Tradespeople using the loo

[JeanneDoe]

Want to canvas opinions here.
We had a man over to service our burglar alarm.
It’s an annual service provided by the alarm company.
I’m WFH and my home office is above the downstairs loo.
Heard the alarm guy walking around checking out the alarm points around the house. Then heard him in the bathroom. Didn’t think there was a motion sensor in there.
He was in there for quite a while and then I heard a toilet flush.
Turns out a rather pungent bowel movement was had.
I am a bit pissed off. I know I’m unreasonable (and a bit precious) that I hate people that don’t live in my house taking a dump in my house.
But AIBU that he should have at least asked me if he could use our bathroom?

Honestly, if you can tell them they can't use the loo at the point of need, you can find a way to tell them before that point.

@WeHaveComeSoFar seriously?
The idea of my plumbers wife rushing to my door to defend her defenceless husband from my rudeness! ‘Making damn well sure’ honestly?

Really hope that you don’t do that to him for goodness sake.

[quote makingmyway10]@WeHaveComeSoFar seriously?
The idea of my plumbers wife rushing to my door to defend her defenceless husband from my rudeness! ‘Making damn well sure’ honestly?

Really hope that you don’t do that to him for goodness sake. [/quote]
😂

poor guy, now that would make anyone absolutely mortified.

[quote makingmyway10]@WeHaveComeSoFar seriously?
The idea of my plumbers wife rushing to my door to defend her defenceless husband from my rudeness! ‘Making damn well sure’ honestly?

Really hope that you don’t do that to him for goodness sake. [/quote]
My father, not my partner. Read properly. He still works. And yes, I would say something to anyone that was so fucking rude to him. Although, he'd be more than likely to tell you to stick it anyway.

Go get some manners.

So many weirdos on here, honestly.

@WeHaveComeSoFar the irony of your last post

@hellogem

That's so rude to use your toilet without asking! I hate workmen using my toilet, obviously I never deny them but I would rather they didn't. There's been lots of time when I've had workers, they've only just walked through the door and have already asked to use the toilet However I once had a electrician over who worked nearly 6 hours at my house, I topped him with plenty of drink/coffee, he never used the toilet and I did wonder doesn't he need a wee after drinking all that.

He probably pissed in your garden, or in a bottle somewhere

If people have some arrangement whereby ‘the trade’ are only welcome in a particular loo, then the grown up, well mannered way of dealing with that is to politely explain when they arrive.

Not expect the lowly working classes to ask permission from lady bountiful like they’re a child.

It’s interesting that people are so unaware of how their actions reflect what they really think about people.

@IHateScottBrick

When we moved into our brand new home, I saw one of the movers coming out of the bathroom, having evidently just used the toilet. I felt kind of weird that a stranger ended up being the first person to use our toilet but I guess he had to go somewhere!

I used to work with someone who would only buy a new build as she couldn't bear to buy a used toilet or bath. She would only shower at hotels as she wouldn't use a bath someone outside her family had been in. Wouldn't go to.yhe loo any used to think she was exceptionally wierd. Since Mumsnet I've been stunned to realise there are more likely her.

He probably pissed in your garden, or in a bottle somewhere

For sure. I had a couple of men working on my mains stopcock outside last year. They were there pretty much all day. I took them out drinks and they had drinks with them, too. I did tell them at one point to just come and knock if they wanted to come in for the loo, but they never did.
As they were working out the front by the road I can only assume they peed into something in their van!

Since Mumsnet I've been stunned to realise there are more likely her.

It’s really eye opening, isn’t it?

The most MN things of all is to turn everything into a bunfight about social class

@onlyhereforthecake

The most MN things of all is to turn everything into a bunfight about social class

The OP did that by using “Tradespeople” in the title.

@NerrSnerr

I wonder how many people on here don't realise that their own poo stinks- they're just used to the smell so don't realise it!

Or he could have IBS which would account for urgency and ponginess

what else did you want them to be called?
Is "tradesman" an insult now?

@HPLikecraft since when has the term ‘tradespeople’ been an indult?

I am stunned that there is so much vitriol to other peoples opinions on here! It is a discussion forum.

There are some really aggressive posters here mostly telling other posters how to behave

I used to work with someone who would only buy a new build as she couldn't bear to buy a used toilet or bath. She would only shower at hotels as she wouldn't use a bath someone outside her family had been in. Wouldn't go to.yhe loo any used to think she was exceptionally wierd. Since Mumsnet I've been stunned to realise there are more likely her.

I know someone like this! obviously She has to go to the toilet while she's on holiday but won't have a bath as she doesn't like the idea of her bum being where other people's bums have been!

@makingmyway10 and @onlyhereforthecake

OP made a point of mentioning that it was a tradesperson using her loo, as if their using the loo was somehow worse or more disgusting than anyone else.

She didn't "make a point', it's actually relevant

A thread about "a man using the loo without asking" would just attract pages of "what man, why, why was he in the house, is he a medic, a friend, a neighbour, your DH, your FIL, a burglar, are you sure it's a man, why the sexism, NAMALT..."

I suppose it could have been "the burglar alarm man only spending a few minutes in the house" but it's becoming a handful

She didn't "make a point', it's actually relevant

Clearly!

“Tradespeople” is literally the first word of the title of this thread:

“Tradespeople using the loo”

So clearly “tradespeople” was an important factor to the OP. And, rightly or wrongly, some people may think OP was making a distinction between tradespeople and other people in regard to using the loo, which seems a little discriminatory.

Those of us who are, or love, a tradesperson (as I do) see no reason to differentiate. I can confirm the tradesperson I know is well toilet trained and his shit smells no worse than anyone else’s (though I am biased, obvs)

Bloody hell! I can just picture the Daily Fail headline now:

VISITING WORKMAN USES TOILET TO DO A POO

These threads are ridiculous. Yes, ideally he should have asked, but it could have been that he was struck by a sudden and hard to control urge. That could have meant that there wasn't time to ask, unless you would be happy for him to shit his pants and have it possibly slither down his legs onto your floor (yes, that can happen before anyone jumps on me to say it can't).

I've had IBS for much of my adult life. There are various medical reasons for it which I won't go into at the moment, but I don't have the luxury of always being able to wait until I can get home. Add to that very heavy flooding periods too. Outings have to be planned around where I am confident that there will be toilets available, and that did become much more of a problem during the Covid restrictions.

It has only been on MN that I have begun to realise how precious some people are about their toilets. I'm sure some must keep theirs locked in glass display cabinets. Pristine and sparkling but not to be used. Only as ornaments to be admired without touching. Certainly never to be shat in.

HPLikecraft

you can't see a reason to differentiate between
"tradesman", or "my DH" , "the postman" or "guest staying overnight".

yeah right 😂

@onlyhereforthecake

HPLikecraft

you can't see a reason to differentiate between
"tradesman", or "my DH" , "the postman" or "guest staying overnight".

yeah right 😂

There’s no difference in the smelliness, so no reason to single tradespeople out!

OP actually said “I hate people who don’t live here taking a dump in my house” in which case there’s no reason to discriminate between trades, posties and visitors and any other non-residents.

If OP has a problem with her DH pooing in his own house then she’d better move out!