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Tradespeople using the loo

464 replies

JeanneDoe · 14/07/2021 09:53

Want to canvas opinions here.
We had a man over to service our burglar alarm.
It’s an annual service provided by the alarm company.
I’m WFH and my home office is above the downstairs loo.
Heard the alarm guy walking around checking out the alarm points around the house. Then heard him in the bathroom. Didn’t think there was a motion sensor in there.
He was in there for quite a while and then I heard a toilet flush.
Turns out a rather pungent bowel movement was had.
I am a bit pissed off. I know I’m unreasonable (and a bit precious) that I hate people that don’t live in my house taking a dump in my house.
But AIBU that he should have at least asked me if he could use our bathroom?

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onceivepostedidontcomeback · 14/07/2021 21:50

Assuming you told him you were upstairs working he probably didn't want to disturb you?

It's a natural bodily function, wouldn't bother me.

onceivepostedidontcomeback · 14/07/2021 21:51

Oh, and everyone's shit stinks whether you think yours does or doesn't!

onlyhereforthecake · 14/07/2021 21:53

@onceivepostedidontcomeback

Oh, and everyone's shit stinks whether you think yours does or doesn't!
charming.

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others.

PennyDreadful66 · 14/07/2021 21:53

I mean he could have had a dump in your hallway so the toliet is much more preferably

TheKeatingFive · 14/07/2021 21:55

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others.

And if you’re working in other people’s homes/on the road all day, what are you supposed to do! Hmm

prawntoastie · 14/07/2021 21:56

Should have asked

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 21:57

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others.

Honestly, shit stinks way less than this attitude.

If you think it's an imposition, do your plumbing, plastering, electrics and building yourself.

Gameofbones · 14/07/2021 21:57

The snobbery on this thread is incredible.

May I ask if a friend pops over are they allowed to use the bathroom or is it just those beneath you socially?

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 21:58

I daren't start up the toilet brush debate but don't you people have windows and air freshener?

Whatabouttery · 14/07/2021 21:59

I appreciate anyone coming to my house to do something for me which I'm not skilled enough or not inclined to do myself.

I will point out the toilet and offer refreshments and basically treat them like a human being. I even make sure I've got my piano tuner's favourite biscuits in and soya milk for my gardener.

If it's a heavy labour job I get soft drinks in too.
I used to do a job which required me visiting people's houses and spending a lot of time away from base. Occasionally I really, really had to use their facilities, sometimes it's just unavoidable.

Glad they were all decent people and not like some of the weirdos on this thread.

onlyhereforthecake · 14/07/2021 22:03

@DrSbaitso

I daren't start up the toilet brush debate but don't you people have windows and air freshener?
I won't go into the debate either, but I imagine most houses with young children don't keep bleach, fresheners or any kind of cleaning products in view, and accessible to small children.

It takes a few years until you can safely leave the bleach next to the loo.

TheKeatingFive · 14/07/2021 22:04

and basically treat them like a human being.

You’d think this would be a basic bar most would set for themselves, but this thread’s an eye opener.

TheHateIsNotGood · 14/07/2021 22:09

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others

which, clearly, most people do.....but even in your own home, have you not ever had a shit that smelt a bit stinky?

Maybe you have a stinky-shit as a pre-planned event, or maybe your shit never stinks.

One of life's mysteries......

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 22:14

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others.

@onlyhereforthecake what is your problem with poo?

And it would soon smell on your house if a workman shit himself hanging a shelf because you think poking is inherently wrong

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 22:14

*pooing not poking 🤣

I am NOT in favour of workmen poking anything

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 22:16

I won't go into the debate either, but I imagine most houses with young children don't keep bleach, fresheners or any kind of cleaning products in view, and accessible to small children.

House parties are a right laugh at yours, aren't they?

The bog doesn't need a full bleach every time someone uses it. If the smell is that bad, and you cannot possibly keep any air freshener in the room, just go in and give the place a spray when it needs it. It's a small price to pay for the sanctity of your porcelain.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 22:19

Air freshener sprayed after a poo quite simply smells like shit mixed with revolting faux-floral air freshener. I have none but the windows in my toilets can open.

Lol at "yOuRE a LAuGh aT pARtIeS" because someone doesn't keep bleach in reach of children 😂😂😂

mariomushroom · 14/07/2021 22:20

I would really love to know what people who never poo outside of their own homes (and frown upon others who do) would do if they ever need to go when they’re not at home. Assuming they always create delicate rose-smelling poos at 7.30am every day while in their own toilets? Having to use a public loo must surely have happened to us all, we’re human beings. Having a stinky poo in the toilet is of course not ideal, but the workman needed to go. Maybe in the past he’s been told no when he asked to go, and then what would he have to do? Drive off to find a Costa or a Tesco to use the loos? Not very pleasant for anyone

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 22:21

@mariomushroom I've asked but had no answer as to how on Earth people hold poo in?!

UnChatNoir · 14/07/2021 22:23

but clearly some people keep their stench to their private home and don't impose on others

You're just not right ...

omgthepain · 14/07/2021 22:23

What was he meant to do? Pop in your garden?
Get a grip and stop being so stupid

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 22:23

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

Air freshener sprayed after a poo quite simply smells like shit mixed with revolting faux-floral air freshener. I have none but the windows in my toilets can open.

Lol at "yOuRE a LAuGh aT pARtIeS" because someone doesn't keep bleach in reach of children 😂😂😂

It's more the attitude that decent people wouldn't ever dream of taking a shit in any toilet but their own. Really relaxed atmosphere in that house, I'm sure.

I agree about floral air scents, but you can get air fresheners that actually neutralise the smell rather than mask it. Given that everyone's shit stinks, most people should have found a way to combat it that works for them by the time they're in charge of their own house.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 22:25

@DrSbaitso yes I strongly suspect that there's a lot of thinly veiled classism and that it's the thought of a working class person's poo in their toilet that people don't like. But they wouldn't tell the Queen she couldn't use the toilet

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 22:26

[quote FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]@DrSbaitso yes I strongly suspect that there's a lot of thinly veiled classism and that it's the thought of a working class person's poo in their toilet that people don't like. But they wouldn't tell the Queen she couldn't use the toilet[/quote]
That would be a royal flush.

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 22:31

It occurs to me, too late, that someone having a fit of the vapours over poo contained in a toilet, while claiming to have children so young that she can't possibly keep a can of air freshener handy in the toilet, might not be entirely genuine...

You got me, but only because there are so many people on here who really are serious. Some people earlier were saying the plumber should fuck off to the local supermarket rather than use their toilet for its intended purpose, and they don't appear to be joking.