To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

My advice @agorina - see if you can get a place with 4 bedrooms and not the three, then you have options.

Girl gets her own room - it's not fair at all to do otherwise, she needs her privacy now.

It actually makes more sense for your two sons to share as they are related and close in age

The two adult males should definitely share.... or book their own accommodation that allows them their own room.

I know OP is absent but why doesn't the OP and her sister share if prioritising her adult DS is so important or if this isn't a reverse.

I inferred from the opening post that the OP and her sister were both couples and the accommodation had 5 rooms, 2 for the parental couples and 3 to be shared between the offspring.

I made the same assumption about the 5 rooms but didn't want to assume they were 'partnered up'. It might help the OP consider things rather than just presume their niece can suck it up.

The girl should have her own room, surely everyone else can share for only a week.

Didnt you agree on the bedroom situation before booking the holiday?

I have male/fermale children with the same age gap (currently 17 & 19). We all shared a room when ds was 14 and dd was 16 but said that was the last time. A 17 year old girl should not be asked to share with a teenage brother.

@user1481840227

Not sure why one of your sons used to share with his cousin instead of your other son....you're saying at 21 your son shared with his 13 year old cousin instead of his 24 year old brother, that's just odd!!!

Yes, it’s all rather odd!

Reversers don't tend to disappear and trolls aren't usually so succint.

I suspect OP didn't get the answers they were looking for.

Yabu. Your 2 should share a room.

Whoever booked accommodation with insufficient bedrooms should share with sibling/child.

Encourage them to not make that mistake against.

Just here for the reverse reveal.

I would probably say she gets her own room as does the 15yr old boy (he is still a child) The oldest two men get to share, especially as they are brothers!

Your two sons should share a room.
The girl is too old to share with one of the boys.
The age gap between your nephew and your sons is bigger. I would think your sons should share.
I’d share with my dsis on holiday 🤷‍♀️ Don’t see why your sons can’t share if they want to come.

Yabu - why should your sisters kids share but your kids don't.
Just because he wants his own room doesn't mean he should get his own room

Once kids are past about 12 then if there is one child of a different gender they should get their own room and the other "children" can fight amongst themselves as to how they split themselves up.

The most logical is that the two 20 somethings share and the younger boy gets his own room but I would also consider routine/personality too.

Me and my siblings would share rooms if we had to but if it was a choice between sharing with my sister who is 2 years older than me or sharing with my cousin who is 7 years younger, I'd pick my cousin in a heartbeat because while we are much further apart in age we are both tidy, deep sleeping night owls whereas my sister is a messy, super light sleeper as well as being an early bird who cannot get dressed without making maximum noise. So for more than a night or two I'd much prefer to share with my cousin than my sister

Makes and females of teen years should not share a room no.

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@AmyFl

I wouldn't expect teenagers of different sexes to share a room.

⬆️This! Obviously! It's a no brainer.

I think different accommodation should have been booked to allow for them to all have their own rooms and the adults (the kids in their 20s) could have chipped in to make this financially viable.

Really though, the girl gets her own room and the boys figure it out between them.