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Dog bit me, DH saying it is my own fault

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Toastedsesame · 18/07/2021 16:15

Playing in the garden with DS age 3 and DH. We were playing water balloons / water fight. I grabbed hose without thinking and started spraying DH, then my DS had s go, by this point our (usually well behaved) dog was getting wound up and leaping at the hose. I saw her leap close to DS with jaws open so I grabbed hose from him to turn it off and the dog leapt at me and bit my hand. It felt like my whole hand went in her mouth and she bit down hard on one of my fingers. I was annoyed and shouted that I was pissed off with the dog and that I've had enough of her (just a few things lately, like eating cat poo and puking it inside, barking at nothing in the night and waking us all up) I'm 25 weeks pregnant so a bit moody and sensitive. ALSO it could have been DS's hand so I was in shock.

DH is now in a mood, saying I know what happens when the hose is sprayed and than it is my fault for being silly - I accept that, it is. But since he hasn't been over to check I'm actually ok or said anything to me, just taken DS inside to watch a film.

Yes the dog has form for being excitable and I should have known but wtf why is he being such a dick about this?

OP posts:
BudrosBudrosGalli · 18/07/2021 17:30

People like you get good dogs put down. Rather than accept that you were responsible for winding it up when it snapped for the water, which very many very friendly dogs, you blame the poor dog. I'd be furious with you too and not be very sympathetic.

godmum56 · 18/07/2021 17:30

@Powertothepetal

I’ll buck the trend. I wouldn’t be happy I think your average family pet should be able to withstand a water fight or a hose being on without biting someone This is my opinion also.
Then you'd both be wrong....also what happened was NOT a bite, it was mouthing. Dog gets wound up and loses control, starts leaping around with mouth open, like child getting excited and waving a toy around and clouting someone with it. You'd be cross with the person who wound the child up, not with the child. I am not surprised your husband is angry, I'd be angry at your thoughtlessness too. You put your child and the dog at risk all for lack of a little thought.
godmum56 · 18/07/2021 17:30

[quote GrandmasCat]@naunet, frankly, it does take quite a bit of bad training for a dog to bite its owner. The only kind of accident this can be described as is “an accident waiting to happen”

I would understand if it was just a nip but a proper bite? Feck no, even a dog know where the line is drawn.

I am not saying they need to rehome the dog or put him down but they certainly need to get the behaviour sorted before it happens again.[/quote]
yes...The OP's behaviour

3scape · 18/07/2021 17:34

Dogs aren't compatible with a normal family life. You have to alter your behaviour constantly in order to curb all of their excitable and defensive habits, just look at all the posters saying using a hose pipe is reckless around a dog, or just having fun! A bit of a wake up call that a dog is never a great idea with children. Disaster waiting to happen.

Viviennemary · 18/07/2021 17:35

Im not keen on dogs and they shouldn't 't be biting anybody. But you don't sound like a responsible dog owner. You were both in the wrong. Soon a new baby will be added to this chaos. Get it sorted.

Melitza · 18/07/2021 17:35

@GrandmasCat the dog didn't set out to bite the OP.
He wanted the hose.
I don't allow my dgc to play with soft toys near my dog because she will try to grab them and could accidentally catch his hand. She doesn't know the difference between a child's toys and hers.

speakout · 18/07/2021 17:37

Rough violent games are no good for children or pets.

Shelddd · 18/07/2021 17:37

Some of these responses are a little interesting.

When a dog bites it's owner, it's time to give it away. Sorry.

Lovemusic33 · 18/07/2021 17:38

The dog didn’t mean to bite OP, he/she went for the hose because they were all messing around, a lot of dogs would have done the same. My dog accidentally hit my DD’s hand once when she was waving her toy around (a dog toy), she didn’t mean to bite dd she meant to bite the toy, wasn’t her fault at all and no way would I consider getting rid of her.

Dogs do eat cat poo, dogs also bark 😐😐.

Royalbloo · 18/07/2021 17:39

You've basically said, "Yeah, I know it was my fault but why is DH saying it was my fault!"

Erm...because it was?

JudgeJ · 18/07/2021 17:40

@Touloser

Dh is a bit of dick for not checking you're OK medically, but you did cause the whole situation so he's right in saying it's your own fault.
She created the situation, why does she now need a nanny? An adult can deal with their own minor injuries.
curlymom · 18/07/2021 17:41

You obviously don’t have time for the dog and can’t be bothered to train it properly. That’s probably obvious to your husband hence his response. Another family will be kinder to the dog if you let it go and you can spend time looking after yourself which is more important to you

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 18/07/2021 17:42

@Shelddd

Oh please! The dog wasn't going for the OP! You're being ridiculous. As is the OP.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 18/07/2021 17:43

@diddl Me too. I'd choose the pets over DH and he knows that Grin

sadperson16 · 18/07/2021 17:43

I was thinking about getting a dog but the thought of having something in my home that eats cat shit, makes my stomach turn.

Kiatu · 18/07/2021 17:44

He’s not being a dick. He’s upset that you were a dick in a way that risked your child, your dog and you.

anon12345678901 · 18/07/2021 17:44

@Shelddd

Some of these responses are a little interesting.

When a dog bites it's owner, it's time to give it away. Sorry.

Ridiculous. OP deliberately got in the way of the dog playing, causing the bite. It's not the dogs fault.
curlymom · 18/07/2021 17:44

@sadperson16

I was thinking about getting a dog but the thought of having something in my home that eats cat shit, makes my stomach turn.
If they don’t have access to poopies they won’t eat it 😂
Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 18/07/2021 17:46

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InTheNightWeWillWish · 18/07/2021 17:46

If DH winds one of the dogs up and they hurt him, he gets no sympathy from me. If he winds the dogs up and they hurt me or get in a position where they might hurt someone else (like your DS), then I’m going to be really pissed off with him. It’s one thing to put himself in the path of an excitable dog, it’s a different matter entirely to put other people in the line of an excitable dog. The dog bruised your finger, I’m not sure what your DH can do to be honest.

summersflowers · 18/07/2021 17:49

I swear some people here would rescue their dog first from a house fire.

diddl · 18/07/2021 17:50

[quote Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel]@diddl Me too. I'd choose the pets over DH and he knows that Grin[/quote]
Close run thing here too!

PandemicAtTheDisco · 18/07/2021 17:50

It sounds like the OP has less experience with dogs than her husband and many on this thread. She needs education not countless remarks repeating the same thing.

Her husband might think she needs space rather than being uncaring.

1starwars2 · 18/07/2021 17:51

I would be upset if DH started shouting about getting rid of the dog because of a situation he caused.
He is probably hurt that you are being horrible about the dog because of a situation you caused.
My children would be horrified too, but the dog is the golden child 👶.

curlymom · 18/07/2021 17:51

@summersflowers

I swear some people here would rescue their dog first from a house fire.
Yes they would because they are members of the family too. There are quite a few nice people here!