took the hose that’s when it bit you. It was a pure accident caused by excitement, and probably wouldn’t have happened if you hadn’t taken the hose from your DS.

Mine also love a bit of cat poo!!!

Dh is a bit of dick for not checking you're OK medically, but you did cause the whole situation so he's right in saying it's your own fault.

There is no broken skin just a bruised finger.

All of my dogs bite the water coming out of the hose so we put them inside when we use it. It seems to drive most dogs wild.
You need to use common sense a little here, it’s not like the dog did it on purpose!

I think its time to get rid of dog.

I also don't think you should get another one.

It was not fair on the dog for you to turn on the hose if you know that's a trigger and you also put your son at risk.

I totally accepting of this being my fault. I forgot dog was out with us. I'm more 🤔 about my DH's weird behaviour

Unfortunately it was your fault but dh could be a bit more sympathetic.

The dog was over excited, trying to join in, and they don’t exactly have hands to grab anything so they use their mouths.

As for the cat poop…annoyingly common I’m afraid

Depends who you’re blaming (I have voted YABU in case you’re blaming the overexcited dog). DH definitely could have been more helpful.

@Frootloops4life

Yanbu, your dog doesn't sound great for kids if he has to have perfect conditions in order to bite the crap out of someone. What kind of dog is it

I'm not sure one accidental bite can be interpreted as "biting the crap out of someone". Don't put your back out reaching like that.

I don't think it was your fault OP but I don't think it was the dogs fault either. As owners however one of you should have calmed the dog down sooner. Most dogs go wappy for hoses and you obviously knew she was getting over excited.

Seek medical attention if the skin is broken. Otherwise I'd just chalk it up to one of those things and keep a closer eye on your dog when she's excited from now on.

Did the dog go for you after you turned the hose off?

That sounds like an accidental bite where an excited dog was trying to get the hose (after you had been playing with the hose as a dog toy) rather than an aggressive bite. I would agree it is your fault as the dog owner (though your dh could have stopped things earlier too).

I would wonder if your dh feels like you are angling to get rid of a loved pet and is reacting to that?

Definitely more training needed for the dog though and no more getting it so wound up, I agree it was dangerous to your ds.

It sounds like you intervened to prevent an accident happening and got bit on the way

If DH knows that the behaviour was likely to result in this why didn't he say something 🤔

@Theunamedcat no, it was still on, you have to twist it so I was fiddling with it when she got me.

After things have calmed down, suggest you see a trainer. You've got a an excitable dog, young DC's and a baby on the way.
Your dog really has to learn not to bite people, not even in play. Its best they learn to be soft mouthed and under control as puppies, but its never too late.
But your whole family will have to work together.

It's your fault.

Your thread title is that DH thinks it was your fault.
He's right, it was your fault & of course he's a bit annoyed about it, so what's the problem?

And yes he is being a dick not checking on you

"saying I know what happens when the hose is sprayed"

If you know that spraying the hose upsets the dog, then you really should have put the dog indoors before playing with it.

You said you did it 'without thinking' and I don't think it's the dogs fault for reacting badly to something you know he reacts badly to. If you had kept thinking, none of this would have happened.

To be fair I’d have been annoyed that you’d got the dog into a position where it bit anyone. My golden retriever goes bananas for the hose, same thing jumping up and getting over excited, which means they find it very difficult to obey commands and behave as normal. So we use the hose when he’s inside. You are putting it in a Position where it shouldn’t need to be tbh, practising negative behaviours such as over arousal. Dog didn’t know what to do because he was wound up and then you told him off.

It’s not good it bit you and I hope you’re ok, my dp does stuff like that and it does annoy me due to the position it puts the dog in whilst I’m trying to train him. I try to avoid letting him practise those kind of behaviours as they repeat them and this is what happens.

I think you were both in the wrong he could’ve taken the dog away if he felt it was getting overwhelmed or over excited and you should’ve thought before playing with something that clearly sets your dog off - we all make mistakes though and hopefully you’re fine just shaken up. It’s a big thing for your dog too, wound up to the point of biting abs then shouted at. I’d let him go off to sleep it off and process for the rest of the day it can take a few days for dogs to get over these sort of events and cause them anxiety. And I’m not saying the dog was right to bite you or I condone dogs biting, but a usually well behaved non biting dog wouldn’t normally just bite for the heck of it. If it’s accompanied by other aggressive behaviours I’d take it to the vets and for behaviour consultations.

I’ll buck the trend. I wouldn’t be happy.

I think your average family pet should be able to withstand a water fight or a hose being on without biting someone.