How do I find out her name?

[sillysituation]

In the grand scheme of life this isn't a major problem. But it's a little embarrassing.

We moved house in April last year so have been here a little over a year. The next door neighbour introduced herself in the first few weeks and was so lovely and friendly. She obviously would have told me her name at that point. Anyway, I've forgotten it 🙈

It's more and more awkward with each conversation. We see each other a lot and chat over the garden fence. I had a baby earlier this year and she was so interested in my pregnancy asking for updates on baby's arrival etc, and coos over baby every time I'm outside with her. Basically, I feel as though I have developed quite a lovely friendship with my neighbour over the past year or so. But I have no clue what her name is 😂

And now it feels like it's gone too far for me to ask, if that makes sense? If someone you'd been chatting to for the best part of a year suddenly said "sorry, what's your name again?" you'd be pretty offended right?

My question is ... how the hell do I find out her name without offending her?!

I called our old NDN Ian for years, wrote it on Christmas cards and everything. It was only once we sold up and left I found out he was called Steve. I now try really hard to remember the names of any new neighbours!

@Mmmmdanone

My neighbour's boyfriend moved in a couple of years ago and I'm sure introduced himself as Keir. So that's what I call him. Then I overheard someone calling him Kieran. I'm now wondering who's wrong and am too scared to ask 🤣

Surely this is just someone called Kieran who goes by Kier for short?

@sillysituation

Also the funny thing is I know all her kids' names as she refers to them all the time when we're chatting. And her hubby 😂 But not hers!!

I used to chat regularly to someone at the gym where I knew the names of all their family as they obviously only ever referred to themself as 'i' or 'me'.

I called a neighbour a few doors away Jenny for YEARS. It's actually Penny, I'd misheard.

My mum gets a Christmas card every year with a different name from one neighbour. Not even close either, like Sheila, Jane and doreen on subsequent years

Baby brain! Blame baby brain.
When you're next chatting make something up about being forgetful. Then say 1 can't even remember your name today! What is it again?!

Just ask her!
Say “
I have Nappy Brain and my head is like a sieve at moment- I’ve forgotten your name, how embarrassing is that!

@sillysituation
I was carrying a pre - vaccinated puppy in my arms and saw a smiling woman with a gorgeous baby in a sling
She stopped to talk, I said what a beautiful smily baba she had- looked at her partner- and they were my new neighbours!!

Both had sunglasses on, and I’d only seen the baby asleep in her pushchair months ago.

I just made a joke of being scatty and the sunglasses..

I’ve lived in my house for over 20 years. One of my neighbours who lived here before me, still calls me by the wrong name. Too much time has passed to correct her.

Recently we swapped numbers, so I sent her a text, saying “hi this is Friyay”. She’s still calling me by the wrong name!!

ask the postman

I had this with someone I dog walked with.

She used to "over say" my name. In every bloody sentence.

Got another dog walker to introduce herself and ask Mystery walkers name. She took one for the team and found out.

Is there anyone-other friend etc who can find out for you by introducing themselves?

Google the address and postcode. You’ll get links to 192 etc. This should give name of people at the address...

Get a good disguise, with glasses and a moustache. Knock on the door to conduct a made up survey which requires her name. Don’t forget to take a clipboard

@kimlo

Hope that she's not in one day and you take in a delivery for her.

Join the local facebook page and hope she's on it.

Or just move.

Just move 🤣🤣🤣

@sillysituation

I like the Christmas card idea ... maybe give that a go. Only 5 months to wait to find out her name

I think the neighbours is, a good idea because someone will know.

W

Just ask the woman her name and stop worrying about it, Some people can have a memory lapse at times. You can laugh about it later if she has become a friend. Then write the name on calendar, in case you forget it again.

Ask the postman?

I haven't read all 7 pages so someone has probably said it already, but if she's on the electoral roll you can see who is living at the address on 192. Otherwise, if she owns her property you can buy the deeds to her house for 1pound50 from the land registry.

Just ask. I'm terrible with names, so have to do this all the time. Most people don't mind.

It's quite possible she's forgotten yours too!

I've known "Italian guy" for about 5 years now, we see each other weekly

Only read OP posts so apologies if this had already been suggested...

Invite a trusted friend over and be in the garden when you're neighbor comes out. Chat with her and after a couple of minutes get your friend to say "sorry for my rude friend not introducing us, my name is X, what's yours?" in a joky kind of way, you can then laugh and apologise for baby brain meaning you've forgotten your manners and it's done!

Me and dh rely on this often as we're totally shit at names!

Say to the baby “say hello to Mrs….. oh sorry, what’s your last name” hopefully she’ll say “oh no, that’s fine, she can call me Pam”

@Clancey

Just call her by any name then immediately apologize for getting her name wrong, & pray that you did. She will then hopefully tell you what it is.

I wouldn't bank on that. My NDN keeps talking about 'Matt'. I just realised she thinks DPs name is Matt. I'm guessing it's because his self employed van says 'Matthews' on it but that's his surname.... I've not corrected her because she only does it 50% of the time and I only notice afterwards 50% of the time too so I'm just going to leave it to DP when he notices. She shouts my name over the back fence often and I go. She has shouted on Matt a few times. Must think he's an ignorant prick.

@CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson

Only read OP posts so apologies if this had already been suggested...

Invite a trusted friend over and be in the garden when you're neighbor comes out. Chat with her and after a couple of minutes get your friend to say "sorry for my rude friend not introducing us, my name is X, what's yours?" in a joky kind of way, you can then laugh and apologise for baby brain meaning you've forgotten your manners and it's done!

Me and dh rely on this often as we're totally shit at names!

This is better than my fake survey idea 😂

Ask her what she wants the baby to call her?

Check land registry - need to pay :D