To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

Similar post/thread couple of months back. Wish I could find it. Some people just like talking about different-sex teen siblings sharing a room, and every few months will concoct a story about it

Well this property is clearly too small for 6 adult/adult sized children. You are being ridiculous.

Obviously it makes more sense for the two young adult men to share than for an adult to share with a teenager, or two teenagers of the opposite sex to share. Quite astonished men of that age are still going on a family holiday to be honest. If they don't like it they could and should make their own arrangements.

I agree with the rest, you can’t expect opposite sex teenagers at that age to share a room. Not on at all

Two brothers close in age should share a room...give them their pick of a larger room. Or get accommodation with another room. I wouldn't expect a 17 yr old female to share with a 15 yr old, even if it is her brother, so that the older cousins, who are brothers, each get separate rooms. It wd be different if your DS's kids were 5 & 7...not 15 & 17.

You should have book suitable accommodation in the first place.

Your niece should not have to share with her male bro or cousin.

Options as I see them.

1 you and your sister share. (Leaving a room each for all the kids)

1. One kid sleeps on the sofa.

3 your Boys share (this seems the most sensible idea)

You should have booked a bigger place.

The girl gets a room herself. It is not acceptable for her to share with a teenage boy.

Your kids share. They are old enough to just get on with it. No excuses. Share or don’t come or pitch a tent in the garden, sleep there or sleep in the car.

Why can't the girl share with her mum and the 3 boys get a room each for once

@Wheelz46

You seriously expect a 17 year old female to share a room with her 15 year old brother. You are being extremely unreasonable if so.

Your 2 adult sons should share a room and not with their young male cousin.

Your sisters kids should get a room each!

That's the same age gap as is between DP and his sister.

What exactly do you think he was doing when they had to share a bedroom in their parents' 2 bedroom cottage until he left for university?

Moreover, when I was 12 and my brother was 22 (my other brothers were sharing a room as well, aged 24 and 27) what are you insinuating he was doing?

@agorina

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

I'd say your two ADULT children should share a room, it's no different to me sharing with my mum when we went away....or my friend when we went on a hen do....two adults sharing a room.

Then your niece and nephew should be separate because of their ages and sexes.

So yes, YABU

If your adult children don't want to share then surely they can book their own holiday

Also your point about dsis kids being close in age is rubbish. 2 years between them and 3 between yours.

I can understand why your adult sons would be pissed off sharing when 2 children albeit teens get their own room. And I think from a family POV, your sister’s family is getting a sweet deal if you pay 50/50.

The only alternative is the eldest gets to share with the 15 yo. I can well see why your 23 yo is unimpressed your 26 yo seems to have repeatedly had his own room when there is such a small gap in age.

This should have been discussed and agreed before a holiday was booked. Sounds like there are insufficient rooms given the number of teenagers & adults.

At first thought you meant they were 20 odd months old not years 😂

At that age it’s not really an argument for you and your sisters to have. Your sons are old enough to sort it out themselves or pay for their own holiday

It doesn't matter what they were or weren't doing. After puberty, teens need privacy - especially from the opposite sex.

But since it's obvious what you're getting at, the vast majority of childhood sex abuse is carried out by male relatives.

That was a reply to NeverDropYourMoonCup

Same sex share. Next time get an extra bedroom.

You’ve booked the wrong accommodation, you know the place and should have realised it’s no longer suitable. DN should not have to share with her brother, the boys can draw straws or book a nearby hotel room for one of them.

I’d never make mixed sexes share a room.

The teenagers should have their own rooms, the brothers in their 20s should share.

Sounds like a very poorly planned holiday.

I think out of the 3 rooms for your "DC" you and your Dsis get one bedroom for one of your DC and then you each supply one DC for the shared room that way you each get 1 1/2 of the rooms.

Def not fair if you pay 50/50 and one family gets 2 rooms and the other gets one.

No way should the 17 year old girl share with a boy either her brother or cousin, doesnt matter…

Girl to have her own room… The Males fight it out among themselves

Your sons should share, and you should pay less to reflect use of fewer rooms.

If your sons don't like it, they can organise alternative accommodation, or not go. They are adults.

Teenage girl sharing with her brother or male cousin should not even be considered.