To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

Just go for a larger house. If your children are working, they should contribute to the cost.

Bad planning all ways round..the 2 oldest "kids" are old enough to be married with kids of their own and having to share like toddlers nah..ridiculous.

@Terhou

Just go for a larger house. If your children are working, they should contribute to the cost.

Not on a holiday their mother arranges and makes them go on and share a room.

Perhaps this is why they're now refusing to share. They're sick of it.

I wouldn't offer any money for that shit show of a holiday at 23/26.

Oh look. A plopper

I don't understand why you expect your 23 year old son to share with a 15 year old boy instead of with his own brother who is much closer in age to him.

Why have the two cousins share in the past? The age difference is huge-so when your DS was 12 he shared with his four year old cousin, not his 15 year old brother? Fucking weird!

The boys share! Of course niece gets her own room.

Another one who thinks the teenage girl shouldn’t share. My sister’s boys (in their 20s) wouldn’t hesitate to share with each other and/or another male cousin though as the age difference between the boys is fairly large it makes more sense for the 15 year old male to have his own room too.

No if anything yours should share as they are same sex

IMO it makes more sense like this:
23 and 26 brothers should share
Teenager female own bedroom
Teenager male own bedroom

No way should the 17 year old female be expected to share with a male

That's way to old for mixed sex teenagers to share a room.

Girl should get her own room, boys can share imo

I always shared a room with my brother (a couple of years younger than me) when on family on holidays until I was around the age of 19. It didn’t bother me at all. Having said that, in the circumstances you describe it makes much more sense for your two boys to share as they are the same sex/close in age.

Your sons should share. They’re brothers, the same sex and closer in age.
You nephew and niece should get their own rooms.
Your sons are also old enough to pay for their own accommodation if they’re unhappy with sleeping arrangements.

Th eteens are more likely to be spending time away from the adults so it probably makes sense for them to have their own rooms to hang out in. The adult DC will probably be doing nothing other than sleeping in their room. So in a way that makes sense but it does mean that your family are only getting 2 rooms from 5 and the other family have 3.

My DSs are 21 and 20, they generally don't share anymore on holiday (or at home) they have occasionally shared as older teens but that's when we've done an extra cheap short getaway when the option is sharing or not going - the same way as elder DS has occasionally shared with us when visiting his brother at Uni etc when the option has been share or not go (due to unavailability etc) again that's been when effectively all we've done is sleep in a room and been out and about mainly.

Reverse Troll

Both your sons should share or not go with you. Am surprised at that age they still even want to go lol

Your niece should get her own room.
You children should share as they are siblings and both male.

I agree with everyone that the obvious solution here is for your sons to share.

The girl should get her own room and the boys toss coins or something.

If they were primary school age, fair enough, but not teens.

@ArchieStar

I call reverse actually, no one can think it reasonable that two teenage siblings of the opposite sex share a room.

Even if it was a reverse, someone must think its OK.

If you’re don’t want to share they are grown adults and can sort them self out alternative accommodation and pay for it.

Your sons should share, ideally. The only girl shouldn't be expected to share with a boy - that's fine when they're tiny but no good for teenagers. The younger boy could share with either of your sons, but it probably makes sense to let your sons share instead, as they're siblings and closer in age.

I'm a bit unclear as to why you didn't book accommodation with enough bedrooms tbh. Are your adult sons contributing to the cost of the holiday? If so, I can see why they would be miffed to have to share, but this should all have been agreed before booking.

I have DC of similar ages, and both sexes. Same-sex sharing is fine. Mixed-sex sharing isn't.

Sorry - should have said 'at those ages'. When they're small children, it makes no difference, obviously.

I agree with the majority here, the girl shouldn't have to share. I think your DSs get pick of the rooms, and your sisters DC get one each of the remaining.