To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

Of course your niece should except to get her own room..mix sex of that age is too old to share

Lads in their twenties bit old to be going away with mum and aunt.

I don't think this went ops way.

I don't know who has the right to have their own room in this situation. But it never seemed a big deal if I had to share a room for a few days on holiday with my brother when we were teens. We used to go hostelling/camping and sharing with my brother was never a problem or with other kids this age. Its not like it's the same bed. Can't see a problem here

I actually think sharing as adults is fine - I used to do villa/ ski chalet holidays in my 20's with friends and you'd almost always have to share with someone due to both cost and space - there just aren't that many 10 bed properties around. Even when I stay at my mum's I quite often share a twin with my sister if she's there too, and we're in our 40's.

That said, having been on many such holidays, someone does always get a short straw (bedrooms in sc properties are rarely equal) so it always needs a bit of levelling up financially or otherwise (e.g. person who takes that room never has to wash up). Therefore, if the older boys are contributing financially, then I can see they might be a bit peed off.

But, all that said, I concur with the majority- the older boys share. They are siblings and close enough in age.

Well I've got to page 5 and every single person says the same as far as I can see but I disagree. I'm not saying that OP's DSs sharing is necessarily the wrong answer, but I can equally see that the sister's DS and DD sharing would be OK. What sort of world do you lot live in where it's not appropriate for teenage opposite sex siblings to share a room on holiday? Yes, it's nice to have their own room but these things cost money. My two continue to share when on holiday and, having worried myself about whether that was OK, I did a straw poll of friends with same situation and all said the same. In fact many share a family room with their teenagers if either only away for a weekend or somewhere expensive like Disneyland whereas we've only ever done that for one night where it was the only option on a long journey. Sensible teenagers realise that another room is costly (I told mine they could have a separate room if they paid for it) and are sensible in terms of either getting changed in the bathroom or when the other one is out of the room.

And those commenting re why kids in their 20s would want to go on holiday with their families - why not? Certainly I did with my parents - it meant I got more holidays - those on my own or with friends paid for by me plus a holiday with my parents paid for by them. (I now return the favour and take a parent away with us.) As a parent, I wouldn't be hurt if they didn't want to go at that age but I'd hope that they still enjoyed spending time with us. We have had a weekend away with three other families ever since the oldest child in the group was a toddler, and we now have an age range for the "children" of 7-23 and the oldest ones say it's still one of the highlights of their year.

Thinking about it, it seems really creepy that people think a teenage girl can't share a room with a brother. What are people insinuating? That's way weirder

Yes, it's nice to have their own room but these things cost money

There is an extra room in this case though.

Thinking about it, it seems really creepy that people think a teenage girl can't share a room with a brother. What are people insinuating? That's way weirder

That she might want to have some privacy. To get changed in her room etc.

If it was our family, DSis, DN and me would be in one room and the three blokes in another. Holiday money should be spent on fun, not bedrooms. Mixed sex pairings are to be avoided if possible.

Your DS should be chipping in if they want their own room.

What?! Your kids should share! Similar ages and old enough to understand!

Your niece should have her own room!

Don't understand why most people seem to think every person needs their own room. I'd happily share with family of the same sex (sister or cousin) It's only a week.

But I also would happily do a family holiday as an adult which also seems a not very common opinion here.

Nope her children can share. Your dn will need to share with her mum

When did people get so precious about sharing a room for a week? Rooms cost money!

Can NOT share... I need to proof read

You shod jyst book more suitable accommodation.

I read the (m) in the OP at months, so got v confused.
Not reasonable to expect mixed gender teenagers to share.
Book somewhere with enough rooms next time.

Your two should share. Your two young adults aren’t likely to want to share with a teenager so it makes sense for them to share.

Hi OP,
If you and your sister are single you could share a twin room then all the kids can have their own.

Sorry OP but an only girl needs to have her own room. You really can't expect her to share with her brother.

@Volhhg

Thinking about it, it seems really creepy that people think a teenage girl can't share a room with a brother. What are people insinuating? That's way weirder

The last time I went on a family holiday, I had just turned 20 and my brother was 15. We opted to share a hotel room and, even more creepily, our mum thought that was odd. Seriously, what did she think would happen?? The alternative was to each share with one parent - no thanks!

We had a great laugh, smoking cheap Spanish fags on the balcony while he read my shitty Take a Break magazines

If the 23 and 26 year old children aren't willing to share would one of them can take a tent? My 21yr old son often does this. Obviously assuming it's not in the Masai mara or a polar ice cap.

Your boys should share but financially DSis should pay a bit more as her children will on this occasion get the benefit of 2 out of 3 bedrooms rather than on previous trips where both families have used 1.5 bedrooms for the DC.

If there were only 2 rooms I don't see a huge issue with niece & nephew sharing as long as they have separate beds but not when there is a bedroom available to mean that's not required, just preference for a different configuration. Probably should have thrashed all this out prior to booking - someone is likely to say they aren't going to go if they believed things would be one way and are now going to be expected to change.

Seems pretty obvious to have the two adult sons together and the others a room each.

I don't really see why it's impossible for a 17-year-old girl to share with her 15-year-old brother. Not as nice as having your own room, but it's not like they're strangers! They can dress/undress in the bathroom, and beyond that, it doesn't seem like much of an issue.

Whoever ends up having to share a room, I'd try to find some way to make it up to them, some special treat they'll enjoy, they get to choose the restaurant(s), etc.

YABU.

23 and 26 yr old brothers should share. Or, since they are 23 and 26, they should pay for their own accommodation if they want that level of privacy.