Tradespeople using the loo

[JeanneDoe]

Want to canvas opinions here.
We had a man over to service our burglar alarm.
It’s an annual service provided by the alarm company.
I’m WFH and my home office is above the downstairs loo.
Heard the alarm guy walking around checking out the alarm points around the house. Then heard him in the bathroom. Didn’t think there was a motion sensor in there.
He was in there for quite a while and then I heard a toilet flush.
Turns out a rather pungent bowel movement was had.
I am a bit pissed off. I know I’m unreasonable (and a bit precious) that I hate people that don’t live in my house taking a dump in my house.
But AIBU that he should have at least asked me if he could use our bathroom?

Could you pick your poo apart from their poo in a lineup?

Pmsl at the thought of a poo ID parade.

But I am sure posters will find plenty of excuses for someone who chose to defecate on a beach or in somebody's front garden. Revolting

I doubt if anyone "chose" to crap on a beach. They probably just found it preferable to the alternative, ie shitting themselves.

Or they could have crapped in a bag and taken it home with them. That's another alternative.

@Sweetpeasaremadeforbees

I don't get this "they should ask first" - if you're always going to say 'yes' then what's the problem? Seems like a power/control issue to me

Well I guess I'm just weird then. If I go round a friend's house for a coffee I'll say 'could I just use your loo please' (not if I'm staying overnight, then I think you just become like a member of their family) and they do the same to me. I fully expect them to let me, but it would feel rude not to ask.

Because I like my friends I'd expect them to ask to do something as innocuous as use the toilet, anymore than I'd expect them to ask to walk into the kitchen.

And at anybody's house I never ask, I just go. Or ask "where's your toilet". Wasn't aware I was committing a grave social faux pas

@namechangedForthus

if we ever have anyone here I have done it so I can lock and unlock from outside the room I just run a tap in there and say someone’s in the shower sorry

@namechangedForthus sorry you purposefully pretend the toilet is in use so people don't use it I don't think people are for you

@namechangedForthus

I have certain conditions and I can’t deal with the thought of having to clean up after anyone else’s poo plus I have issues around smells just can’t deal with it

Then you really shouldn't have workmen or visitors until you deal with these issues as it's just strange and rude

That's brilliant. Leaving a tap running to make a tradesman think the shower is on.

It's bad enough that you think they're good enough to fix your house but not good enough to use your bog. Don't go insulting their intelligence too.

Pretty low to expect others to work in your house and make them feel uncomfortable though.

What if they have bowel issues and your actions would make them physically unwell?

There are ways to treat people in your employment. Denying loo access is pretty appalling.

Good luck with getting a proper, professional conscientious job from somebody whose guts are groaning and stomach churning. Even the best, most conscientious tradesperson would end up leaving a terrible, unfinished job and - if not quick enough - a very much finished job of a different kind for you to scrub off the kitchen floor - which apparently is greatly preferable to a bit of a whiff coming from an actual toilet that's already dispatched the poo in the usual way for you.

I have certain conditions and I can’t deal with the thought of having to clean up after anyone else’s poo plus I have issues around smells just can’t deal with it

But even if you decide never to have children or to look after anybody vulnerable for those reasons.... don't your own poos smell? how do you deal with that? We're all human - even the Archbishop of Canterbury sometimes leaves the lavvy at Lambeth Palace honking like a Canada goose.

namechangedForthus

I have certain conditions and I can’t deal with the thought of having to clean up after anyone else’s poo plus I have issues around smells just can’t deal with it.
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That is fair enough, we cannot help that sort of thing, but it needs to be made clear at the outset so that anyone using your loo will minimise the smell (there are sprays to go in loo pre-poo), leave everything clean, the lid down and door closed.

Most people who are not going to be in your home very long will not use your toilet but those doing a longer job (no pun intended), will need to.

For all those people too precious to allow anyone else to use the bog - you need to get one of those hired loos that you see at festivals etc dropped off whenever a stranger is due to visit your house.

@DynamoKev

For all those people too precious to allow anyone else to use the bog - you need to get one of those hired loos that you see at festivals etc dropped off whenever a stranger is due to visit your house.

Ah yes, the lovely thunderbox. Working in construction I come across lots of these in the early and final stages of a project. They really do amplify the noise lol

For all those people too precious to allow anyone else to use the bog - you need to get one of those hired loos that you see at festivals etc dropped off whenever a stranger is due to visit your house.

At least, unlike at festivals, you shouldn't have to worry about the hazard of bog-pushers.