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Tradespeople using the loo

464 replies

JeanneDoe · 14/07/2021 09:53

Want to canvas opinions here.
We had a man over to service our burglar alarm.
It’s an annual service provided by the alarm company.
I’m WFH and my home office is above the downstairs loo.
Heard the alarm guy walking around checking out the alarm points around the house. Then heard him in the bathroom. Didn’t think there was a motion sensor in there.
He was in there for quite a while and then I heard a toilet flush.
Turns out a rather pungent bowel movement was had.
I am a bit pissed off. I know I’m unreasonable (and a bit precious) that I hate people that don’t live in my house taking a dump in my house.
But AIBU that he should have at least asked me if he could use our bathroom?

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UnChatNoir · 14/07/2021 18:37

Not everyone is a perfect porcelain princess

🤣🤣

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 14/07/2021 18:39

People who don't poo outside their own house - do you mean just in other people's homes or will you go in hotels/service stations etc? What's the difference? And more importantly HOW do you hold it in?!

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 18:40

@TTCfirsttimer

Can't believe so many people are ok with strangers pooing in their house!

Makes me feel uncomfortable just thinking about it!

And no, I don't poo at work either!

Your username is intriguing. You are uncomfortable with poo, you say?
Whatabouttery · 14/07/2021 18:43

Your username is intriguing. You are uncomfortable with poo, you say?
😂😂😂

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 18:43

[quote Gameofbones]@DrSbaitso it’s lesser shit because you know ‘they work with their hands’[/quote]
EWWWWWW!!!!

Maggiesfarm · 14/07/2021 20:05

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

People who don't poo outside their own house - do you mean just in other people's homes or will you go in hotels/service stations etc? What's the difference? And more importantly HOW do you hold it in?!
When I was young, pre-kids, I rarely poo'd in anyone else's house. I was constipated for years.

Now I don't care, if I have to go I go.

DerisorySnort · 14/07/2021 20:40

The man would not have used the op's loo unless he had to

That bears repeating.
Do the disgusted and uncomfortable on the thread believe this man pooed for fun? To waste time? As an act of passive aggression, intimidation or sexual perversion?

Do they think he should just hold it and/or spend the rest of his working day mincing around with tightly clenched buttocks?

No. He had to poo.

Beyond ridiculous to object to a basic need and bodily function. It smells a bit... so what? So does yours.

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 20:53

Do the disgusted and uncomfortable on the thread believe this man pooed for fun? To waste time? As an act of passive aggression, intimidation or sexual perversion?

This is glorious.

Do they think he should just hold it and/or spend the rest of his working day mincing around with tightly clenched buttocks?

Apparently they do...

I wonder how some of these people achieve orgasm. At the sight of a gleaming, sterile porcelain lavatory? Bet parties are a right wild time round those houses.

NerrSnerr · 14/07/2021 20:56

I think some people genuinely feel they are somehow superior to others because they will only do a poo in their own toilet.

Newkitchen123 · 14/07/2021 20:58

So if he had said excuse me can I use your loo and then he had used it for a poo would that have been OK? Or would you have said you can wee but not poo?

Userg1234 · 14/07/2021 20:59

Ok ok I am a tradesman. Here are your options
1 I poo in your house and am embarrassed by your reaction
2 i dig a hole in your garden and poo and cover
3 I poo into a plastic bag in a bucket and take it with me
FYI I've done all 3 and prefer 2

chocolateorangeinhaler · 14/07/2021 21:01

Would you prefer guests to your house to shit themselves and walk about? The smell would be far worse.

Seriously, stop being a twat.

Indigopearl · 14/07/2021 21:09

When I employ a tradesman I show them where the loo is before they start and offer them a drink. I then leave them to get on with the job. I wouldn't expect them to come and find me to request the loo.

Surely this is just common sense.

