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Visitors with Covid symptoms

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BigPyjamas · 12/07/2021 19:35

We have friends visiting for a few days. One of their DTs has come down with a sudden and strong continuous new cough, she's got a sore throat and a sniffly nose but no temp (they haven't checked this but child seems ok to be fair).

They don't seem bothered and are laughing away 'definitely not Corona! Ha ha'

I'm silently horrified that they haven't packed up and gone, that they won't isolate or take a test. They don't believe in testing children, or isolating.

We're totally buggered if one of my kids gets it, from a logistics perspective with plans we have for next few weeks.

AIBU to be cross with their lack of concern? I don't want to make a fuss so am silently seething.

OP posts:
butterkistpop · 12/07/2021 23:53

If she's a GP, she knows it's probably CoVid, but doesn't want to ruin her holiday. The selfishness beggars belief.

Comefromaway · 12/07/2021 23:58

If the child has symptoms and they are currently living in your house then you all have to isolate until a pcr test is done.

Comefromaway · 13/07/2021 00:00

@Suzi888

If you lose income as a result of having to isolate, you can claim a self isolation grant/ payment.
Only if you are in receipt of certain benefits/on a low income.
Mixmeup · 13/07/2021 00:08

@Comefromaway

If the child has symptoms and they are currently living in your house then you all have to isolate until a pcr test is done.
This. I'm afraid you are effectively currently living with someone who has Covid symptoms so you now need to isolate for 10 days or until a negative test. Perhaps point out that if they don't get a test, they're forcing you to isolate instead? Selfish asshats.
Mixmeup · 13/07/2021 00:09

They were meant to leave tomorrow morning and now staying until dinner time

I get why you can't sling them out, I really do. But this is ridiculous. Come on, OP. You NEED to say:

I know we said you'd stay a bit longer but given that 'CovidKid' has a cough I think it's best if we stick to plan A. After all, even if it's just a cough, it'll still mean we have to isolate and test if we get it!

misssunshine4040 · 13/07/2021 00:16

A GP!? Oh that's terrible it really is.
Are you all vaccinated?

2bazookas · 13/07/2021 00:17

"I'm not feeling very well.so I'm going to ask you to leave."

SingingInTheShithouse · 13/07/2021 00:19

They either take a test or leave, simple. Your house, your rules, they don't get to decide when they are putting on you.

They are not friends either, they are selfish gits, especially given she is a GP, I'd be showing them the door, just unbelievably rude & entitled of them.

SingingInTheShithouse · 13/07/2021 00:24

I spoke to my DH, he seems to think I'm over reacting

& your DH is an arseHmm.

I'd be telling him they either test or go, & if he's not happy about that, he can follow them out of the door.

Suzi888 · 13/07/2021 00:27

@Comefromaway you are incorrect. You don’t have to be in receipt of any benefits or on a low income. Confused There is no savings threshold either.
So you could earn £5,000 a week AND have £100k in the bank. But whilst isolating you would have to earn under £500 (or less) for that period.

I work for an L.A and we actually assess some of these payments.

Comefromaway · 13/07/2021 00:31

None of the people who work for the company I work for have been eligible even when on SSP

www.gov.uk/test-and-trace-support-payment

ThinWomansBrain · 13/07/2021 00:35

she's a GP?
WTF

please don't tell us she thinks covid is a conspiracy theory and that she believes vaccines are a ploy to implant microchipsHmm

ilovesooty · 13/07/2021 00:36

Not only would I tell them to leave I'd never have contact with them again. Your husband is as irresponsible as they are.

Comefromaway · 13/07/2021 00:36

[quote Suzi888]@Comefromaway you are incorrect. You don’t have to be in receipt of any benefits or on a low income. Confused There is no savings threshold either.
So you could earn £5,000 a week AND have £100k in the bank. But whilst isolating you would have to earn under £500 (or less) for that period.

I work for an L.A and we actually assess some of these payments.[/quote]
It must differ for each LA. Mine says this

“ Discretionary Test and Trace Support Payment
If you meet all the eligibility criteria for the Test and Trace Support Payment or Test and Trace Support Payment for Parents/Guardians, but do not receive any of the qualifying benefits listed earlier on this page you may still be eligible for a £500 discretionary payment if:
your earnings are less than £329.67 (after Tax and National Insurance are deducted) and
you have less than £6000 in capital/savings

This criteria replaces our previous scheme from 1 February 2021.”

Suzi888 · 13/07/2021 00:38

[quote Comefromaway]None of the people who work for the company I work for have been eligible even when on SSP

www.gov.uk/test-and-trace-support-payment[/quote]
For what reason?
I’m in Wales and we’ve paid all ours, unless they haven’t been asked to officially isolate by Track, Trace and Protect.
I have heard PHE ttp is a shambles.

Suzi888 · 13/07/2021 00:41

The policy we follow comes from WAG and the guidance has changed many times. Ours was much stricter at the start of Covid. The policy changed again a few weeks ago and is due to change again in the forthcoming weeks and months.

Comefromaway · 13/07/2021 00:43

Ah, it’s a completely different scheme in Wales. It’s called Self Isolation Support Scheme and the discretionary payment is fir those earning under £500

In England it’s called the Test & Trace Support Payment and according to my local council the threshold for the discretionary payment is much lower.

NoMoreCovidPlease · 13/07/2021 00:44

I'd leave. Book myself into a hotel, let DH deal with the fallout, time off work, sick kids etc and use that time to reconsider my marriage to an idiot with no backbone.

MoonlightWanderer · 13/07/2021 00:46

I agree that surely it’s too late now anyway. I think you were mad to let them stay in the first place. Does the child have a temperature?

MoonlightWanderer · 13/07/2021 00:50

Sorry, I see you say no temperature. It may just be a cough. Keep pushing for a test. If they are sure it isn’t COVID, then what harm will it do?

QueenBee52 · 13/07/2021 00:55

AIBU to be cross with their lack of concern? I don't want to make a fuss so am silently seething.

YANBU

However... they seem confident in knowing you will say nothing and allow them carte blanche in your home

I'd have ejected the fuckers out early signs of symptoms.. GP or not GP.. 😡

Chloemol · 13/07/2021 01:08

Yes you can ask them to leave. As a GP she should understand your concern, or actually she is not a friend

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/07/2021 01:17

@QueenBee52

AIBU to be cross with their lack of concern? I don't want to make a fuss so am silently seething.

YANBU

However... they seem confident in knowing you will say nothing and allow them carte blanche in your home

I'd have ejected the fuckers out early signs of symptoms.. GP or not GP.. 😡

Good point, that they're confident that all you'll do is silently seethe.

Also - "I spoke to my DH, he seems to think I'm over reacting and that if the kids catch the cough then we'll 'deal with it' which basically means I will deal with it and he'll carry on as normal."
Is this part of the source of their confidence - their friend, your husband also take no responsibility on his own shoulders?

"They were meant to leave tomorrow morning and now staying until dinner time Confused"
Why the change of plans? I'd be asking them to leave as per original plan. I'd also be ripping my husband a new one and telling him that no, 'we' will not deal with it sunshine, HE will, and 'we' are not hosting these inconsiderate fuckwitted friends of his again.

Crowtooyo · 13/07/2021 01:19

First of all, you all need to isolate now for either 10 days from when symptoms started or until the child has a negative test result.

Second of all, saying that this would 'beggar' up your plans, surely you know at a time like this, there's always going to be a chance that covid will bugger up plans? If you didn't want the risk then you shouldn't be mixing with people.

Mrbob · 13/07/2021 03:11

I would be telling their practice manager tbh.