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Visitors with Covid symptoms

163 replies

BigPyjamas · 12/07/2021 19:35

We have friends visiting for a few days. One of their DTs has come down with a sudden and strong continuous new cough, she's got a sore throat and a sniffly nose but no temp (they haven't checked this but child seems ok to be fair).

They don't seem bothered and are laughing away 'definitely not Corona! Ha ha'

I'm silently horrified that they haven't packed up and gone, that they won't isolate or take a test. They don't believe in testing children, or isolating.

We're totally buggered if one of my kids gets it, from a logistics perspective with plans we have for next few weeks.

AIBU to be cross with their lack of concern? I don't want to make a fuss so am silently seething.

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Singlebutmarried · 12/07/2021 19:36

I’d be asking them to leave.

Your views on COVID don’t align with theirs.

Twickerhun · 12/07/2021 19:37

You need to tell them that they should get W test for the sake of your own family and go away now until they can show it’s negative. Be assertive. It’s probably too late if it is covid tho

mediumbrownmug · 12/07/2021 19:37

Why can you not be honest with your friends? If they don’t mind being rude, surely they won’t mind you being honest about your situation.

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BigPyjamas · 12/07/2021 19:39

@mediumbrownmug

Why can you not be honest with your friends? If they don’t mind being rude, surely they won’t mind you being honest about your situation.
I was, I explained that I had to work, that we couldn't 'not test', the financial and social implications etc. And got nothing back really beyond 'it won't be Covid' and 'we don't believe in testing' and worst 'it's too late now anyway, your kids will have it'. She's a GP, can't really argue medical points with her.

Gutted tbh.

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Wombat36 · 12/07/2021 19:39

I'd be noisily commentating about they need to get a test, leave or both.

Certainly wouldn't be in my house.

Wombat36 · 12/07/2021 19:40

Please leave.

LividLaVidaLoca · 12/07/2021 19:42

She’s a GP?!?!?!

Unless you mean grandparent here that’s really worrying.

UmamiMammy · 12/07/2021 19:42

You can't force them to test but why on earth are you allowing them to stay in your home.
I would have shown them the door straight away!

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 12/07/2021 19:44

Just ask them to leave

yellowdenimbeige · 12/07/2021 19:44

Just tell them to leave.

walkoflifewoohoo · 12/07/2021 19:44

Tell them they'll have to go

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BigPyjamas · 12/07/2021 19:49

I can't just ask them to leave, I mean logically I can but from a friendship perspective, realistically, I just can't.

The kids are all asleep now, apart from the one that's coughing of course.

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NerrSnerr · 12/07/2021 19:51

We're totally buggered if one of my kids gets it, from a logistics perspective with plans we have for next few weeks.

Tell them this and tell them to leave!!

StealthPolarBear · 12/07/2021 19:51

What on earth makes them think it won't be covid when it's circulating in the general population. They're right it might not be but given the symptoms there's a decent chance.
If you were arguing about ebola I'd say they had a point.

NerrSnerr · 12/07/2021 19:51

I mean logically I can but from a friendship perspective, realistically, I just can't

They're not very good friends then are they? They're not thinking of you and your family at all.

StealthPolarBear · 12/07/2021 19:52

@NerrSnerr

We're totally buggered if one of my kids gets it, from a logistics perspective with plans we have for next few weeks.

Tell them this and tell them to leave!!

If they don't change their plans at all they'll assume op and her family are the same.
Figgygal · 12/07/2021 19:53

One is a GP
Jesus wept

Kick em out

Heyyeahyouwiththesadface · 12/07/2021 19:54

@BigPyjamas

I can't just ask them to leave, I mean logically I can but from a friendship perspective, realistically, I just can't.

The kids are all asleep now, apart from the one that's coughing of course.

Will the friendship be over if they give you all Covid? They don’t sound good friends if they aren’t prepared to leave & test.
butterkistpop · 12/07/2021 19:55

She's the one that's ruining the friendship with her utter lack of consideration for your family's health.

Pigeonorcoot · 12/07/2021 19:56

She's a GP - Jesus Shock Sad

Yeah, I'd kick them out tbh (and consider reporting her to her practice if she'll be going in to work and spreading it about there)

butterkistpop · 12/07/2021 19:58

Please tell them tonight that they have to leave in the morning. If it would help you do it, say that your DH is clinically vulnerable (Diabetes, high blood pressure, whatever).

takealettermsjones · 12/07/2021 19:59

Sorry for the bluntness, but you're putting decorum and this so called 'friend' above your own kids. I have covid right now, and it's horrible. I will do everything I can to keep it away from my child. I'm not meaning to be rude but please think this through again.

EKGEMS · 12/07/2021 19:59

Well by all means what relationship is more important to you-you and these so called friends or your children depending on you to protect them? Sure it possibly could be a non Covid illness but do you want her germs? By now you've all been exposed so what the hell! ☹️

UmamiMammy · 12/07/2021 20:02

@BigPyjamas

I can't just ask them to leave, I mean logically I can but from a friendship perspective, realistically, I just can't.

The kids are all asleep now, apart from the one that's coughing of course.

Of course you can!!!

They are showing you no respect and possibly putting your summer plans at risk, not to mention your health!

Datsandcogs · 12/07/2021 20:02

A polite discussion which ends with you’ll have to agree to disagree and consequently they need to leave now.