EspressoDoubleShot · 14/07/2021 21:10

Well I’ve seen all sorts of environments and wc on home visits.
Skiddy,slippy,sticky and fetid. I’ve come to no harm, I don’t dwell on it
So a tradesworker using the wc. Rattling the porcelain really wouldn’t bother me. I’d expect hand washing mind

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 21:16

I used to wonder why tradesmen sometimes asked me for permission to use the toilet and looked worried about it. Thanks, Mumsnet.

I also used to wonder how anyone could get piss everywhere in a public female toilet. Thanks to Mumsnet, I now know there are legions of women out there who prefer to wave their bums in the air rather than sully the backs of their thighs with the horror of a shared toilet seat.

Weirdly, there is also an alarming number of people on here who don't wash their hands after a wee at home and have accused me of being an uptight, paranoid clean freak because I do.

Marvellous place, this. Very enlightening.

Yesitsbess · 14/07/2021 21:21

Gardener here, we much prefer it if we are offered use of a loo before a huge job (!) it saves us the embarrassment of having to ask. I've never pooped at a customers house but I don't like working at houses where they know we're on a 7 hour day and there is no mention of where we might have a wee.

HPLikecraft · 14/07/2021 21:26

Weirdly, there is also an alarming number of people on here who don't wash their hands after a wee at home

I was on a thread like that once. Was so bizarre. I was accused of "obsessing about germs" though I am, in fact, a bit of a skank if truth be known. But basic hand hygiene is not beyond even me.

TheKeatingFive · 14/07/2021 21:32

What kind of fucking arsehole denies a person doing a decent days work the use of their loo?

It shocks me how many posters on here lack basic decency and kindness to others.

moofolk · 14/07/2021 21:33

If you don't want anyone to use your toilet I think that's completely reasonable.

As long as you're fine with seeing to your own alarms, doing your own electrics and of course fixing your own toilet that you know has only ever had your poo in it.

hellogem · 14/07/2021 21:38

That's so rude to use your toilet without asking!
I hate workmen using my toilet, obviously I never deny them but I would rather they didn't.
There's been lots of time when I've had workers, they've only just walked through the door and have already asked to use the toilet

However I once had a electrician over who worked nearly 6 hours at my house, I topped him with plenty of drink/coffee, he never used the toilet and I did wonder doesn't he need a wee after drinking all that.

JeansShirtJeansJacket · 14/07/2021 21:41

@HPLikecraft

Weirdly, there is also an alarming number of people on here who don't wash their hands after a wee at home

I was on a thread like that once. Was so bizarre. I was accused of "obsessing about germs" though I am, in fact, a bit of a skank if truth be known. But basic hand hygiene is not beyond even me.

I don't if I get up for a wee in the night.
TheKeatingFive · 14/07/2021 21:42

I hate workmen using my toilet, obviously I never deny them but I would rather they didn't.

Get over yourself, what do you expect them to do?

DrSbaitso · 14/07/2021 21:43

I hate workmen using my toilet, obviously I never deny them but I would rather they didn't.

What would you rather they do? What exactly is the alternative?

And what difference does it make? Could you pick your poo apart from their poo in a lineup?

Why are they good enough to do your gardening or plastering but not good enough to use the toilet?

Lockdownbear · 14/07/2021 21:44

@Indigopearl

When I employ a tradesman I show them where the loo is before they start and offer them a drink. I then leave them to get on with the job. I wouldn't expect them to come and find me to request the loo.

Surely this is just common sense.

I would normally offer a drink when I'm having one. Truthfully in normal times I'd never think to point out the looBlush but I certainly wouldn't object to them using it.

But in times of covid I'd probably clean the downstairs loo before they stair and leave it for them. I'd leave some antibac wipes too.

Legaleaglenot · 14/07/2021 21:48

Tiny bit odd for someone on a short call to take a dump in your house, but maybe he had no other opportunity in his working day. Public loos are a rarity nowadays, after all.

He's a human being, he needed to go. When I've had builders in the house I've made a point of showing them where the loo is so they know they are welcome to use it.

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