To think my sister’s children should share a bedroom?

[agorina]

Going on a week away in the UK with dsis’ family.

There are 4 ‘kids’, two of mine, and my sister’s two.

There are three bedrooms for between the four.

We used to do this holiday every year, but have not for the last two years.

My kids (!) are aged 23 (m) and 26 (m). Dsis kids are 15(m) and 17 (f).

Every other year, my youngest son, and his male cousin have shared a room. Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing. My eldest ds gets his own room, as does my niece. My niece has already assumed that she is getting her own room.

AIBU to think that my sister’s kids should share a room seeing as they are closer in age?

I think this is a reverse.

I also think that the 26yo can contribute towards his own room.

OP been back yet? 🤔

Your adult sons should share. Anything else is just weird.

My 2 have shared rooms on holiday several times, up to the ages of 19 and 17, the last time we all went away together. It was never questioned as it wasn't presented and an option.

Now that my ds is 23 and has moved out etc, he’s said he’s not keen on sharing

You should have booked somewhere with a room just for him then.

I don't understand why you think your niece and nephew should share because there are two years between them and not your two sons because there are three years between them.

That seems an arbitrary way of deciding.

I would expect the 23 and 26-year old to to contribute to the cost of the holiday. Can you not rent somewhere larger?

Whose paying?

Another one who thinks it's a reverse. Whoever made the booking had a screw loose. Wouldn't you look at how many bedrooms you needed beforehand?

My 2 20 (m) and 17 (f) happily share

I honestly can't believe that you are proposing something so selfish and so ridiculous OP.

Are you going with partners? If not could you sister share with her daughter?

Your sons should definitely share.

As the only girl, your niece should definitely get her own room.

Your nephew should share with your sons or go in a room on his own if there's enough.

This (if for real) is all kinds of odd. Not least that two fully grown men want to holiday with their mum and aunt! Are they paying a share? Why wasn't appropriate accommodation booked in the first place?

I don't see how anyone can demand a room to themselves apart from the teenage girl.

You need to rethink your holiday arrangements.

@Doidontimmm

My 2 20 (m) and 17 (f) happily share

And?

@Doidontimmm

My 2 20 (m) and 17 (f) happily share

Right. That's fine. But the OP's 15 year old niece is not happy to. So that's a different situation.

Your two share, or if they like they can pay for their own accommodation.

I would think its obvious that m-f teenage siblings shouldn't be sharing.
If your dc's have moved out and want their own spaces they should have contributed to making that possible.

I think sharing depends on context and budget e.g. it's fine to all share a tent or small cabin for a few days.

This (if for real) is all kinds of odd. Not least that two fully grown men want to holiday with their mum and aunt!

Right??

Blimey, your son is so entitled! I think your sons need to share, or not go. Or pay for extra rooms. Like other posters I think that the other siblings shouldn't share as they are opposite sex unless they are happy to do so.

I'm assuming it's a tedious feckin reversy percy.

@QuillBill I understand that but a lot of posters are saying male & female brother and sisters shouldn’t share as if there is something wrong, there is not anything wrong if they feel comfortable which I appreciate is not the case here. It’s just a little upsetting people think there is something wrong with it.

Hell NO should a 15 year old girl be expected to share with her 17 year old brother and vice versa.

If your adult “kids” are so bothered, they can pony up the extra money for a bigger place.